where should we eat christmas dinner?

[mpc]

my parents and brother are visiting for Christmas. We'll all go to my ILs house at some point on Christmas day.

Yesterday we told MIL we were going to do our own lunch with my fam at our house because we didn't want to disrupt DS's nap time. We'd come to their house later in the afternoon for desserts, presents, and board games. I've already planned a menu and bought all the food for our christmas lunch. Apparently ILs also bought enough food to serve the 6 of us at their dinner. (BILs will be there so ILs won't be alone.)

Today they text us and say they'll push back dinner til later so we can all come after nap. Ugh. I don't know what to say. I kind of want to stick to our original plan. DH kind of wants to go eat with his parents. Tell me what to do.

[dcn]

Can you do your lunch on Xmas eve? I'd probably do that and then go to the ILs if your parents and brother are ok with that.

[CloudBee]

You kind of told them at the last minute. I think you should go there, and cook your food on Christmas Day.

[mpc]

Dec 22, 2014 15:48:25 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

You kind of told them at the last minute. I think you should go there, and cook your food on Christmas Day.

yes but we never actually said we were eating there in the first place. plans were ambiguous at best. They didn't think they'd see us at all, since it's technically my family's year. but then my family decided to come to us, so we told ILs good news, we can come see you on christmas day since we'll be in town. blah blah blah, it doesn't really matter now. We should've been more clear but we weren't cause we hadn't figured out what we wanted. that's on us, for sure.

[wavepool]

I'd go to the ILs (assuming your parents and brother are included) after nap and eat with them. Can you make your meal for Christmas Eve?
I don't know your MIL, but sounds like she's trying to accommodate nap time and would like to have everyone together. If this is not her at all, stay home:)

[wavepool]

Dec 22, 2014 15:57:07 GMT -5 mpc said:

Dec 22, 2014 15:48:25 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

You kind of told them at the last minute. I think you should go there, and cook your food on Christmas Day.

yes but we never actually said we were eating there in the first place. plans were ambiguous at best. They didn't think they'd see us at all, since it's technically my family's year. but then my family decided to come to us, so we told ILs good news, we can come see you on christmas day since we'll be in town. blah blah blah, it doesn't really matter now. We should've been more clear but we weren't cause we hadn't figured out what we wanted. that's on us, for sure.

This may change my mind, since it's your family's year. Our "rule" is that, if it's my year, I get to choose and he gets to choose on his year. Going over after nap for games, presents, desserts, apps, for the evening sounds like a nice idea. 

[shellbear09]

That's tough and I would be annoyed at mil for putting you in this position. Especially with this being your family's year I would not give in and still do your lunch. If they wanted you for dinner they should have asked before buying food.

[ilikedonuts]

It's not their year. You are already being nice by still going to visit. This isn't your husbands choice. Do what you want with your family.