Post by prettyinpearls on Dec 17, 2014 9:38:46 GMT -5
Oh Jigsy, I'm so so sorry. Definitely go back to be with your dad; since the idea is already on your mind, I think you'd regret not going. Screw what your job history looks like, family is so important. A decent employer will understand your situation.
Post by stephreloaded on Dec 17, 2014 9:40:59 GMT -5
I am really sorry Jigsy. I think that your job situation, as hard as it has been, has given you a great opportunity to spend time with your dad at the time you both need it the most.
I'm really sorry, jigsy. I know someone who quit a stable teaching job in order to spend a few months with her dad who had cancer out-of-state. She then moved back to the area that she lived in while teaching. It took a little while but she found a job ... for a healthcare NGO.
That's just one example obviously, but it can be done. Worse to worse, you could temp when you come back to LA but you were wanting a professional change anyway.
Thank you everyone. I'm not a big believer in fate, but sometimes things kick you in the ass and make you realize that maybe we're not just floating around aimlessly here. For those who asked about FMLA, I wouldn't qualify, mostly because I'm being laid off and Friday is my last day. Which is the main reason I'm considering going. When the prognosis was a year, it was too long for me to put my life on hold, but now...I feel like that might be the right thing to do. I'm hoping that I can get my financials in a row so that I won't really worry about paying rent and whatnot. I feel like I might just kind of bounce back and forth over the next few months. Continue to apply for "dream" positions, but also try mot to stress it. What is three months?
Thank you all for the kind words and support and thoughts and prayers...having this community to lean on is amazing. Thank you.
I'm so sorry Jigsy. I hope you do get to go home and be with your family. You have time to make and treasure new memories! Fuck any employer that can't understand that.
Post by bullygirl979 on Dec 17, 2014 12:58:56 GMT -5
Hey jigsy, if you are getting laid off I would DEFINITELY go. And honestly? It may be good for you. Go get a fairly mindless temp job so you can focus on what *really* matters. Because do you really want to be looking for a "real" job that might stress you out, take time away, etc. when you have other stuff to focus on?
Oh jigsy, I'm so sorry. I can tell you from personal experience, that you should go. You will regret it if you don't. I am more than thankful for being in the same town as my dad and for my work letting me work from home (aka, my parent's house) for the last month of his life. I cannot begin to tell you how happy I am that I had that time with him.
Post by DirtySouth on Dec 17, 2014 13:58:43 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.
Move. You will never regret it. And any employer who judges you for taking a temporary job to be near your dad at the end of his life is not someone you want to work for.
All the hugs, Jigs. I definitely think it's serendipitous that your job situation ended up the way it did, when it did. Even if you don't believe in signs, take this as one.
And ditto to AirBnB for subletting your apartment.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Dec 17, 2014 19:21:58 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. I would definitely go in a heartbeat and I have no doubt that any employer worth having will not care about this and 100% understand.
One of my biggest regrets with my aunt (who was like my mother) passing away is that I was so busy studying for my lsat and exams that I wasn't around as much as I would have wanted to be with her.
I'm so so sorry. My dad died suddenly at the end of March. He was my rock and one of my best friends. One of the absolute hardest parts on me is not getting more time. I wish I had one more minute with him, one more hug, one more chance to look at him. I absolutely know you won't regret going and soaking up the time. It's the only chance you have. Go and be with him. Ask him all the things you've wanted to ask. Tell him you love him. Don't worry about anything else.
I say all of this with tears running down my face. If I can help you in any way, let me know. I'm so sorry. (((Hugs)))
Post by marigoldgirl on Dec 17, 2014 21:53:08 GMT -5
I'm so so sorry. I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 5 years ago. He was my rock and I miss him everyday. If it is important to you to spend time with him. Do not wait. You need to go now. Every day may count. It did for my family. We did not get the time they said we would. I pray for peace for you and your family during this time.