Help me settle a debate with DH - baby sleep related

[kategm]

How many times did your baby wake up at night when they were around 10/11 months old? And by "wake up" I mean requiring intervention such as nursing, a bottle, rocking, etc. to go back to sleep, but in general they go back to sleep easily once said intervention happens.

[shelbyann]

DD is only 9.5 months but I answered anyway. Most nights one wake-up…occasionally STTN and occasionally 2+ wake ups (like last night's up-every-two-hours-for-no-apparent-reason all-night party).

[Deleted]

DD is almost 10 months. She usually does the unmentionable from 8:30-7:30. There may be one night every other week or so that she wakes up once or twice. When she does wake up, it is really hard to put her back down though. We did sleep training at 6.5 months I think.

[drloretta]

None, but I got the freakish good sleeper (but crappy eater) who was STTN at 7 weeks.

[Deleted]

LOL.

 With DD not at all. Like if she woke up at 10 months it's because she was sick and I was worried.
My only secret with her was luck. Pure Luck.

DS on the other hand...hahahahahaahahahahaha...Let's just say we're down to two wakes up that require intervention and 2 more where he puts himself back to sleep in the past two weeks and I want to rejoice. It's been 10 months since I've been this well rested. And I did all the same tricks with him I did with DD..he just is who he is.

[mpc]

I *think* by that time we were down to 2, but I might be putting on my rose colored memory glasses. It might've been 3 still.

[ssmjlm]

At 9m we sleep trained for MOTN wakings. After a couple nights she was STTN and with the exception of sickness or teeth haven't had MOTN wake-ups since.

[chickens987]

One wake up/night at which I nursed her back down at 9 months. Traveled OOT at 10 months at which point, after night one with H going in to soothe, she STTN.

[dcn]

1-2. I night weaned and sleep trained at 10-11 months. He started sttn after that.

[hermione]

I said 0 but I'm not counting wake ups that occurred before we went to bed. For a long time she'd get up around 10pm and just want to party for 30 minutes so we'd get her up and let her.

[Deleted]

0 DS is and was a freakishly good sleeper STTN at 7 weeks and rarely woke up since.

[cincodemayo]

He finally started STTN about 85% of the time at around 10.5 months, and before that he was up 1-2 x.

[sent]

10.5 months was when she started experimenting with STTN!

Too bad she didn't keep up with that experiment.  I picked 1 but sometimes it can be 2.  Or last night was technically 0, when your baby goes to sleep at 11:30 pm and wakes up for the day at 7:50 am.  OMG.   

[magpie]

10 months was around when she started to STTN. We had sleep trained at 5.5 months to get down to 1 wakeup per night previously.

[deo]

DS1 - Once per night (he stopped at 11 months when I night-weaned him and he dropped down to 1 nap a day)

DS2 - 0, he has been a great sleeper from the start. STTN since 6 months. I'm not sure how that happened.

[wavepool]

O STTN for a few months starting around 5-ish months(? I have no idea on the month), but then started waking up again. I swear he's been teething forever. He had RSV at 10 months and I'm not sure his sleep has ever gone back to what it used to be.

[kategm]

Thanks. I keep telling DH that M waking up 2x a night is more than the average baby wakes at this age. He says he thinks it's normal. So now I see it's still in the range of normal, but that in fact, many babies do sleep better than this.

(Not that me having a crappy sleeper is any huge shock to me. I've known this since day 3.)

[gibbinator]

Once or twice at that age, overnight was 8pm-5:30am.

[dulcemariamar]

0 but she was a beast to get down. Like it was a 2 hour process but then she would STTN most nights.

[dragonfly08]

Neither of my kids woke up regularly by 10/11 months. They certainly had the occasional regression where we were up every night once, sometimes twice, for a week or two but those came and went and were mostly after they were a year old. The biggest problem was when #1 was just over two and started refusing to sleep AT ALL...we drove around town, rocked her, tried Super Nanny's sleep training. Turned out the little booger wanted out of the crib and the minute we gave in and tried a bed she went right to sleep and stayed there all night!

[kategm]

Dec 5, 2014 12:12:44 GMT -5 @pnkybrwstr said:

Dec 5, 2014 12:02:51 GMT -5 kategm said:

Thanks. I keep telling DH that M waking up 2x a night is more than the average baby wakes at this age. He says he thinks it's normal. So now I see it's still in the range of normal, but that in fact, many babies do sleep better than this.

(Not that me having a crappy sleeper is any huge shock to me. I've known this since day 3.)

This obviously will vary a lot by kid, but I think is also dependent on the parents' desire to sleep train sooner.  I'm guessing if we polled, babies who STTN before 1y/o were probably more likely to be sleep trained than those who didn't.

Maybe. But I feel like I hear a lot of people say "baby dropped a feeding by X month. Baby started sleeping better by Y month, etc". This is actually what I hear more than anything. Or that they sleep trained for bedtime and the baby just "got it" and started STTN shortly thereafter. My baby is apparently not one of these babies because we Ferbered for bedtime at 7 months. Here we are 4 months later and still can't manage a stretch of sleep longer than 5 hours. I tried to send DH in a couple of times around 8/9 months and it was an epic failure. I'm scared to try again, but that's why I have this poll going. I want to know if it's reasonable to expect her to only wake up once, or even STTN. If the average baby is still having several wakeups, then I need to reset my expectations a little. (She has STTN 5x in her life - once when I was OOT, twice when I was sick, and twice 2 weeks ago just to fuck with me and give me false hope.)

[kershnic]

I'm also curious how night is defined. To me 5:30 is still a MOTN feeding but it is not to everyone.

[kategm]

Dec 5, 2014 12:31:03 GMT -5 kershnic said:

I'm also curious how night is defined. To me 5:30 is still a MOTN feeding but it is not to everyone.

Good point. In my mind I'm defining night from bedtime to when they're up for good in the morning. But who am I shitting, I'd be dancing on the ceiling if DD slept from bedtime to 5:30.

[ilikedonuts]

I didn't sleep train (well I tried for like 30 seconds with DD2 at like 7 months old and then I ended up being lazy and feeding her) either of my kids and they were STTN by 10 months (crazy early for DD1 and probably 8-9 months for DD2).

[Deleted]

I answered 3 plus. At that age J was waking probably 3 times a night and I nursed him back to sleep (we Co slept). The girls are just shy of 9 months and to be honest I'm not exactly sure how often each individal baby is waking up LOL. Once they wake once I Co sleep and just nurse whomever wakes up. So last night I was up at 930, 12, 2, 430, 5, and 6. But I honestly don't know if those were evenly split between babies or if one was up twice and the other 3 times etc. Some nights it is even others it is one baby. But I don't know who is who at night, they look too much alike and it doesn't really matter because bottom line is I'm up!

[dcn]

Dec 5, 2014 12:30:37 GMT -5 kategm said:

Dec 5, 2014 12:12:44 GMT -5 @pnkybrwstr said:

This obviously will vary a lot by kid, but I think is also dependent on the parents' desire to sleep train sooner.  I'm guessing if we polled, babies who STTN before 1y/o were probably more likely to be sleep trained than those who didn't.

Maybe. But I feel like I hear a lot of people say "baby dropped a feeding by X month. Baby started sleeping better by Y month, etc". This is actually what I hear more than anything. Or that they sleep trained for bedtime and the baby just "got it" and started STTN shortly thereafter. My baby is apparently not one of these babies because we Ferbered for bedtime at 7 months. Here we are 4 months later and still can't manage a stretch of sleep longer than 5 hours. I tried to send DH in a couple of times around 8/9 months and it was an epic failure. I'm scared to try again, but that's why I have this poll going. I want to know if it's reasonable to expect her to only wake up once, or even STTN. If the average baby is still having several wakeups, then I need to reset my expectations a little. (She has STTN 5x in her life - once when I was OOT, twice when I was sick, and twice 2 weeks ago just to fuck with me and give me false hope.)

Yeah, my ds never did anything on his own.  He required lots of help from us haha.  He never ever sttn until he was 11 months old, and even then he woke around 5:30 to eat.  That was such a huge improvement that we celebrated and dealt with it for a few months before working on dropping it.  

Ds never dealt with dh going in very well, even when i was night weaning i usually went in to comfort him during ferber checks.  It was a rough week but was seriously life changing for us.  

[thebreakfastclub]

DS STTN at 10 weeks; he was EFF.

[Velar Fricative]

No MOTN wakeups at 10 months.

[schrodinger]

3 wake ups would have been a good night for DD at that age. I had never really intended to sleep train her (we started around her first birthday), but the sleep deprivation was crippling to me.

[simpsongal]

It still varies and has gone to sh*t since he got sick. One week he'll STTN 7:30 until 6:45. Then it was 2-3 wakeups. Lately it's been 1 wakeup but I can't get him to sleep past 6:15am. Ugh....