Who is the pusher/driver in your household?

[travelbug]

Do you push/drive your husband to get things done or does he push you? Who reminds who what needs to be done? Which one of you takes initiative before the other asks? etc Does it cause a fight between you guys if one is more of the doer vs. relax type? 

[MrsMB]

DH is the driver! I am very strict on keeping myself scheduled. If there are additional projects, he'll usually remind me before I can write them down on my to-do lists.

[HoneySpider]

It definitely depends what it is. Sometimes it's me, sometimes it's him, and sometimes it's neither of us which really isn't good

[travelbug]

Me. Always me. With everything. It gets quite tiring at times. It's never blown into a full fight. Most of the time I just need to take a day or two and breathe then I feel better about being the doer/pusher. H likes to get things done and feels good when it is done, but he doesn't take initiative to start doing the tasks unless there is a deadline/due dates for school.

[mrssandro]

I would say me as the pusher but sometimes he can be a pusher.

[estrellita]

Probably 90% me. I'm always pushing him to do things because he probably won't do half of them if I didn't. He has his moments of pushing me, but it doesn't happen often. It occasionally causes fights if I think he's slacking, lol.

[melsamoony]

I would say 60% me 40% him but like HoneySpider it depends on what it is.

[pooh8402]

He is totally the driver in general, but I am with certain things (IF and baby stuff mostly).

[mrsb53]

Jan 6, 2015 17:18:31 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

I would say 60% me 40% him but like HoneySpider it depends on what it is.

This probably describes me and my H pretty accurately too. It depends on what it is, but for most things, it is me. I am more of a pusher on little detail stuff, or tasks that need to be completed (such as calling places or renewing library books or going grocery shopping and making a list). He is more of a pusher on house chores and exercising.

[bk1]

Both. I am better at the day to day things, he is more with big projects. It works well most the time.

[luv2rn4fun]

Definitely depends on what it is...we both tend to push each other and hold each other accountable. Luckily, we are both disciplined and get our chores done without having to nag the other person. We go back and forth on big projects though...I find some things more important while DH has his priorities and we work together to accomplish everything.

[awick14]

Most of the time it's me. Rarely DH does.