Dating things that drive me crazy.

[jigsy]

So...I should stop using the "new at this" line when it comes to why I didn't respond for days and days.

I honestly think I am your worst dating nightmare mp. Super hot package, but lacking in a lot of other places.

[jigsy]

It's all making sense as to why I fail at this...I just forget to go back to the app, and I have the notifications turned off because then it is blowing up my phone #bragplaint

[calle28]

Guys who don't bother to fill in their profiles. One time I actually responded to a guy just because I was bored and asked why his profile was so empty. He said he's not a rule follower. Lol. Okay then!

Guys who don't use proper spelling and grammar in their profile.

I've had a guy tell me that I need to loosen up. I'll loosen up when I get to know you dude. But right now, you're a stranger.

Guys who come on too strong, too fast.

[Deleted]

When I ask a guy if he wants to meet/ get together and he says "Sure, want me to come over?" And then doesn't understand why I won't let a complete stranger in my house. Usually when my 9 yo son is home!

Guys that ask for a bajillion more pictures when I have them on my profile and will even text one or two.

[berbles]

Dec 9, 2014 19:48:14 GMT -5 mp said:

Dec 9, 2014 19:35:52 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Guys who don't bother to fill in their profiles. One time I actually responded to a guy just because I was bored and asked why his profile was so empty. He said he's not a rule follower. Lol. Okay then!

Guys who don't use proper spelling and grammar in their profile.

I've had a guy tell me that I need to loosen up. I'll loosen up when I get to know you dude. But right now, you're a stranger.

Guys who come on too strong, too fast.

OOH yes to loosening up.

A dude one time messaged me, like "Hey Mel!"

I replied with a note and signed Melissa with a wink, kind of hinting at - hey, my name is Melissa! Not Mel. But still being fun about it.

He replied to me calling me Mel, yet again. Ok - no. I unmatched. lol. I have dealt with men like this before, though, and replied friendly like about how I prefer to be called Melissa, and they get all "LOOSEN UP!" No. I don't know you. I don't want to be called Mel. That's not my name. You're disrespecting me by not respecting my wishes. My dad calls me Mel, but he earned it by paying for my college. So he can call me by a nickname I don't love. GOODBYE. (Note - I've never said that to anyone, I am just venting my thoughts, haha.)

I have no patience for people who think they get to decide what someone else's name is.  

I slapped a kid in the face in 4th grade for calling me Jessie.  I HAAAATED Jessie growing up (long story) and he knew it.  He didn't think I'd actually slap him.  I fucking backhanded him with my rings on.*

I started going by Jessie around 8th or 9th grade.  All through high school ^that guy^ called me JESSICA.  LMAO.

*ETA: He was in my face, going, "Jeesssiiiie, Jeeeessssiiiieee, Jeeesssiiie."  

[Emerald1486]

Dec 9, 2014 19:47:09 GMT -5 @bk said:

When I ask a guy if he wants to meet/ get together and he says "Sure, want me to come over?" And then doesn't understand why I won't let a complete stranger in my house. Usually when my 9 yo son is home!

Guys that ask for a bajillion more pictures when I have them on my profile and will even text one or two.

I've had that where guys want to come over (I don't know you. No) or want me to come over their place (I don't know you. No). I had one guy say that he was a homebody and didn't like going out when I repeatedly told him a home on a first date was not acceptable. I told him that it wouldn't work.

[wampuscat]

Shirtless selfies in the bathroom. 'Nuff said.

[verycontrary247]

I despise when guys start making demands on my time immediately. Like, if they ask me to hang out and I have work or school stuff- if I'm interested I tell them I can't, my reasons why, and when I AM available. I'd say a majority of them encourage me to skip work/school and hang out with them instead.

Yeah, I'd really love to prioritize an internet stranger over my career and education. That's going to go really well.

[mcc]

Ugh mp and berbles I hate nicknames. Well, not hate but I find it hilarious. Nicknames do not stick with me, never have, likely never will. Tux called me Smurf and that somehow stuck, likely because it wasn't a shortened version of my given name and just a pet name that him and his friends call me. But nicknames don't jive, it sounds weird. Today I had a client call me honey, sweetie, and Em. He's a nice older man but I had to laugh. I'm not a Em. Newp. 3 syllables, please. All of them.

Oh, mine annoying dating thing is texting all day when I'm working. OMGahhhh I'm working dude!

[Mrs.Rad888]

Dec 9, 2014 18:42:13 GMT -5 mp said:

Since I am in super "You're lame, ain't nobody got time for that" mode - I will share mine, and share yours!


Online dating dudes that suck at communication and then go "Sorry, I'm new at this." as an excuse as to why they are bad at engaging communication with someone.
You're new at what? TALKING TO PEOPLE? It's not like you just figured out how to interact with people, right? Conversations are conversations, man.


Dudes that go "Do you even like me still?!" when I don't respond to them in two hours. During the work day. No no, Home Depot boy, good bye.


If we're talking about setting up a time and agree on Sunday - you're gonna actually have to set up a TIME on Sunday, I am not going to be ok with hearing from you an hour before you want to get together.

Does this mean you're not getting a new sink any time soon?

[achase123]

I've had guys want to come over. One said he could just sit on my porch with me when I told him my son was home.

Good morning texts before we have even met.

Asking for pics because they want to put me in their contacts. Just use my first name thanks.

One guy tried to get me to cancel plans with my gfs after we'd gone out one time. He wanted to cook for me (weirdo I'm not going to your house) and I had plans with friends. He essentially implied that I wasn't going to find anyone because I wasn't willing to put effort into a man. Soooo controlling and creepy.

[Deleted]

Dec 9, 2014 19:48:14 GMT -5 mp said:

Dec 9, 2014 19:35:52 GMT -5 calle28 said:

Guys who don't bother to fill in their profiles. One time I actually responded to a guy just because I was bored and asked why his profile was so empty. He said he's not a rule follower. Lol. Okay then!

Guys who don't use proper spelling and grammar in their profile.

I've had a guy tell me that I need to loosen up. I'll loosen up when I get to know you dude. But right now, you're a stranger.

Guys who come on too strong, too fast.

OOH yes to loosening up.

A dude one time messaged me, like "Hey Mel!"

I replied with a note and signed Melissa with a wink, kind of hinting at - hey, my name is Melissa! Not Mel. But still being fun about it.

He replied to me calling me Mel, yet again. Ok - no. I unmatched. lol. I have dealt with men like this before, though, and replied friendly like about how I prefer to be called Melissa, and they get all "LOOSEN UP!" No. I don't know you. I don't want to be called Mel. That's not my name. You're disrespecting me by not respecting my wishes. My dad calls me Mel, but he earned it by paying for my college. So he can call me by a nickname I don't love. GOODBYE. (Note - I've never said that to anyone, I am just venting my thoughts, haha.)

I don't really have anything to add to all this other than I HATE HATE HATE being called Mel. HAAAAAAAAATE!

[jojoandleo]

My name is one syllable. The only nicknames I get actually lengthen my name. LOL.

I get super annoyed when people think my name is Joyce, though.

[Emerald1486]

Dec 10, 2014 9:32:13 GMT -5 @fucksticklegit said:

Dec 9, 2014 19:48:14 GMT -5 mp said:

OOH yes to loosening up.

A dude one time messaged me, like "Hey Mel!"

I replied with a note and signed Melissa with a wink, kind of hinting at - hey, my name is Melissa! Not Mel. But still being fun about it.

He replied to me calling me Mel, yet again. Ok - no. I unmatched. lol. I have dealt with men like this before, though, and replied friendly like about how I prefer to be called Melissa, and they get all "LOOSEN UP!" No. I don't know you. I don't want to be called Mel. That's not my name. You're disrespecting me by not respecting my wishes. My dad calls me Mel, but he earned it by paying for my college. So he can call me by a nickname I don't love. GOODBYE. (Note - I've never said that to anyone, I am just venting my thoughts, haha.)

I don't really have anything to add to all this other than I HATE HATE HATE being called Mel. HAAAAAAAAATE!

I think I might hurt someone if they called me Mel.....


I have people try calling me Lisa. I told them that is not my name, nor my nickname. They said they liked it better..... NEXT 

[Deleted]

Dec 10, 2014 10:07:16 GMT -5 Emerald1486 said:

Dec 10, 2014 9:32:13 GMT -5 @fucksticklegit said:

I don't really have anything to add to all this other than I HATE HATE HATE being called Mel. HAAAAAAAAATE!

I think I might hurt someone if they called me Mel.....


I have people try calling me Lisa. I told them that is not my name, nor my nickname. They said they liked it better..... NEXT 

My grandmother still doesn't understand that Lissa (my nickname) is NOT spelled Lisa. And every time my BFF introduces me as Lissa, people are like  "Lisa?" NO MOTHERFUCKERS! WHAT IS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT THIS??

Melissa - Me = Lissa

[Emerald1486]

Dec 10, 2014 10:09:53 GMT -5 @fucksticklegit said:

Dec 10, 2014 10:07:16 GMT -5 Emerald1486 said:

I think I might hurt someone if they called me Mel.....


I have people try calling me Lisa. I told them that is not my name, nor my nickname. They said they liked it better..... NEXT 

My grandmother still doesn't understand that Lissa (my nickname) is NOT spelled Lisa. And every time my BFF introduces me as Lissa, people are like  "Lisa?" NO MOTHERFUCKERS! WHAT IS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT THIS??

Melissa - Me = Lissa

This is the EXACT problem I have with people. Family and a few friends call me Missy, but whenever I introduce myself to people they call me Lisa. First time it doesn't bother me, but if you keep calling me Lisa I will stop being so nice about it 

[jigsy]

I've learned to roll with the nickname punches. I usually introduce myself with Jennifer, because if I say Jen, I usually get "Jan?" Sometimes someone will call me Jenny...I used to go by that when I was a kid, until Forrest Gump came out and all I would hear was "Jennay"...but when I was a flight attendant, there was another Jennifer in my training class, so I decided to go by Jenny, and actually I feel like people responded more positively to it. Like no one can be mean to a Jenny.

So, whatever, call me what you will.

[girlsownlove2218]

You guys give me SO much to look forward to... haha!

[starrieskies]

I hate being called Mel. The only people I allow to call me that are coworkers.

I also hate the fact that, despite its very normal spelling, people can't seem to get it right.

[berbles]

I always introduce myself as Jessie, but everyone ends up calling me Jess. It only occurred to me like 2 years ago that I could just start introducing myself as Jess. I don't think of it as a standalone name, since to me, it's a nickname of a nickname, lol.

Actually, it was when New Girl came out that I was like, "Why don't I just call myself Jess?"

[amarima]

"Why don't you come to my place" When I haven't even met them in person.

The guys who start to treat you as a girlfriend and you haven't met them yet. A guy sent me the link of a song because he would think about me with that song... after two days of exchanging texts.

Old pictures. When you met the guy and you realize he looks like ten years older.

Liers (similar to the previous). This guy had in his profile he was athletic, would play football, hockey, gym etc. He looked nice in the picture, not ripped, just normal average guy. Finally met him and he was way heavier and no way he would do anything of the things he said. Maybe he did in the past. When I met him, I thought maybe he is nice, but nope he was a douche.

Catfishes. I have been tried to be catfished twice, I almost fell the first one, so the second was easy to recognize.

[wampuscat]

Dec 10, 2014 15:49:12 GMT -5 amarima said:

Catfishes. I have been tried to be catfished twice, I almost fell the first one, so the second was easy to recognize.

I want to know more about this.  What happened?

[amarima]

Dec 10, 2014 16:11:30 GMT -5 wampuscat said:

Dec 10, 2014 15:49:12 GMT -5 amarima said:

Catfishes. I have been tried to be catfished twice, I almost fell the first one, so the second was easy to recognize.

I want to know more about this.  What happened?

This guy contacts me and we start to exchange messages. He doesn't live in my town, but in a near community... pretty common here. He claims to be a consultant in O&G, and travels a lot for work, again super common here. Then he tells me he is preparing a trip to this oil platform in Norway. He will be there for a month, and we could meet when he comes back. 

I googled him just for curiosity and found nothing about him, no facebook, linked in, nothing. I asked him about it and he said he is very private, his son, his ex, blah blah.. All the time he would ask me things, have good exchanges via texts, and tell me how I seemed like a great mother, woman, perfect partner etc. I would ask for pictures, and he wouldn't send any or would say he wasn't allowed to take pictures in the platform., etc. At this point I was sure he was fake but would continue his game to see what he was going to do. There are tons of similars stories in the internet and they are just scammers.

Finally he starts to tells me about how he need this part to finish his job, but can't buy from the platform because (Surprise!)  he doesn't use credit cards or online banking. I called him out (he denied it), reported him on the website and he dissapeared.

The second guy contacted me and tells me a similar story, only that he works in Africa. Blocked and reported him inmediatly. 

[wampuscat]

Dec 10, 2014 16:35:54 GMT -5 amarima said:

Dec 10, 2014 16:11:30 GMT -5 wampuscat said:

I want to know more about this.  What happened?

This guy contacts me and we start to exchange messages. He doesn't live in my town, but in a near community... pretty common here. He claims to be a consultant in O&G, and travels a lot for work, again super common here. Then he tells me he is preparing a trip to this oil platform in Norway. He will be there for a month, and we could meet when he comes back. 

I googled him just for curiosity and found nothing about him, no facebook, linked in, nothing. I asked him about it and he said he is very private, his son, his ex, blah blah.. All the time he would ask me things, have good exchanges via texts, and tell me how I seemed like a great mother, woman, perfect partner etc. I would ask for pictures, and he wouldn't send any or would say he wasn't allowed to take pictures in the platform., etc. At this point I was sure he was fake but would continue his game to see what he was going to do. There are tons of similars stories in the internet and they are just scammers.

Finally he starts to tells me about how he need this part to finish his job, but can't buy from the platform because (Surprise!)  he doesn't use credit cards or online banking. I called him out (he denied it), reported him on the website and he dissapeared.

The second guy contacted me and tells me a similar story, only that he works in Africa. Blocked and reported him inmediatly. 

WTF? You always see stories on TV about women who fall for these scammers and lose their entire life savings and go into debt for guys they've never even met in person and it makes you wonder how someone could be so blind.  It's sad.

[Emerald1486]

I have another... guys who don't listen
Guy on OKC asks for my number. I tell him I don't give my number until we have a date planned. Personal preference thing. He asks when I'm free, and I let him know I am not free until next weekend. Conversation goes on and he asks me out for this weekend. I reminded him I'm not free this weekend. He asks for my number again. Dude! I told you I won't give it until we have a date planned.

[amarima]

Dec 10, 2014 16:41:55 GMT -5 wampuscat said:

Dec 10, 2014 16:35:54 GMT -5 amarima said:

This guy contacts me and we start to exchange messages. He doesn't live in my town, but in a near community... pretty common here. He claims to be a consultant in O&G, and travels a lot for work, again super common here. Then he tells me he is preparing a trip to this oil platform in Norway. He will be there for a month, and we could meet when he comes back. 

I googled him just for curiosity and found nothing about him, no facebook, linked in, nothing. I asked him about it and he said he is very private, his son, his ex, blah blah.. All the time he would ask me things, have good exchanges via texts, and tell me how I seemed like a great mother, woman, perfect partner etc. I would ask for pictures, and he wouldn't send any or would say he wasn't allowed to take pictures in the platform., etc. At this point I was sure he was fake but would continue his game to see what he was going to do. There are tons of similars stories in the internet and they are just scammers.

Finally he starts to tells me about how he need this part to finish his job, but can't buy from the platform because (Surprise!)  he doesn't use credit cards or online banking. I called him out (he denied it), reported him on the website and he dissapeared.

The second guy contacted me and tells me a similar story, only that he works in Africa. Blocked and reported him inmediatly. 

WTF? You always see stories on TV about women who fall for these scammers and lose their entire life savings and go into debt for guys they've never even met in person and it makes you wonder how someone could be so blind.  It's sad.

Because these guys are not the average Joe, no, they are perfect: normal handsome (not really hot), good but not over the top career. They know how to talk to you, have answers for everything you ask. And sadly there are women who needs love in their lives and will hold to anything that gives them hope.