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[racegrrl714]

Ok PLEASE tell me that four is worse than three. I've heard of the terrible two's and the terroristic three's but damn, ever since my kid hit four, I've been about to pull my hair out. She was actually pretty great at two, and generally manageable at three. Now, she WILL NOT listen, like, whatsoever. You can tell her to do something and she will just look at you and stick out her tongue. You can tell her not to do something and two seconds later she is doing it again. We've tried time out, we've tried taking things like TV away. I'm 99% sure this is some kind of parenting failure--- something we are doing wrong, but I just can't figure out what and it's killing me. She has also resorted back to wanting to sleep in our bed. She's what I call a part-time only child... we only get my SD every other weekend... and I know she gets lonely.

I was seriously grateful for the "grooming" thread last night because like I said at the end of that thread, I really needed those laughs. </3

[eponinepontmercy]

Stop it. The idea that four was better has been the only think keeping me from selling this child on craigslist.

[lauralala]

The 4-4.5 was really rough for us. DS had a complete regression - stopped listening, started acting out at school - even got kicked out of preschool! Then it was like he just calmed down over the course of a few weeks. The past 6 months (he just turned 5) have really not been bad. He had a couple of rough weeks when we moved and he had to change schools again, but he was fine at home during that time. Hang in there!

[anonymous]

4 was worse than 3 for us and 2 was pretty much a breeze. Tantrums with DD are few and far between but man, at 4 they are doozies. And the attitude? forget it-she can act just as snotty as I was with my mom but when I was 16. Again, these are more unusual for us but when she hits one of these phases she is like a different kid.

The psychiatrist I saw for the ppa/ppd with my son told me that she calls them the "terrible twos and threes" and "fucking fours and fives." I've heard that 6 tends to be much better.

Now, DS, who is almost 23 months, I think he is starting the terrible twos and he is way more terrible than DD was.

[eponinepontmercy]

What I'm starting to understand is that she's going to be a pain until she moves out. Then, she'll still be a pain, but at least I won't have to live with her.

This is why we got a dog instead of having another kid. He doesn't throw a tantrum over not being allowed to eat a mango in the car.

[2curlydogs]

My issue right now with my 4 year old is that he forgets.everything. Despite repeated reminders. Like this morning, I was like "Where is your hat? Where are your mittens?" "In my backpack." And then we get to school and - lo. No hat, no mittens. I mean, shame on me for not checking, but he actually answered without being prompted or led, so....

He also has ratcheted up the sass: "Oh-KAY. I'm COMING." and all that nonsense. Not a day goes by without me telling him to check his attitude.


Otherwise he's a great kid. But those two things may combine to kill me one day.

[laurenpetro]

dude:

Terrible Twos
Trying Threes
Fucking Fours

[jeaniebueller]

I don't know what it is, but my kid tends to go a little nuts in the weeks and months surrounding his birthday every year and it drives me crazy. I remember when he turned 5, he was awful for awhile. He just turned 6 and he is also going through an awful phase too. Kids, man.

[racegrrl714]

Dec 3, 2014 10:31:44 GMT -5 anonymous said:

4 was worse than 3 for us and 2 was pretty much a breeze. Tantrums with DD are few and far between but man, at 4 they are doozies. And the attitude? forget it-she can act just as snotty as I was with my mom but when I was 16. Again, these are more unusual for us but when she hits one of these phases she is like a different kid.

The psychiatrist I saw for the ppa/ppd with my son told me that she calls them the "terrible twos and threes" and "fucking fours and fives." I've heard that 6 tends to be much better.

Now, DS, who is almost 23 months, I think he is starting the terrible twos and he is way more terrible than DD was.

OMG I know, right???

She is a junk food-aholic. We've really been trying to be educational about food choices and how they affect our bodies because both H and I are big people who have made too many wrong food choices in our lives. But just like her parents, chips and candy are her favorites. I have tried telling her those things are great in small amounts every once in a while but if you eat them too often it is bad for you, you will get too much fat on your body and it won't be easy to do the things you really want to do like dance class, etc. We've been having these conversations for a while now. I try to stay as body-positive as humanly possible... but I also know that we've both been obese since we were her age so, well, you know.

Skip to a few days ago, I went to bed in a t-shirt and a pair of "granny panties" (LOL). She was in and out of bed fifty times that night, and one time I was taking her back to bed, my belly was hanging out from tossing and turning and getting in and out of bed. She looked at me and said with the most hateful little expression "Mommy, I guess you've been eating too much candy." Cut. To. The. Core. (wilted)

[pescalita]

I had to swap my kids' shirts because J's was larger than A's. They're both in 2T today.

With the tree up, we don't have fun jail. Between me getting ready in the morning and Carl starting dinner before I'm home, someone may not make it to New Year's. I'm not sure how you people do it without a kid corral.

[racegrrl714]

Dec 3, 2014 10:33:58 GMT -5 eponinepontmercy said:

What I'm starting to understand is that she's going to be a pain until she moves out. Then, she'll still be a pain, but at least I won't have to live with her.

This is why we got a dog instead of having another kid. He doesn't throw a tantrum over not being allowed to eat a mango in the car.

No, I am most certainly one and done, for physical and mental health reasons. LOL I told DH my theory about her being lonely when her sister isn't here and we both looked at each other for a second and said, "nope." Not unlike the "nope octopus" meme.

[racegrrl714]

Dec 3, 2014 10:40:25 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

I don't know what it is, but my kid tends to go a little nuts in the weeks and months surrounding his birthday every year and it drives me crazy. I remember when he turned 5, he was awful for awhile. He just turned 6 and he is also going through an awful phase too. Kids, man.

I'm beginning to believe the "tiny terrorist" theory. LOL

[2curlydogs]

Honestly, I know the time of year is also ratcheting B's behavior up. He's so spun up with his birthday (tomorrow), his class's holiday performance (friday), St. Nick's (Saturday), holiday party next week, All School Assembly the week after, and then Christmas the week after that that he's bouncing off the walls.

So I try and maintain my patience. But sweet holy jeebus it's not easy.

Especially since S STILL will not sleep. I have no fucking clue what to do about that kid.

[jeaniebueller]

Dec 3, 2014 10:51:00 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

My kids are extremely headstrong and for me, 6 was the discernible turning point. 4 and 5 were each a little better. Slowly, slowly. But six is pretty awesome. K is 3.5 and I have to keep reminding myself, this is the worst he's ever going to be.

Everyone keeps saying this. Not in my house (wilted)

[anonymous]

Dec 3, 2014 10:47:30 GMT -5 racegrrl714 said:

Dec 3, 2014 10:31:44 GMT -5 anonymous said:

4 was worse than 3 for us and 2 was pretty much a breeze. Tantrums with DD are few and far between but man, at 4 they are doozies. And the attitude? forget it-she can act just as snotty as I was with my mom but when I was 16. Again, these are more unusual for us but when she hits one of these phases she is like a different kid.

The psychiatrist I saw for the ppa/ppd with my son told me that she calls them the "terrible twos and threes" and "fucking fours and fives." I've heard that 6 tends to be much better.

Now, DS, who is almost 23 months, I think he is starting the terrible twos and he is way more terrible than DD was.

OMG I know, right???

She is a junk food-aholic. We've really been trying to be educational about food choices and how they affect our bodies because both H and I are big people who have made too many wrong food choices in our lives. But just like her parents, chips and candy are her favorites. I have tried telling her those things are great in small amounts every once in a while but if you eat them too often it is bad for you, you will get too much fat on your body and it won't be easy to do the things you really want to do like dance class, etc. We've been having these conversations for a while now. I try to stay as body-positive as humanly possible... but I also know that we've both been obese since we were her age so, well, you know.

Skip to a few days ago, I went to bed in a t-shirt and a pair of "granny panties" (LOL). She was in and out of bed fifty times that night, and one time I was taking her back to bed, my belly was hanging out from tossing and turning and getting in and out of bed. She looked at me and said with the most hateful little expression "Mommy, I guess you've been eating too much candy." Cut. To. The. Core. (wilted)

Oh I'm so sorry she said that to you and with the expression (which was probably worse than the words).  Lots of hugs and remember it's okay to think to yourself, "bitch" or some other less than stellar thing.

[ttt]

Five is so much better and six is even better. Hang in there.

[MrsAxilla]

My stubborn baby refuses to say Momma. Her first word was dog, followed by Dah-de. I know she's not *supposed* to have two word sentences until she's closer to 2, but I swear, she quite clearly says "Hi, Dah-de!" Yesterday she added car and eat to her vocabulary, but STILL WON'T SAY MOMMA!!  

[laurenpetro]

y'all, my baby nephew is a teenager.

[meshaliuknits]

Dec 3, 2014 11:09:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

My stubborn baby refuses to say Momma. Her first word was dog, followed by Dah-de. I know she's not *supposed* to have two word sentences until she's closer to 2, but I swear, she quite clearly says "Hi, Dah-de!" Yesterday she added car and eat to her vocabulary, but STILL WON'T SAY MOMMA!!  

Try to enjoy it while it lasts. Soon enough it will be "MAMAMAMAMMAMAMAMMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!!!!!"  I'm at the point where I hear phantom cries for mama.



Can someone explain to me why both of my children MUST sit on me at exactly the same time, wiggling and pushing and pulling hair and crying, but this never happens to their father?

[2curlydogs]

Dec 3, 2014 11:11:31 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

y'all, my baby nephew is a teenager.

:drink:

The oldest nephew, whose first steps I witnessed, gets married in June. I am in FIERCE denial about that.

[wawa]

Dec 3, 2014 11:17:45 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:09:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

My stubborn baby refuses to say Momma. Her first word was dog, followed by Dah-de. I know she's not *supposed* to have two word sentences until she's closer to 2, but I swear, she quite clearly says "Hi, Dah-de!" Yesterday she added car and eat to her vocabulary, but STILL WON'T SAY MOMMA!!  

Try to enjoy it while it lasts. Soon enough it will be "MAMAMAMAMMAMAMAMMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!!!!!"  I'm at the point where I hear phantom cries for mama.



Can someone explain to me why both of my children MUST sit on me at exactly the same time, wiggling and pushing and pulling hair and crying, but this never happens to their father?

I take great joy in the rare times that Shorti wakes up yelling "Dadddy!  Daddy!  Daddy!" instead of mamammamamamamamamamama! 
Also lately she's all about him in the evenings because she wants to play the various ride/jump/bounce/climb on daddy games. 

YAY!!!

[anonymous]

Dec 3, 2014 11:17:45 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:09:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

My stubborn baby refuses to say Momma. Her first word was dog, followed by Dah-de. I know she's not *supposed* to have two word sentences until she's closer to 2, but I swear, she quite clearly says "Hi, Dah-de!" Yesterday she added car and eat to her vocabulary, but STILL WON'T SAY MOMMA!!  

Try to enjoy it while it lasts. Soon enough it will be "MAMAMAMAMMAMAMAMMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!!!!!"  I'm at the point where I hear phantom cries for mama.



Can someone explain to me why both of my children MUST sit on me at exactly the same time, wiggling and pushing and pulling hair and crying, but this never happens to their father?

yup.  over the weekend big sis was on my lap and little bro came over and pushed her off while saying "my mama."  that was fun. 

[wawa]

Dec 3, 2014 11:26:21 GMT -5 anonymous said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:17:45 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Try to enjoy it while it lasts. Soon enough it will be "MAMAMAMAMMAMAMAMMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!!!!!"  I'm at the point where I hear phantom cries for mama.



Can someone explain to me why both of my children MUST sit on me at exactly the same time, wiggling and pushing and pulling hair and crying, but this never happens to their father?

yup.  over the weekend big sis was on my lap and little bro came over and pushed her off while saying "my mama."  that was fun. 

Oh...yeah, shorti does that, except with MH.  He's not allowed to hug me or snuggle me as far as she's concerned.  Neither are any other children - cousins, friends kids, etc.  MY MAMA.

I actually am a little worried about this with planning on #2.  How do you convince your kid that they have to share you?

[mominatrix]

Dec 3, 2014 11:17:45 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:09:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

My stubborn baby refuses to say Momma. Her first word was dog, followed by Dah-de. I know she's not *supposed* to have two word sentences until she's closer to 2, but I swear, she quite clearly says "Hi, Dah-de!" Yesterday she added car and eat to her vocabulary, but STILL WON'T SAY MOMMA!!  

Try to enjoy it while it lasts. Soon enough it will be "MAMAMAMAMMAMAMAMMAMAMAMAMAMA!!!!!!!!"  I'm at the point where I hear phantom cries for mama.



Can someone explain to me why both of my children MUST sit on me at exactly the same time, wiggling and pushing and pulling hair and crying, but this never happens to their father?

What makes the Phantom cries worse... We have a dog named Molly. So whenever they call "MOLLY" I hear "MOMMY".

That's what I get for letting H mane the dog.


Edit : NAME the dog. He didn't turn her into a fucking lion. H named the dog.

[mominatrix]

Dec 3, 2014 11:28:19 GMT -5 wawa said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:26:21 GMT -5 anonymous said:

yup.  over the weekend big sis was on my lap and little bro came over and pushed her off while saying "my mama."  that was fun. 

Oh...yeah, shorti does that, except with MH.  He's not allowed to hug me or snuggle me as far as she's concerned.  Neither are any other children - cousins, friends kids, etc.  MY MAMA.

I actually am a little worried about this with planning on #2.  How do you convince your kid that they have to share you?

We don't.
They have "my mommy"..."no, MY mommy" fights all the time. Whatever. I used to step in and try to be gentle and reassuring. Now, I just say "everybody's mommy" and walk.

Cranky today. Shoulder still fucking hurts. Don't listen to me.

[anonymous]

Dec 3, 2014 11:28:19 GMT -5 wawa said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:26:21 GMT -5 anonymous said:

yup.  over the weekend big sis was on my lap and little bro came over and pushed her off while saying "my mama."  that was fun. 

Oh...yeah, shorti does that, except with MH.  He's not allowed to hug me or snuggle me as far as she's concerned.  Neither are any other children - cousins, friends kids, etc.  MY MAMA.

I actually am a little worried about this with planning on #2.  How do you convince your kid that they have to share you?

yes both kids are also like this when DH and I hug or kiss.

all i can say is thank goodness for the big sister fairy-she got DD in check when DS was bored.

[MrsAxilla]

Dec 3, 2014 11:28:19 GMT -5 wawa said:

Dec 3, 2014 11:26:21 GMT -5 anonymous said:

yup.  over the weekend big sis was on my lap and little bro came over and pushed her off while saying "my mama."  that was fun. 

Oh...yeah, shorti does that, except with MH.  He's not allowed to hug me or snuggle me as far as she's concerned.  Neither are any other children - cousins, friends kids, etc.  MY MAMA.

I actually am a little worried about this with planning on #2.  How do you convince your kid that they have to share you?

You wait until they are six and have developed some reason - lol.

[soxin2]

I have a 4.5yo, a 2.25yo and a 2mo.

They gang up on me a lot.

[StrawberryBlondie]

Is there a sleep regression at 8ish months?

This girl will not sleep past 6 for the life of her lately. But then complains she's tired within an hour of waking up.

[heyjude]

Dec 3, 2014 10:40:25 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

I don't know what it is, but my kid tends to go a little nuts in the weeks and months surrounding his birthday every year and it drives me crazy.

I think you may be on to something with this theory.