Friends and opinions on social issues

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Do you agree with your friends/family on most social and political issues? What happens if you disagree?  Do you enjoy debating? My inlaws have some antiquated ideas on things, and I keep my mouth shut on those topics. No need to incur their wrath.

Most of H's friends share our views.  In the past, my friends and I have been mostly in agreement as well. I have found, though, that as we grew up and our beliefs changed a bit, I grew apart from some of them.  My abusive ex automatically assumed anyone who disagreed with his views was an idiot, so it wasn't until after I left him that I started to discover what I actually believed.  Before that, I just parroted what he said because to do otherwise wasn't worth it.

Do you and your H share most of your beliefs? We do, and after my prior experience I wasn't interested in anyone who was vastly different from me.   With H, quite frankly I don't enjoy debating and we rarely do.  I got enough conflict with the last guy to last me a few lifetimes.

[MrsMB]

I agree with them on most items. DH and I have married friends who slightly veer off from where we believe. But we've all been friendly about it. I am in the minority when it comes to message boards on a lot of items so I tend to stay quiet on the interwebs.

With DH, we agree on almost all items. Just last year, he changed his views on religion so we aren't the same there currently. It's taken a lot of work on my part to navigate that, but so far, it's been OK. No arguments. He supports me on my views. On other social issues and political issues, we're almost identical....which helps  ...especially since DH has loved debating (just for the fun of it) and I do not. 

[pooh8402]

For the most part, yes. I think that is the nature of where I grew up and live; most of us around here grew up with similar values.

I'm more liberal than some, and less than others. DH is more conservative than me, so that leads to some arguments, but the important issues are the same.

[wanderingenough]

It's a mix. Some friends align closely to my beliefs, while others are completely opposite. I was raised in a house that didn't discuss money, religion, or politics with others (ironic since my dad is ALL about the debates now), so I don't tend to engage much for fear of damaging friendships ---even though I'm pretty confidant that wouldn't happen. H usually handles the debates. Ha

ETA- H and I share beliefs when it comes to basically all major issues. Interestingly, we both changed on a couple social issues from where we were when we met-- and yet grew in that new direction together at the same time.

[estrellita]

H and I agree on almost everything. Most of my friends either have the same or similar political views, but I do have a few friends way on the other side of the spectrum.

For family, ILs seem to have similar views as us. His grandma on the other hand.. lol. My parents I think are slightly more conservative than we are, but not overly so. My dad's family though mostly has the opposite views on almost everything.

I hate debating politics with most people. I just feel so strongly in most of my view points that I have a hard time not getting heated about it. I'm all for hearing differing viewpoints, but at the end of the day, there are certain topics I just won't change my mind on.

[travelbug]

H and I agree on 90%, but all the major issues and religion we 100% agree on which makes things really nice. H LOVES to debate and I detest it with a passion so I never spare with him.

Friends, both mutually and personally I'd say we agree about 80% and that is good enough. That would be such dry, boring conversation if we didn't have any variances.

I have 1-2 mutual friends that are on the opposite side of things for every single thing and it's so fun to be around them and have a different point of view, it's quite refreshing.

[bk1]

DH and I agree on most things. We agree with my mother more often then not. We usually seem to disagree with his parents. We are much more liberal. But, gotta remember we live in a very conservative area. So I disagree with a lot of my extended family. We hang out with more liberal friends for sure.

[Alyssa]

I ignore them, I'm not confrontational.  Plus the ones I don't agree with aren't going to up and change their views simply because I call them out, they are deep rooted stubborn views that I don't agree with.