How would you feel?

[glitzy07]

I think I would like it.

[arch01]

I wouldn't be hurt. It is my goal to make performances though, I don't care about parties. If I'm not there for some reason I'd appreciate getting the message.

Can't hurt to ask if they want you to continue to do it and tell them that you want to be sensitive to their feelings.

[ECB]

I always enjoy getting pics of my child. They may be sad they can't be there, but getting a picture doesn't change that fact and it gives them a chance to see their child.

I say keep doing it unless someone asks you not to

[osulori]

I would love it!

[rootbeerfloat]

I would appreciate it.

[stacyb1983]

I've always appreciated when H's teachers or chaperones send me a picture of H enjoying his day. C's babysitter texts me pictures all of the time, I love it!

[Deleted]

I would love it.

But....are these people you ordinarily text with? Because if you were just a random person I'd be like "um, okay."

[wavepool]

If you're my friend, I'd love for you to send pics!

[Brie]

I like it. Several daycare moms and I try to do this if we all can't make it to the class party or whatever.

[badtzmaru22]

I would love it! I love it now when our daycare lady sends pics.

[stacyb1983]

Today is H's school Christmas party. As soon as I hit post on my reply above, one of the SAHMs who is hosting the party texted me a picture of H. Honestly, I am happy he is having fun. I appreciate her effort to send me the picture.

[turtlegirl]

I would like it.

DH couldn't make DS1's preschool performance yesterday, but I could (flex work schedule). So I took pictures and video for him.

I would be happy if any friends or family did that same for me when I can't make it.

[pinkdutchtulips]

DD's after school provider sent me photos of the kinder part of the holiday concert and took a  video that she shared w/ me when I picked up dd.

I don't mind it and told her that I appreciated her sending me the photos and taking the video. I make whatever events I can - I helped out w/ the thanksgiving feast in dd's classroom but my in classroom participation is nil due to my work schedule (1h15m commute + billables). DD knows that I can't make ALL of them but I try to be there for ones I know we'll BOTH enjoy and weekend/evening events (Halloween Carnival, School Play, etc.).

[InBetweenDays]

I would definitely enjoy it.

Like others mentioned, I don't mind missing the parties, but I would be annoyed if all of the performances were during the day. Our school always does 2 performances - one during the day (for the other kids in the school and any parents that want to attend) and one in the evening for parents/families. We only have a few performances per grade each year, so maybe that results in more people trying to attend. But I'd estimate the student attendance/performance rate around 90%.

[hski2349]

I would be grateful that somebody thought of that. Yes, I would wish I was there, but it would in now way bother or offend me that another mom sent me pics. Again, I would be grateful.

[SJ]

What??

I would love it. I LOVE when daycare texts me pictures (it is rare as they are discouraged from using phones or texting parents) or tells me things I am "missing".

DCP tells me lots of moms are "jealous" of her & the other teachers- I will never understand that. I LOVE that she LOVES DD and that they have a good relationship. I want to see pictures of DD, even more so when it's of things I cannot be there for.

[drloretta]

I would love it.

DD's school regularly sends pictures out to us if there are events going on during the day. SAHM or WM, it's fun to see them.

I think the person who mentioned it is a little oversensitive.

[Marmee]

I rarely go to parties because I don't want to get a babysitter for them (there are tons since I have 3 kids in school) & love seeing the pics...either from teachers or parents. Two parents have really good cameras & will send out links to shutter fly albums from parties/sports which is nice too.

[niq]

I would like it. It'd be a little odd if it were just a random parent, but if it was the "parent liason" or just someone I knew was very actively involved with school activites (like always signs up to chaperone etc.), I wouldn't bat an eye.

But I can see the sensitive person's position too.

[noodleskooze]

I'll be honest and say it would make me a tinge sad that I couldn't be there myself, but ultimately I'd be grateful you took the time.

[cinco]

I think it is very thoughtful and would appreciate it.

[lizlemon19]

I wouldn't mind unless there was some passive-aggressive message or something. A friend texted me pics of a field trip last year and I thought it was cute.

[my4girls]

I would love it. I love getting pics of my kids during the day, it makes me smile. Dd1 actually had something today I had to miss and her friends mom sent me a video, I was so grateful

[spanikopita]

I would like it, and I would feel bad.

[april37]

Dec 18, 2014 16:01:39 GMT -5 Jennyanydots said:

Side note: why do they have these events during the day? I just found out that the school my DD will be going to next year has their JK and SK Christmas concert during the day. What is the reasoning behind having it when the majority of parents work?

They have them during the day because teachers, etc. don't get paid to be there in the evening. It would be too expensive to pay them overtime.  

[cowboyjoe]

I would love to get pics of DD. I would be sad that I wasn't there, but I would be with or without pictures of the day, so I would want people to send away!

[undecidedowl]

I would like it. The guilt will be there no matter what, so I might as well get some cute pictures!

If you are worried, next time you could always add "let me know if you aren't interested in getting these pictures."