If it were your ex's first name, that would be weird. But a middle name, and a name that is relatively common, you are fine. No one would possibly think that's weird.
Now I'm sitting here thinking, and I can only remember the middle name of one of my ex boyfriends.
I put in another vote for August/Augie (that was one of our choices if we had had a boy) or Theodore/Teddy.
I almost decided on Will for a boy, even though my xH was William. I think middle names/parents' names are enough removed that it's not weird. Especially with a common name like Thomas.
We named our daughter Kate even though H's ex-gf is a Katie, so I wouldn't even think twice about using an ex's middle name or parent's name, especially one as common as Thomas.
I love the name Thomas – my Dad is Thomas/Tom/Tommy. If we have another boy he will probably be Andrew Thomas, and our son is James Richard – Andy? Jimmy? Richie? My brother is Richard/Rich/Richie.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Dec 19, 2014 15:01:18 GMT -5
No one has said Nicholas/Nick yet? I generally dislike nicknames because our last name is short, so I feel like our first names need a little oomph, but love Nicholas. Nick sounds so dumb with our last name though.
I don't think anyone will notice a connection to your ex, but if you are going to think about it every single day and be bothered by it, I'd go with something else.
My son is Henry and I apparently put so much thought into it that I didn't realize Hank was a nickname until he was born. We call him Hen or Henny, which was also his Dutch great-grandfather's name.