The follow up makes him sound like more of a dick than the original.
I agree. And I think too much weight is being given to "love languages" here. "You're getting black because I am not returning it" is not a love language issue. Realizing that he got the wrong thing and making it clear that he doesn't give a shit is just being an asshole. Sorry OP. I hope you still exchange it for the one you want. And it sucks that he's giving you an errand for Christmas and doesn't care.
Yeah. This. H is not a gift person, so I've had to do a combo of adjusting my expectations and being explicitly clear about those expectations. But he has also listened, learned and changed his behavior because he wants me to be happy.
"Oops, I got the wrong thing, but that's your problem" would really hurt my feelings. I'm sorry your H is being a dick about this. Don't let it ruin Christmas, but definitely exchange it as soon as you get the chance.
I hope he is just teasing, is that a possibility? Maybe, it is red and he wants you to be surprised. It is annoying I give you that, and yes I'd return it. He's taken the fun out of the gift.
If I was your DH, I would be mad at myself for messing up. Maybe there's a chance he is mad at himself but is taking it out on you? Still not okay but I'm hopeful part of him is recognizing he messed up here.
And can I just say, just because somebody's love language isn't the same as yours doesn't let them off the hook. If you have a different love language than your spouse, the point is to attempt to be more conscientious of that and attempt to show them love in their language and vice versa, and also to recognize when they are showing you love in their language. My love language is gifts, DH's is not, but he recognizes that and at least gives it a fighting effort, which I appreciate.
Wow--I'm surprised to see people getting so up in arms about this. So much that people are suggesting that not only you return it, but also return the gifts you bought him for something he hates?
Last year for Christmas I asked DH to buy me a wireless mouse. He went to Best Buy and bought me a $90 wireless mouse. I asked him to return it because all I really wanted was the cheap one that was on sale at Target for $9.00 and thought it was ridiculous to spend that much on a mouse. He too got all up in arms and didn't want to return it.
Turns out he really just hates returning things. I returned it, he bought me a new mouse. Issue solved, we're still married and I didn't give him terrible gifts out of spite.
Well if he's not into gifts, I don't see why he would care whether you return it. He sounds like a dick noticing that it's wrong and refusing to exchange it himself, but if he really doesn't care about gifts he shouldn't be offended if you take it back for what you want, as long as you don't make a big fuss about how he screwed up.