We lost the baby

[turtletop90]

We had the anatomy ultrasound today and they couldn't find the heartbeat. I'm 18 wks 6 days. I'm still in shock and feel sad and numb. They said I can get surgery, or they can induce me and deliver. I kind of want to just get this over with and move on, so I think I want the surgery. I don't think I could live with seeing the baby - it would be too hard on me emotionally. If anyone has gone through this before, please share your story. I can't stop crying.

We just found out from the doctor the baby measured 18 wks 2 days, so it happened in the last week or so. He said that it's nothing I did, but I can't help but review the last week over and over in my head.  

[scribellesam]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your child.

[mandapanda18]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[cinco]

I am so sorry.

[minzy]

I am so, so sorry for your loss.     Hugs to you.

[jssymom14]

I am so so sorry for your loss.

[charlotteandwilbur]

I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you and your family.

[Velar Fricative]

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss.

[teatimefor2]

I am so, so sorry. I have no advice expect to say be kind to yourself. Hugs, you and your DH are in my prayers.

I am so sorry.

[Deleted]

Oh goodness. I'm so sorry.

There are a number of posters who had second trimester losses, so I know you are definitely not alone:(

[jackpackage]

Huge hugs. I am so sorry for your loss.

[cincodemayo]

I am so very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and your H.

[autumnfire]

Hugs, I'm so so sorry for your loss.

[turtlegirl]

Oh my goodness, I am so so so sorry. Please take care of yourself and pick whatever path is best for you and your family. Lots of hugs and prayers coming your way.

[hermione]

Oh, no! I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hugs, hugs, hugs.

[whitepicketfence]

Oh goodness. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss.

[djc315]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[grosnl19]

So sorry to hear this, take care of yourself.

[countthestars]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[ladygrey]

I am so sorry. Big hugs to you and your family.

[rubyturpin]

Oh I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

[UnderProtest]

I'm so sorry.

[starlily]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Deleted]

I am so very sorry for your loss. 

[ufcasey]

I am so sorry.

[wavepool]

I'm so sorry.

[thebreakfastclub]

I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Ashley&Scott]

I am so sorry.

[rach03k]

I am so, so sorry. I am usually just a lurker here, but I had a similar loss last summer. There was no heartbeat at our 20 week appointment.

I opted to be induced and see the baby. I was very afraid of what he might look like especially because I lean towards being squeamish, but it wasn't as scary as I thought it might be. Obviously it totally depends on the person though, and there is no right choice. If you would like to hear more about what the baby might look like please pm me and I would be happy to share details with you. I had someone do that for me before my induction.

My heart goes out to you. Even after having gone through this I don't have the right words. You will be in my thoughts. If there is anything else you want to know about the experience of losing a baby at this gestational age, again I am more than happy to share.