I am judging

[spunkarella]

Who wants to join me? Got anything good to share?

One of my best friends from high school is getting married today, after dating his girlfriend for 8 years! DH and I introduced the two of them in college, so maybe I'm a little over-invested in their relationship, but...

His golden child-ish older brother and SIL just posted a pregnancy announcement on Facebook. Today. The WEDDING DAY of his quiet little brother who never gets any attention. Couldn't you let him have one effing day?!?

I am feeling so salty about this. I'm leaving for the wedding in a minute and plan to say not one word of congrats to the brother and SIL. I realize this is stupid and petty of me.

[Deleted]

Pieces of shit.

[AAM2012]

I'm sure even if you don't say anything they will find a way to bring it up. Assholes!

[ddi741]

My friend's SIL, announced her pregnancy at my friend's rehearsal dinner. Then spent the whole wedding day talking about her pregnancy and lamenting that she couldn't drink or dance because she was pregnant.

[scout8]

Wow. Someone can't stand the thought of not being the center of attention for a day.

[blondemoment123]

Dec 20, 2014 14:49:47 GMT -5 Stan said:

Gross.

I'm judging H. My grandmother always gives me a large XMas gift in cash. This year, she sent an extra 1k and made it out to both of us. I called him to tell him and he was like, "Oh, that's nice."

I was like, no mother effer, it's amazing. Your family never even says hi to me. Whatever, I'm deciding what to do with it then.

[mskitkat]

That's so mean. At my sister's wedding, people kept asking me if I had anything to announce (I had a cold, so I wasn't drinking). I finally snapped that even if I did, I certainly wouldn't announce at my sister's wedding!

[raangoli]

What the hell is wrong with people? Gah I'm so mad and I don't even know them!

[irene adler]

Assholes.

[irene adler]

I am judging the shit out of my SIL. Niece's teacher is recommending she get tested for autism, but SIL won't take her because "if there's something wrong I don't want to have to deal with follow up appts."

[shell24]

Dec 20, 2014 15:36:04 GMT -5 irene adler said:

I am judging the shit out of my SIL. Niece's teacher is recommending she get tested for autism, but SIL won't take her because "if there's something wrong I don't want to have to deal with follow up appts."

WTF?

Hopefully the school will intervene somehow. That is truly awful.

[Pom]

People suck in the original post and all subsequent additions. Put those fuckers on the naughty list. 'Year round.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

They're assholes. I'd probably find a way to call them out on it. "Surely you must be joking because no one with any sense of class would announce news like that on their sibling's wedding day!"

[heygrey]

that's so shitty. if they bring it up i would say "i'll congratulate you tomorrow. today i'm focusing on little brother and his new wife." they need to be called out.

[spunkarella]

So the bad news is I didn't get to call them out. The good news is they didn't come near me and try to AW their news.

It was a small wedding, so I got to spend lots of quality time with the groom and our friends, giggling and acting like high schoolers. It was a great time.

[hopenotlost]

My BIL's gf wore leggings that looked to be two sizes too small that had tiny holes in them, a tight shirt that had holes at the bottom, and some weird lacy top over that to the big family Christmas today. She looked like a street walker. Everyone kind of looked at each other like, wtf?

Oh and we were told she's pregnant again (this would be #4...and they have never been able to afford any of the kids they have), but she's denying it. We think it's because they know we aren't supportive of them having anymore kids, but whatever. We aren't paying for them, and we don't talk to MIL, so it's not like it's going to affect us any (except I suppose we will know where our tax dollars will be going).

[Deleted]

Rude!

[irene adler]

Dec 20, 2014 19:21:54 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Dec 20, 2014 14:40:22 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

Pieces of shit.

 I don't disagree but this was so hilarious to me for some reason.

irene adler, I hope your BIL is involved and will do what is necessary.  That's disgusting.

Unfortunately, there is no BIL. Just an absent baby daddy.

This will probably fall on my poor, overworked mil who supports them :/

[spunkarella]

I clearly need to step away from Facebook today. Someone just posted on the bride's wall that she's so sorry she couldn't make it, but she got caught up Christmas shopping in (nearby town) and didn't make it back in time for the wedding.

Why do people think this is okay?? And if I behaved that horribly, I sure as heck wouldn't announce it publicly to the bride!

People can really suck.

irene adler and chilerellanos I have no words.

[roseflower]

Dec 20, 2014 14:50:03 GMT -5 ddi741 said:

My friend's SIL, announced her pregnancy at my friend's rehearsal dinner. Then spent the whole wedding day talking about her pregnancy and lamenting that she couldn't drink or dance because she was pregnant.

Stuff like this...gah.

5 years ago one of my best friends died...she was only 22. We met in youth group and she dated someone we went to youth group with for 5 years...they broke up a few months before she passed away. His sister came to the funeral...and passed out her high school graduation invitations.
It's been 5 years and I'm still bitter.

To make it even more...insane. She was being homeschooled. When she handed me the invitation I straight up asked if she was even going to graduate on time. (Because I knew she was behind on her work)

Who does that!?!

[roseflower]

Dec 20, 2014 20:54:00 GMT -5 spunkarella said:

I clearly need to step away from Facebook today. Someone just posted on the bride's wall that she's so sorry she couldn't make it, but she got caught up Christmas shopping in (nearby town) and didn't make it back in time for the wedding.

Why do people think this is okay?? And if I behaved that horribly, I sure as heck wouldn't announce it publicly to the bride!

People can really suck.

irene adler and chilerellanos I have no words.

What?
Why would anyone admit to that.

[cjeanette]

These are all really judge worthy things in here.

Nice work.

[spunkarella]

roseflower I just can't with that. WTF.

[Deleted]

Dec 20, 2014 14:50:03 GMT -5 ddi741 said:

My friend's SIL, announced her pregnancy at my friend's rehearsal dinner. Then spent the whole wedding day talking about her pregnancy and lamenting that she couldn't drink or dance because she was pregnant.

She couldn't dance when pregnant? My OB must have forgotten to mention that.

[imojoebunny]

Dec 20, 2014 14:49:47 GMT -5 Stan said:

Gross.

I'm judging H. My grandmother always gives me a large XMas gift in cash. This year, she sent an extra 1k and made it out to both of us. I called him to tell him and he was like, "Oh, that's nice."

I was like, no mother effer, it's amazing. Your family never even says hi to me. Whatever, I'm deciding what to do with it then.

I get 5x more for Christmas than my DH from my parents each year.  We have never really talked about it.  I put it in a savings account after I spend a little.  I now have enough to go on a really nice European vacation.   

[ddi741]

Dec 20, 2014 22:23:59 GMT -5 @kcpokergal said:

Dec 20, 2014 14:50:03 GMT -5 ddi741 said:

My friend's SIL, announced her pregnancy at my friend's rehearsal dinner. Then spent the whole wedding day talking about her pregnancy and lamenting that she couldn't drink or dance because she was pregnant.

She couldn't dance when pregnant? My OB must have forgotten to mention that.

And she was like a week pregnant and kept putting her hand on her stomach. It was all about her, regardless of the wedding going on around her.

[mbcdefg]

I'm judging the parents of the kids at our holiday party who ran screaming through the house, attempted to swing from our gas pipes, broke a really nice personalized Christmas decoration, and put a hole in our wall.

[krisandgrace]

Dec 21, 2014 2:15:34 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I'm judging the parents of the kids at our holiday party who ran screaming through the house, attempted to swing from our gas pipes, broke a really nice personalized Christmas decoration, and put a hole in our wall.

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What the hell?! My friend had a Christmas party last year and let people bring their kids. One kid got a small group to go upstairs which was off limits. They were making do much noise that the hostess went up to find them all jumping on the beds. She told kids to come back down and the leader kid talked back to her and argued with her about it. She found the mom of the kid and told her and the mom just said they were "being kids".

[mbcdefg]

Dec 21, 2014 7:52:50 GMT -5 krisandgrace said:

Dec 21, 2014 2:15:34 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I'm judging the parents of the kids at our holiday party who ran screaming through the house, attempted to swing from our gas pipes, broke a really nice personalized Christmas decoration, and put a hole in our wall.

[br

What the hell?! My friend had a Christmas party last year and let people bring their kids. One kid got a small group to go upstairs which was off limits. They were making do much noise that the hostess went up to find them all jumping on the beds. She told kids to come back down and the leader kid talked back to her and argued with her about it. She found the mom of the kid and told her and the mom just said they were "being kids".

Yeah, we had a "leader" family that was encouraging all the other kids to scream. Before the showed up/after they left, every other kid was good as gold. Their parents bring them to parties because it means someone else will watch them. Leader's mom finally got off her butt and sheepishly suggested to the kid that he might want to stop, and Leader just said "Nah" and ran away, and Mom shrugged and said "all right."

I could write a book on these kids but I'll just say that I don't care for them on a personal level. Every single time they come over I have someone pull me aside and ask who they are and wtf is wrong with them. But they're part of a group and so excluding them would cause drama with some other people we really like. Next year I may just deal with the drama and not invite them.

[Deleted]

I'm judging the shit out of myself yesterday. I started drinking at 2pm yesterday while at a ladies cookie baking party. Then proceeded to continue to drink through dinner out and a friend's holiday party. I puked when we got home and have been puking all morning. Ugh. I'm filled with such self-loathing when I do this!