Post by dulcemariamar on Dec 19, 2014 14:32:55 GMT -5
I don't like people telling me what Christmas should look like at my house or how to spend my money. Kids could care less if a gift comes from Santa or from their parents. They probably don't even check the tag.
And I think the biggest comparison is between siblings than with friends.
I am not a fan of Christmas excess and will not be giving my child piles and piles of presents ever (no elaborate birthday parties, I'll encourage her to have a wedding that isn't over the top, etc.), but it still rubs me the wrong way. Just don't be an A-hole and try not to raise your kid to be an A-hole. Done.
Meh, that is not something I feel I personally need to worry much about...but my kids (like many others) are in a bubble of friends with similar backgrounds at school.
I remember once noticing how my best friend (who lived across the street) only got a sweater, colored pencils and a little candy. I was a little shocked (didn't say a word though) her parents got her so little (same socio-economics) but she seemed fine with it. That's the one & only time I really compared & I was in 8th grade. My kids have never mentioned it & one has been in school for 8yrs already. By the time a kid wants an xbox 9 chances out if 10 they'll figure out who Santa is if they didn't already. They may not say anything but they know.
Post by shellbear09 on Dec 19, 2014 17:07:18 GMT -5
Yeah I'll do Santa how I like in my own house thank you. My kid hopefully will always get more than a hat a mittens from santa and I'm not going to feel guilty for that. We also will teach giving to those less fortunate and being thankful for what you have, material or not. I don't see the point of a post like that and a much nicer sentiment would have been about giving to kids that really won't have anything from santa.
My parents always had Santa bring only stockings of little things. I liked that and will do that with my son (I don't think DH has strong feelings about doing it differently)
My mom just said today that one of my sisters or I asked why Santa brought our neighbor a bike when we got little things. I don't think it ultimately bothered any of us much.
When I was growing up, I never got anything from Santa. I grew up just fine and didn't feel discriminated against. Its suggesting that all kids that aren't rich Christians are SOL. That's not what the holidays are about.
Yep. Santa never came to my house and he won't ever be visiting my kid, so I guess we're just unfortunate. Lol
My next door neighbors growing up always had these crazy extravagant Christmases and we had regular middle-class Christmases. We didn't get only mittens, but we also didn't get three different kinds of Power Wheels and 16 Nintendo games and whatever else was big in those days. Honestly it never occurred to me to wonder why Santa gave the neighbors so much more than he gave us. I was too wrapped up in enjoying my new things.
This is a really stupid PSA; people do what they can for their kids and it's presumptuous and overbearing to try to dictate what other people do via a viral Facebook post (even one that is well meaning). There are a million ways you can help brighten the life of someone less fortunate during the holidays. This is not one of them.
Christmas is a big deal in this house. Both Santa and otherwise. I own. I admit it. I love it. I have no shame. No regrets. Because I don't do 542523 other things throughout the course of the year other families do (extra toys at Target, huge birthday parties, using toys as rewards, big outing etc.).
Should I post a PSA encouraging other parents not do the things I don't just in case my kids catch on?
Nah. I'll get off my FB high horse and teach my kids that every family is different, instill that every family has different values that are all important and generally try not to make them be a$$holes as grown adults.