"Honey Do" Lists

[travelbug]

Do you make them for your H? Does he prefer to be told verbally what to do or a list guy? Or does he figure it out on his own what needs to be done?  

[Deleted]

My H doesn't make lists for himself. I make a big general to-do list for both of us. He actually likes when I remind him to do things because he tends to be very forgetful, so I just tell him every so often what needs to be done, usually in decreasing order of urgency.

[MrsMB]

He used to love when I made him a list. I'll have to do that again eventually. Now, we're soooo in the whole "new house zone" that he's always working on something...so I really don't have to. He's good about making his own lists and including things I want in there. 

[bk1]

I usually tell him a list. He says that he likes me to write it down, but when I do that he gets upset. Just easier to tell him what I want.

He is good about finding things on his own if I don't specifically point him in a certain direction.

[travelbug]

I usually only make him one if he has a few weeks to complete it. IE, I'll be making him one today to complete before he starts his semester in the middle of January. So he will have a while to complete a few projects I need him to do. Otherwise I just verbally tell him and remind him a lot since he is SO forgetful haha.

[katespade]

I don't physically write them out, because if I did that they would always get lost. I usually send him a list in a text and then harass him until he follows through.

[HoneySpider]

He does better if he has a list, so in the same way we meal plan (or used to, have to get back to that) we also used to write out stuff for the week such as chores, working out, work events, etc. I need to get a calendar or something for us to write our stuff on.

I have my own personal to do list and then each day I make a to do list for that day. I like lists.

[awick14]

I make a list and post it on the fridge, but it's for both of us to do not just him.

If I need him to do something I tell him and I ask him if he can have it done by (date) and usually he gets it done.

[pooh8402]

nope. he usually makes me lists, haha. he's much better at keeping up the house than I am. if I have something I want him to do, then I usually just verbally tell him, or email him so there is written documentation that he was told.

I do have my personal to-do lists as well. usually it's either a scrap of paper that I wrote on at work and carried in my pocket, or it's written on my bathroom mirror in dry erase marker.

[estrellita]

I do occasionally. I've found it's easier to get H to do the things I need him to do if I list it out for him. Sometimes it's an actual paper list, other times it's just texts. Something I want to do is a weekly "to do" list for both of us with a list of things I want done that week. Doesn't matter if it's done throughout the week or over the weekend as long as it gets done by whoever has the time!

[wanderingenough]

I usually just mention it when something needs to be done.

[krystee]

H is always telling me that he can figure out what needs to be done and doesn't need to be told, so he would not be a fan of a list. If I want his help with something, I just ask. He is really good about doing his share of the work.

[ginkgoleaf]

DH makes his own lists. If there's something I notice, I just mention it to him.

[Deleted]

I just tell him if something needs to be done. Then I give him a few days and usually do it myself since he didn't after asking him multiple times.