The Problem With Frats Isn't Just Rape; It's Power

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From Time dot com:

At the university I called home my freshman year, fraternity row was a tree-lined street full of Southern style mansions, against a backdrop of the poor urban ghetto that surrounded the school. Off-campus frat parties weren’t quite how I pictured spending my weekends at a new school – I wasn’t actually part of the Greek system – but it became clear quickly that they were the center of the social structure. They controlled the alcohol on campus, and thus, the social life. So there I was, week after week, joining the throngs of half-naked women trekking to fraternity row.


We learned the rules to frat life quickly, or at least we thought we did. Never let your drink out of your sight. Don’t go upstairs – where the bedrooms were housed – without a girlfriend who could check in on you later. If one of us was denied entry to a party because we weren’t deemed “hot” enough – houses often ranked women on a scale of 1 to 10, with only sixes and up granted entry to a party – we stuck together. Maybe we went to the foam party next door.


In two years at the University of Southern California, I heard plenty of stories of women being drugged at frat parties. At least one woman I knew was date raped, though she didn’t report it. But most of us basically shrugged our shoulders: This was just how it worked… right?



If the recent headlines are any indication, it certainly appears so. Among them: women blacked out and hospitalized after a frat party at the University of Wisconsin, only to discover red or black X’s marked on their hands. An email guide to getting girls in bed called “Luring your rapebait.” A banner displayed at a Texas Tech party reading “No Means Yes, Yes Means Anal” – which happened to be the same slogan chanted by frat brothers at Yale, later part of became part of a civil rights complaint against the university.



And now, the story of Jackie, who alleged in a Rolling Stone article — swiftly becoming the subject of journalistic debate over whether the author was negligent in not reaching out to the alleged rapists — that she was gang raped by seven members of the Phi Kappa Psi house at the University of Virginia, and discouraged from pressing charges to protect the university’s reputation.



The alleged rape, it turned out, took place at the same house where another rape had occurred some thirty years prior, ultimately landing the perpetrator in jail.



“I’m sick about this,” says Caitlin Flanagan, a writer and UVA alumna who spent a year documenting the culture of fraternity life for a recent cover story in the Atlantic. “It’s been 30 years of education programs by the frats, initiatives to change culture, management policies, and we’re still here.”



Which begs the question: Why isn’t every campus in America dissolving its fraternity program — or at least instituting major, serious reform?



Not every fraternity member is a rapist (nor is every fraternity misogynist). But fraternity members are three times more likely to rape, according to a 2007 study, which notes that fraternity culture reinforces “within-group attitudes” that perpetuate sexual coercion. Taken together, frats and other traditionally male-dominated social clubs (ahem: the Princeton eating club) crystalize the elements of our culture that reinforce inequality, both gender and otherwise.



For starters, they are insulated from outside perspective. It wasn’t until the late 1960s that Greek organizations eradicated whites-only membership clauses; as a recent controversy at the University of Alabama revealed, only one black student had been permitted into that Greek system since 1964. Throughout the country, the fraternities grew into “caste system based on socioeconomic status as perceived by students,” John Chandler, the former president of Middlebury, which has banned frats on campus, recently told Newsweek.



And when it comes to campus social life, they exert huge social control: providing the alcohol, hosting the parties, policing who may enter–based on whatever criteria they choose. Because sororities are prohibited from serving alcohol, they can’t host parties or make the rules; they also have decorum rules for how to maintain one’s civility while drunk. So night after night, women line up, in tube tops and high heels, vying for entrance. Even their clothes are a signifier of where the power lies. “Those with less power almost invariably dress up for those who have more,” Michael Kimmel, a sociologist at Stony Brook University, wrote in a recent column for TIME. “So, by day, in class, women and men dress pretty much the same … At parties, though, the guys will still be dressed that way, while the women will be sporting party dresses, high heels and make up.”



And when frat boys grow up? They are the prototype for the boys club of the business world, where brothers land Wall Street jobs via the “fraternity pipeline,” as a recent Bloomberg Businessweek piece put it — a place where secret handshakes mean special treatment in an already male-dominated field. Fraternities have graduated plenty of brilliant Silicon Valley founders: the creators of Facebook, Instagram, among others. They’ve also brought us Justin Mateen, the founder of Tinder, who stepped down amid a sexual harassment lawsuit, and Evan Spiegel, the Snapchat CEO, whose recently apologized for e-mails sent while in the Stanford frat where Snapchat was founded, which discussed convincing sorority women to perform sex acts and drunkenly peeing on a woman in bed.



If we lived in a gender-equal world, fraternities might work. But in an age where 1 in five college women are raped on campus, where dozens of universities are under federal investigations for their handling of it, and where the business world remains dominated by men, doesn’t the continued existence of fraternities normalize a kind of white, male-dominated culture that already pervades our society? There is something insidious about a group of men who deny women entry, control the No. 1 asset on campus – alcohol – and make the rules in isolated groups. “[Colleges] should be cultivating the kind of sensibility that makes you a better citizen of a diverse and distressingly fractious society,”Frank Bruni wrote it in a New York Times column this week. “How is that served by retreating into an exclusionary clique of people just like you?”



The argument for Greek life – at least for the mainstream, largely white frats – goes something like this: It’s about fostering camaraderie. (According to a 2014 Gallup Poll, fraternity and sorority members have stronger relationships with friends and family than other college graduates.) It’s about community: As the Washington Post reported, chapters at UVA reportedly raised $400,000 for charity and logged 56,000 hours of community service during the past academic year. It’s part of a student’s free right to congregate. And also about training future leaders. According to Gallup, fraternity and sorority members will end up better off financially, and more likely to start businesses than other college graduates.



But the real benefit – at least the unspoken one – may be about money. Frats breed generous donors: as Flanagan pointed out in her Atlantic piece, at least one study has confirmed fraternity brothers tend to be generous to their alma maters.



All of which is part of the problem. Who wants to crack down on frats if it’s going to profoundly disturb campus life?



UVA, for its part, has suspended the frat in question until the new year, what the Inter-Fraternity Council described as a helpful opportunity for UVA’s Greek system to “take a breath.” The university’s president has said that the school “is too good a place to allow this evil to reside.” But critics saw the punishment as a slap on the wrist: a suspension, when most students are out of town for the holidays?



There are other options on the table: The school is reportedly considering proposals to crack down on underage drinking and even a ban on alcohol. Other universities have explored making fraternities co-ed. And there’s some evidence that fraternity brothers who participate in a rape prevention program at the start of the academic year are less likely to commit a sexually coercive act than a control group of men who also joined fraternities.



Yet all the while, the parade of ugly news continues. A group of frat brothers at San Diego State University interrupted a “Take Back the Night” march last week by screaming obscenities, throwing eggs and waving dildos at marchers. The next night, a woman reported she was sexually assaulted at a party near the school’s campus; she was the seventh person to come forward this semester. And on Monday, Wesleyan announced that its Psi Upsilon fraternity would be banned from hosting social events until the end of 2015, also because of rape accusations.



Fraternities have created something that’s fairly unique in the modern world: a place where young men spend three or four years living with other men whom they have vetted as like them and able to “fit in.” What do you expect to happen at a club where women are viewed as outsiders, or commodities, or worse, as prey, and where men make the rules? It should be no surprise they end up recreating the boys club — and one that isn’t all so great for the boys, either.

[shortstax]

Dumb question from a non-greek, why can fraternities supply alcohol at parties and sororities cannot? Aren't they governed by the same council at each school? Or am I making that up?

This part definitely stood out to me:

“Those with less power almost invariably dress up for those who have more,” Michael Kimmel, a sociologist at Stony Brook University, wrote in a recent column for TIME. “So, by day, in class, women and men dress pretty much the same … At parties, though, the guys will still be dressed that way, while the women will be sporting party dresses, high heels and make up.”



Back when I was in school, everyone wore jeans to the bars. In fact, the "uniform" for girls was jeans and a lowcut top.  Now, it's so weird. Guys are still in tshirts and jeans, while girls are in bodycon dresses.  I never thought of it from a power perspective, but I see it now.

[rupertpenny]

shortstax they are not governed by the same rules. Sororities are governed by the National Panhellenic Council and fraternities by the Inter-Fraternal Council. Those are both nation wide. At individual schools there is also usually an office of Greek Affairs, but they are not the ones setting the alcohol rules, that is usually the national chapters of the individual organizations.

Anyway, I went to an SEC school and was involved with Greek life, as was my H. I'm the first to admit that there is a lot of fucked up stuff going on in Greek life. I am ambivalent about it at best. But I'm not ready to call for the complete banning of fraternities. I think this is partially because I never experienced anything nearly as bad as what articles like this describe, even though I think SEC Greek life is probably the epitome of all of the terrible stereotypes (I don't want to discount these stories either though, I am obviously conflicted). I'm sure this is also because I'd like to believe my H and his friends are not terrible people.

I also just don't think that banning fraternities, and possibly sororities, from campus is really going to solve the issue. I mean, good old boys aren't going to stop hanging out just because they can't live together at the SAE house. The lack of fraternities isn't going to eradicate the "it isn't about the grades you make, its about the hands you shake" mentality. These are larger cultural issues that need more comprehensive solutions. It starts way before college and it continues long after graduation.

[origami]

Dec 4, 2014 8:41:37 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Dumb question from a non-greek, why can fraternities supply alcohol at parties and sororities cannot? Aren't they governed by the same council at each school? Or am I making that up?

I can't answer this for any other groups than my own sorority and college campus, but here's one reason. With my sorority it is a national rule that we could not have alcohol on our property, not simply something our college thought up. However, even if there had been no national rule, my college was also technically a dry campus. (I say technically b/c everyone drank all the time everywhere there, but it was against the rules.) The fraternities were all located off-campus and avoided the drinking "ban." All sororities except 1 were located on campus.

[shortstax]

Dec 4, 2014 8:53:33 GMT -5 incogneato said:

Now, lowering the drinking age so that frats wouldn't have a monopoly on access to alcohol is an issue worth discussing, but it isn't going to erase the problem of rape on campus, clearly, even if it does take some of the power away from the frats.

This is an interesting point. My undergrad was known as the "Mother of Fraternities" and the social life circled around fraternities for at least the first 2 years. Juniors or Seniors pretty much balked at the large frat parties and headed uptown to the bars.

It would be interesting to see how the "power" is changed if anyone could go buy a $2 beer.

[rupertpenny]

I guess this is another way my experience was different. Fraternities were not the main alcohol source in my college town. They were a major source, yes, and probably the cheapest place to get drunk, but everyone went to the bars too. Almost all bars admitted anyone over 18 and in any case it was easy to use a fake ID. There were also plenty of non-Greek parties with massive quantities of alcohol.

Maybe this was because my school is huge? Greek life was a big deal, but the school was just SO big that it was not the ONLY big deal.

[savan]

Dec 4, 2014 9:18:55 GMT -5 @mrsbecky said:

Ah the drinking age is a good point. By junior/senior year I only went to frats after being out at bars and such (to hang out with friends, always low key) or on like a random Tuesday night to play beer pong. (We played a lot of beer pong...) but they were no longer the center of our social life like they had been as freshman and sophomores. The people who had fake IDs spent a lot less time at the fraternities than those of us who didn't.

This was my experience as well.  Freshman year I went to frat parties because that's where we could obtain alcohol.  Once other sources became available I almost never went again.

I was drugged at a frat party one time.  Thankfully I was with my best friend and realized that something was horribly wrong.  I'd had maybe one drink but could barely stand up.  I told her we needed to leave and distinctly remember falling repeatedly on the walk home.  I shudder to think what might have happened had the circumstances been different.

[Brie]

Dec 4, 2014 8:41:37 GMT -5 shortstax said:

Dumb question from a non-greek, why can fraternities supply alcohol at parties and sororities cannot? Aren't they governed by the same council at each school? Or am I making that up?

Like PPs said, it is governed by their national fraternity charter and whether it permits "wet" houses. 

However, I feel like the actual national fraternity-sanctioned drinking makes up for a tiny percentage of actual alcohol consumption that goes on in the houses.  I know that at my university, when a fraternity hosted a party with alcohol (usually themed, and advertised on campus in advance, thus alerting Panhellenic reps to be present to enforce rules, maybe once a semester) they had to follow a million rules--licensed bartender, must charge guests for drinks, only on the main floor of the house, no shots, etc.  This basically resulted in 90% of the people drinking upstairs in their rooms, unmonitored, anyway, like any other Saturday night anywhere on campus.  Even if a house was "wet," there were still rules about not having booze in the house outside of those events, IME.

Anyway, I think fraternities should be dry, I just feel like the "well, alcohol is allowed in wet houses" is a bit of a red herring.

[Brie]

PDQ but my mother is a sorority house director/mom at a large university. She is a 60something year old woman and still has to deal with being bullied by fraternities as a unit. She has been called names and had to deal with really, really disgusting incidences of property damage (like four pledges who were made to go take huge shits in her guest bathroom sink because her house wasn't deemed cool enough).

It's gross. The power dynamic never stops. She could be your effing grandmother, guys. Show a little class.

[decemberwedding07]

I read this as "The Problem with Farts..."