Questions, comments, opinions? Who needs what?

[cats]

H and I are trading in our truck for an SUV. We found one that is what we want, but the price point is about 5,000 more than what we wanted to spend. It's the color we want and has lower miles than we were searching. We can swing it, but feel like we should keep looking to find a year or two older to match our price point.

Should we get it? Or keep looking? We keep thinking that if we wait until after the start of the new year, it might go down, but then again, our trade-in will be a year older.

[cats]

Dec 14, 2014 19:53:40 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

cats, don't spend more than you want. If that means to keep looking, keep looking.

Thanks.  We just wish this vehicle was two years older.  Ha.  It's the fancy model in the line and now H is stuck on getting the Denali model over the regular ones now that he's been in one.  I like the nicer one too (who wouldn't?), but it's a nice or necessary topic of conversation in our house tonight.   Patience is smart.  Thanks.

[iamali]

My sister messaged me with "call me" about our mom who just had back surgery.

I'm freaking out that it's bad news.

Good news she'd put in a message, right?

Sent from my Fortress of Snatchiness

[hungrycaterpillar]

I am happy. That is all. You are wonderful suesue! Glad your week is finally winding down.

[curtains]

It's my birthday. I can't stop thinking about my dad. He passed a few years ago but holidays are still bittersweet.

My birthday is the worst. He always had the perfect words to make me feel special and loved.

And every year I just want to have him back. Like maybe he has just gone on a vacation and will be home soon. And my birthday is just another realization I have to go another year without him.

Pathetic and sad but I don't know how to just let him go. I need to stop waiting for him. He is not coming back and my stupid brain still won't accept it.

[jodinia]

I just wanted to say, that now that my H and I are trying for a kid (never thought we would be on the same page) I am trying to keep in mind the great parenting advice you have given. Thanks, @cse1960

[bonquiqui]

Hair pats? Random advice?


I feel like a Debbie downer lately. My move was dreadful, I'm having trouble adjusting to budgeting, dates have all been duds, and it's my first holiday season without my dad.

Life will get better?

[nursewife]

I feel like I have FAIL across my forehead. The last year has been bad situation after the other. Losing my job was the cherry on top. I'm doing therapy, meds, etc. What the hell am I doing wrong that bad shit keeps happening.

[themoneytree]

Things are great with me today - holiday parties and all sorts of fun stuff going on all weekend. Fun plans for tomorrow. More holiday parties next weekend and then our friends arrive for Christmas. I'm so excited and this is SO different from how I felt this time last year. It's such a relief.

I'm glad some good stuff is happening for you too. You deserve a break!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Rage with me, SueSue-- I just graded a case study that was held together a motherfucking BOBBY PIN. Honestly!

And the rest of this batch I did tonight is just terrible? What is this world coming to- each project is missing some key part i emphasized repeatedly in class.

[fezzik]

I've been trying so hard, but I can't get out of this funk from the miscarriage. My emotions are all over the place and it's driving me nuts. Initially, I thought I wanted to start TTC again soon. After having the hemorrhaging/ER/D&C all happen a month after I thought the miscarriage was over, I was firmly on the bench for waiting a year. Now, it's only been a couple weeks later and I am longing and aching to be pregnant. I can't right now anyway since I am supposed to wait to get a period again, but I just wish I knew what I wanted. I know I will be a worried, nervous wreck whenever I do get pregnant again. Obviously nobody can make the decision for me, but I guess I just want some hair pats and some reassurance that I won't be sad forever and I will know when the time is right to TTC again. I'm trying so hard to not be a Debbie downer, but losing the baby is constantly on my mind.

[dreamcrisp1]

Hi! How are you? How's your DS? When are you coming here again?!

[kayakjenn]

How do I get past feeling guilty at work knowing I'm leaving at the end of next month and taking a lot of their clients with me? Financially I'm not ready to leave my job now, I need the Febuary start date, but it's so hard to be around everyone as they discuss plans for turning the company around and fixing everything. We're getting a new president who is so full of enthusiasm and hope, I feel like a traitor listening to this and joining in on the conversations. I also feel guilty accepting a $3,000 bonus that they are giving me because the poor conditions at the company have cost me over $40,000 in commission the last 2 years and they must get the feeling I'm looking to leave.

No man would feel this guilty, either about leaving or about taking the small bonus. I need help!

[nancybotwin]

I need some poor poodle hair pats and sensible advice.

This week is going to be rough at work. 14 hour days. There's no way around it.

I have been sick for 5 days. No voice. Coughing. I just want to climb in bed and sleep.

My house is a disaster. I still have clean laundry from 2 weeks ago that's not even folded; other clean laundry sitting in the basket; no food in the house for dinner this week for kids; and we still need to get some Hanukkah presents.

DH is being an insensitive butthead.

I just want my mom. She lives 3000 miles away. And I don't have a voice, so I can't even call and whine.

In good news, DS started walking around the house this weekend and is the cutest thing on 2 legs.

[karmasabiotch]

I need someone as wise as you SueSue to tell me that J and my H going away for 4 days without me will be good for them and for me and I shouldn't feel guilty or like this is making me a bad Mom. The only time I've been away from him was when I was in the hospital and 1 sleepover at my Sisters but I was there first thing in the morning. He's almost 6 1/2.

Why can't I wrap my head around that he will be safe and this is ok? My H is a good dad and seems to understand J's special needs.

[usuallylurking]

Dec 15, 2014 3:00:23 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Dec 14, 2014 20:51:23 GMT -5 dreamcrisp1 said:

Hi! How are you? How's your DS? When are you coming here again?!

ds1 and 2 are coming home on Friday; they each leave their respective cities in the am, and meet in Minneapolis at about 10 am, surprise! and then take the same flight home from there. Dh fixed it so they even sit next to each other lol. they don't know. 

This is adorable, and so fun! I hope it stays a surprise until they're there.

[curtains]

Thank you so much suesue. I hope we both get through our funk soon. ((Hugs))

I like your advice to help others when you're feeling low. I'm gonna see what I can do around town to help out. It will be good to get out of my head for a bit

[cc]

I just need some positive thoughts. The court date with my ex is finally here and we are on our way to the courthouse. What started out as a simple child support modification has turned into a crazy visitation battle. All for an almost 15 year old whose life he has been inconsistently a part of. Please let today go our way and that my daughter's voice is heard.

[UnderProtest]

@cse1960

If you are still giving them, I could use hair pats and advice. Our (rental) house has had water leak issues for over 6 months now. I think they (yes, multiple issues/leaks) are finally fixed, but we are now in a fight with the property manager and landlord. They seem to think that this is all acceptable and there should be no compensation for my troubles (over 50 hours of appointments, plus no shows from the contractor, plus tons of time trying to manage it). I am so stressed about this that I my (stress-induced) eczema has popped up. I am so frustrated I don't even know what to do. No one does anything they say they will, communication and customer service don't exist in this country.

[UnderProtest]

Dec 15, 2014 15:18:54 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Dec 15, 2014 11:21:20 GMT -5 UnderProtest said:

@cse1960

If you are still giving them, I could use hair pats and advice. Our (rental) house has had water leak issues for over 6 months now. I think they (yes, multiple issues/leaks) are finally fixed, but we are now in a fight with the property manager and landlord. They seem to think that this is all acceptable and there should be no compensation for my troubles (over 50 hours of appointments, plus no shows from the contractor, plus tons of time trying to manage it). I am so stressed about this that I my (stress-induced) eczema has popped up. I am so frustrated I don't even know what to do. No one does anything they say they will, communication and customer service don't exist in this country.

I am so glad that the problems are actually fixed and I get entirely how distressing it is to have to deal with all the hassle and misery of the the crappy workmen. I had one stiff me yesterday and I nearly cried.
I don't think your landlord or property management co is responsible to you for damages in waiting around etc. if your actual property was damaged you might have a claim for that. I'm worried for you though because you sound so unhappy already with having to even be there that this dreadful situation w the leaks is just shoving you right over the limit.
Do you think you're going to be able to be happy there now that this is over?

I don't think they owe me time, I mentioned it to illustrate how much time has been wasted on them.  The contractor has been awful, not showing up to appointments, trying everything to get out of doing the work, including lying, breaking other things while he was here to fix something else, removing a skylight window and not replacing it for over two weeks.  I think the aggravation of not being able to use one bathroom for over 6 months and another for 3 months is beyond normal circumstances.  

But anyway, good question.  While there are some things I really like about being here, everything is just so much more difficult.  I just want things to calm down and not be so hard anymore.  This move has been a lot harder than I expected and I'm not sure how to move forward now.

[bittybomb]

I am wondering if I should wash my mouse pad in the dishwasher? I just noticed how freaking filthy the thing is, and want to toss it in my dishwasher tonight. But I don't want to ruin it (it has my babies on it!) and I definitely don't want to break my dishwasher. But I think it should be okay, right?