Good news, gripes, whatevers.

[Pom]

FIL GOT IN <) and is moving to new assisted living place this week.  It's got a memory unit and they are prepared to deal with his behaviors. We were very upfront about it. Staff seems nice, realistic and shock of all shocks, it's affordable.  Read less than $8k per month.  It's an hour and a half from our vacation home/his hometown, but on a route we travel from here to there by car or plane.  Mr. P and I are praying, wishing, hoping, pulling favors from Santa, whatever it takes for this to be a positive transition.  This is our 5th or 6th shot at care givers/facilities since July and it's exhausting.   

I had 3 phone calls yesterday from the plumbing and heating company about FIL's properties.   Mr. Pom was in a meeting all day so no shoveling it off on him.   1. the new furnace we ordered for FIL's house (it was to be installed back when we thought he could stay all winter) is too small to fit in the hole where his old one is...he cemented the joists around it at some point so now we have to wait for a smaller unit to be delivered and installed.   2. one of the issues at a rental house is a new part for the well pump= 1x the amount of rent it brings in.  And 3. the other rental house had a leak in the bathroom, they replaced toilet, but wall and floor need reinforced before they fall in. Ugh. FIL hasn't taken care of ANYTHING with his home or rentals in years.  I am pretty sure he wasn't capable of it but never wanted us in his business. 

My BF has 4 tumors in her uterus following a failed ablation earlier in the year. One is very large and they are unable to do a hysterectomy now.   They are doing procedure to cut off the blood flow and hopefully shrink them.  She was very positive about meeting her new surgeon yesterday and this procedure will be done December 26th so she will have recovery time over the holidays.  Her dad just died a month ago and she's caring for her mom with early stage dementia too.  I want her to be on the road to recovery, since this plus her new job is overwhelming for her. The stress is so bad.   

I am still counting yesterday as a win, so there's that.

How's everyone else?  I hope your week has gotten better. I have been sending good thoughts and wishes to everyone else struggling too.

[ssmjlm]

Currently in the car on the way to my grandad's funeral. Good news they have a spot for nana at a place closer to my uncle. Bad news is she didn't quite meet the Alzheimer's requirements so she will be in a 1bdrm independent place with a nurse aide 2x a day. We all agree it isn't enough, but apparently the Alzheimer's facility is full.

She has no idea who we are, doesn't bathe or wash her clothes and can't remember anything short term.

My father is so drained, my uncles (who have no kids) aren't doing anything even though they live closer.

The only good news is my dad should be home for Christmas.

[Pom]

Dec 11, 2014 10:26:47 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

Currently in the car on the way to my grandad's funeral. Good news they have a spot for nana at a place closer to my uncle. Bad news is she didn't quite meet the Alzheimer's requirements so she will be in a 1bdrm independent place with a nurse aide 2x a day. We all agree it isn't enough, but apparently the Alzheimer's facility is full.

She has no idea who we are, doesn't bathe or wash her clothes and can't remember anything short term.

My father is so drained, my uncles (who have no kids) aren't doing anything even though they live closer.

The only good news is my dad should be home for Christmas.

I am so sorry for your loss and about your nana.  (hugs)

Is she on the wait list for the Alzheimer's unit or facility?  Is it part of the same place.  Hopefully as they realize the full extent of her needs, she can be transitioned. 

[mskitkat]

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

[irene adler]

Pom, that is good news. I hope the other things can get resolved quickly.

ssmjlm, i'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that your dad can find some rest AND peace soon.

Eta. Good lord. Voice texting is sometimes an asshole.

[ssmjlm]

Pom I'm not sure if they've put her on the list or not. It is all at the same place thankfully and she has priority as a current resident.

[irene adler]

I brought my reusable cup to Starbucks, but they had the bathrooms locked so I had to ask the Barista to rinse it out for me. For some reason this really embarrasses me

[raangoli]

Pom - I liked the post for the news about your FIL. I dislike the rest. I hope things turn around for you and your friend next year, you both really, really need to catch a break.

ssmjlm - I am sorry for your loss.

[Susie]

Pom, I really hope the assisted living facility works great for your FIL and you guys. I want you to catch a break so badly!

My random is that I was elected to the board of my tri club last night. I was running for the only position with more than one candidate, so I am feeling a little proud of myself.

[Pom]

Dec 11, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5 mskitkat said:

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

It totally sucks when other people ruin your experience.  I would love to see TSO.

[Susie]

Dec 11, 2014 11:15:54 GMT -5 Pom said:

Dec 11, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5 mskitkat said:

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

It totally sucks when other people ruin your experience.  I would love to see TSO.

They are pretty awesome.  I've seen them a couple times, although it's been a few years now.  Floor seats are worth springing for.

[raangoli]

I just applied to be mentored through a professional organization I belong to. I've never had a mentor before so I am curious to see how this will work and hope it helps me grow/get out of rut I feel like I am stuck in.

[mrsfarmer]

I LOVE our new neighborhood! Last night, a family came to the door with cookies and a Christmas card inviting us to their childrens' Christmas play. The dad is a pastor of a church and they put on a religious play every year. They brought homemade frosted sugar cookies, a Christmas card, and a hand written invitation to the play! I almost cried.

[hamster]

I forgot my rings today, and I feel naked.

I also have a work gripe. I don't have remote access to my email, because I'm hourly. Except that unlike most other hourly employees I have a need to access my email remotely when I am at events. My entire team, boss, and regional VP of HR agree. System HR says no. Such crap. The system office has no idea what goes on in the networks and the needs of individual employees. Damn the man, man.

[Pom]

Dec 11, 2014 11:37:53 GMT -5 hamster said:

I forgot my rings today, and I feel naked.

I also have a work gripe. I don't have remote access to my email, because I'm hourly. Except that unlike most other hourly employees I have a need to access my email remotely when I am at events. My entire team, boss, and regional VP of HR agree. System HR says no. Such crap. The system office has no idea what goes on in the networks and the needs of individual employees. Damn the man, man.

Can't your boss intervene?  What a pain in the ass.

[hamster]

Dec 11, 2014 11:43:05 GMT -5 Pom said:

Dec 11, 2014 11:37:53 GMT -5 hamster said:

I forgot my rings today, and I feel naked.

I also have a work gripe. I don't have remote access to my email, because I'm hourly. Except that unlike most other hourly employees I have a need to access my email remotely when I am at events. My entire team, boss, and regional VP of HR agree. System HR says no. Such crap. The system office has no idea what goes on in the networks and the needs of individual employees. Damn the man, man.

Can't your boss intervene?  What a pain in the ass.

Nope. It's a symptom of a much larger issue. I'd never want to go back to a mom and pop company, but corporate bullshit is bullshit, lol.

So, the office will just try and remember to text or send stuff to my gmail that I need to know about after hours.

[crashgizmo]

Confession: I had to Google what TSO was.

hamster, I am hourly (for 2 more days) and I get twitchy at the idea of not getting my work email. I feel for you.

[raangoli]

Dec 11, 2014 12:17:09 GMT -5 crashgizmo said:

Confession: I had to Google what TSO was.

hamster, I am hourly (for 2 more days) and I get twitchy at the idea of not getting my work email. I feel for you.

I had to think really long about what the heck this was. Then it was like OH! Duh!  (idea)

[pattieice]

Dec 11, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5 mskitkat said:

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

My cousin received last minute tickets and invited me to this yesterday. Unfortunately I couldn't go. We must live near one another...

[mskitkat]

Dec 11, 2014 11:15:54 GMT -5 Pom said:

Dec 11, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5 mskitkat said:

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

It totally sucks when other people ruin your experience.  I would love to see TSO.

I've seen them at least 5 times. Probably more. We saw them on their first or second tour, and I've seen them every year I could afford it since. Even their non-Christmas tour. It's a bit of an obsession.

[screwedup]

Dec 11, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5 mskitkat said:

We saw TSO last night. It was great, except for the rude people behind us who kept yelling and laughing the whole time, and who were clearly bored during the instrumental portions. Ugh. Next time I'm paying for the really good seats.

Not be creepy but I saw TSO last night too.  There were noisy people in our section too.  I think people just lack etiquette.

[Pom]

Mr. P just called with some very good news about a work project. It has been at a stalemate since he started at his company 18 months ago, despite his best efforts and his own company's push. Today, there is actual movement from the big client and he totally needs this win =) Happy, happy, joy, joy.

[spunkarella]

Pom that is SUCH GREAT NEWS about your FIL. I hope the transition is a positive one for him!!

[compassrose]

I hope this is the answer for your FIL, Pom!  Good, healing thoughts to your friends. 

I am letting myself get caught up in grading and students in the lab, when I really need to be writing a grant proposal. But it's such a big, stressful thing that I'm procrastinating.  

My dad finds out if he has liver cancer on Friday (he's had skin and prostate cancer, with a lot of complications, in the last year).  So i'm hoping it's nothing.

[audette]

This has been an utterly, horribly, extremely crappy week for both DH and I. It's been reconfirmed that DH's current boss is a total raging asshole. Not that I had any doubt prior to this week. He's got DH wrapped into such a total stressball that apparently DH is going for an EKG tomorrow. This spooks me.

And I'm having the fun of being on the road for work with a laptop that is out of warranty and suffered a hard drive failure. I'm in Germany, so shipping me out a replacement from the main office would take longer than I'll be here. In the meantime, the only reason my work is not _totally_ screwed this week is purely because of some super-awesome folks at the company that helps us with logistics for this location. In the meantime, there are several projects I have going on that are all falling behind because instead of working on them, I am attempting to recover my laptop and make it work again... Such a waste of my time, all because work is too cheap-ass to replace laptops before they die.

[irene adler]

Two things are making me an asshole today.

1) sometimes students leave things behind and they get placed in the lost and found.. After three straight semesters of no one claiming a very nice cardigan, I called dibs. I was wearing it yesterday and the student who lost it 2010 recognized it. I don't want to wash it and give it back (but I will l. :/). It completes so many of my outfits

2) my coworker got some constructive criticism him back on the design project she did. She is very, very upset that it's not overwhelmingly positive, but I think it's spot on. I think she missed the day in school where they went over accepting comments graciously. I am tired of hearing how no one understands how amazing she is at absolutely everything

[irene adler]

compassrose, oh man. I hope you get good answers.

[Pom]

Dec 11, 2014 13:32:54 GMT -5 compassrose said:

I hope this is the answer for your FIL, Pom!  Good, healing thoughts to your friends. 

I am letting myself get caught up in grading and students in the lab, when I really need to be writing a grant proposal. But it's such a big, stressful thing that I'm procrastinating.  

My dad finds out if he has liver cancer on Friday (he's had skin and prostate cancer, with a lot of complications, in the last year).  So i'm hoping it's nothing.

Sending good thoughts for your dad.  (Hugs) for you.  How stressful.

audette irene adler   Sounds like a tough week all around.  Hang in there.  

[zelda25]

Dec 11, 2014 11:37:53 GMT -5 hamster said:

I forgot my rings today, and I feel naked.

I also have a work gripe. I don't have remote access to my email, because I'm hourly. Except that unlike most other hourly employees I have a need to access my email remotely when I am at events. My entire team, boss, and regional VP of HR agree. System HR says no. Such crap. The system office has no idea what goes on in the networks and the needs of individual employees. Damn the man, man.

I've been living this exact same problem since forever--I feel your pain   Anyone who thinks the government has cornered the market on bureaucratic red tape has never worked for a large corporation.

[UnderProtest]

Dec 11, 2014 13:33:11 GMT -5 audette said:

This has been an utterly, horribly, extremely crappy week for both DH and I. It's been reconfirmed that DH's current boss is a total raging asshole. Not that I had any doubt prior to this week. He's got DH wrapped into such a total stressball that apparently DH is going for an EKG tomorrow. This spooks me.

And I'm having the fun of being on the road for work with a laptop that is out of warranty and suffered a hard drive failure. I'm in Germany, so shipping me out a replacement from the main office would take longer than I'll be here. In the meantime, the only reason my work is not _totally_ screwed this week is purely because of some super-awesome folks at the company that helps us with logistics for this location. In the meantime, there are several projects I have going on that are all falling behind because instead of working on them, I am attempting to recover my laptop and make it work again... Such a waste of my time, all because work is too cheap-ass to replace laptops before they die.

Yuck on both accounts.  My husband actually booked himself an appointment at a new doctor because he was having chest pains and hand numbness.  Yep, anxiety.