Post by redheadbaker on Jan 13, 2015 20:27:30 GMT -5
So, a while back, The Bump introduced a mobile app. Well, a slew of butthurts would leave reviews, saying how awful the community section was.
Which has now resulted in new "guidelines" (not official TOU) that basically say No swearing, No snark, No snarky gifs, be nice. And mods were banned en masse for "leaking" information about the proposed new guidelines.
Months ago when the BJ/BM transition was made known, the mods were invited to comment on many issues and problems that we had been talking about for ages. The main XO group leader even got involved because the mods banned together to have a voice about these changes and shifts we were seeing as well as the problems. We felt heard- hell, I even had a personal phone call with a member of the board myself.
Then, slowly, it was made clear that our feedback was not actually being heard. That the changes at XO were actually intentional and calculated- they do want a different tone and atmosphere. They do want to cater to the app and new members more than the regs and the older ways of doing things. We looked at draft language, gave feedback, then more and more.
And this last time, it was posted as an announcement that the tool out was happening and we were asked to comment on typos and possible sensitivity problems. We commented on wording like "hazing" and other full content. Constructive criticism aimed at making things work better for our existing communities.
Radio silence for a long time, until they came back at wrote us a letter telling us that they valued our feedback but that these items were not up for discussion, and if we felt we could not support them as is then they would be sad to see us go. Henceforth known as the "fuck off" letter.
Many people then commented on the nature of the letter and how it was inappropriate and how badly this was going to go over. We asked for timing clarification. We called out that the letter was passive aggressive and seemed to violated the Community Rules itself.
And a FEW but not all MODs who spoke out were suddenly banned for supposedly sharing information about the Mod Board and speaking out against XO publicly- though the evidence is weak. If it is for things said on the Mod board, then more should have been banned. And no evidence was given to support that they shared it so... They banned the naysayers that spoke loudest, and that lead this group.
And then she posted that they were banned for conflict with BM and that specific reasons will not be given. And that Bump higher ups do not like the culture of Parenting and are okay with a mass exodus.
They've banned a LOT of the long term mods/regs for disagreeing with these guidelines including @pobrecita. Amazing, really. I thought it was bad enough a few years ago but this is just...wow.
Post by UMaineTeach on Jan 13, 2015 20:38:04 GMT -5
sounds like they were asking for feedback to get an idea about what they could do to do the opposite and turn the place into either a ghost town or BabyGaga/iVillage.
While we can’t come up with examples of all the types of posts that are personal attacks, here’s some examples of things that are -- and ways to phrase things so they aren’t.
Personal attack: The members of the _________ board are a bunch of crazies. Not a personal attack: I was reading the _________ board and I don’t understand the desire to focus on..... Not a personal attack: I really hated the movie I saw last week, ___________, and I can’t understand why anyone enjoyed it.
Personal attack: Member X posted this thread about ____________. She's such an idiot. Not a personal attack: The ___________ forum isn’t the right place to post about ___________. You might want to find another forum for that. Not a personal attack: Recently IRL a mom I saw did something that I really didn't agree with. How would you have reacted to......
Personal attack: I think you’re an asshole. Personal attack: I think you’re acting like an asshole. Not a personal attack: I think your comments and actions are rude and inappropriate. You’re being unfair. Report as a TOS violation if: Someone is being racist, homophobic, sexist or cruel; you don’t need to call them out on the forums and risk them turning on you. Let us know so we can get them off the forums.
Personal attack: Fuck off. If you feel the need to speak to someone in this manner, that means it’s time to step away from the thread or contact a moderator or admin.
While we can’t come up with examples of all the types of posts that are personal attacks, here’s some examples of things that are -- and ways to phrase things so they aren’t.
Personal attack: The members of the _________ board are a bunch of crazies. Not a personal attack: I was reading the _________ board and I don’t understand the desire to focus on..... Not a personal attack: I really hated the movie I saw last week, ___________, and I can’t understand why anyone enjoyed it.
Personal attack: Member X posted this thread about ____________. She's such an idiot. Not a personal attack: The ___________ forum isn’t the right place to post about ___________. You might want to find another forum for that. Not a personal attack: Recently IRL a mom I saw did something that I really didn't agree with. How would you have reacted to......
Personal attack: I think you’re an asshole. Personal attack: I think you’re acting like an asshole. Not a personal attack: I think your comments and actions are rude and inappropriate. You’re being unfair. Report as a TOS violation if: Someone is being racist, homophobic, sexist or cruel; you don’t need to call them out on the forums and risk them turning on you. Let us know so we can get them off the forums.
Personal attack: Fuck off. If you feel the need to speak to someone in this manner, that means it’s time to step away from the thread or contact a moderator or admin.
Post by UMaineTeach on Jan 13, 2015 20:45:28 GMT -5
PLEASE DON’T: Recruit members to leave The Bump to join another community. However, if someone needs information that is not found on TB, it is okay to direct them elsewhere in a helpful manner.