Board privacy question

[gogadgetgo]

If you were a longtime poster on this (or any) board, and had to leave abruptly due to an IRL situation, would you expect everyone to never speak your name again?  Even if it's not in regard to whatever issue caused you to leave?

I've been thinking about this for awhile, based on the situation for a certain ML poster and the remaining posters who are her board watchdogs.  I only know the most basic details of what happened and I'm not privy to the super secret PM chain.  I'm not fishing for details.

[Deleted]

No, that's weird.

[cjeanette]

Yeah I think that is a bit odd. Someone reported that thread which I think is a bit over the top.

[stealthmom]

Not at all.

[havarti]

I think it just draws more attention to the problem. If people just said, "Nope! She's not around anymore, maybe someone else can help," it would be waaaaaaay less obvious.

[Deleted]

It's odd.
There is no possible way to control what happens on the internet.

And board batwomen are the worst. Almost worse than the poster who is expecting this to happen. (I don't know the ML backstory, but I've seen it on other boards and it's so strange). You're just drawing more attention to it by appearing every time a bat single comes out.

[VillainV]

Honestly, if I left abruptly, I wouldn't even expect anyone to notice, let alone for my name to come up in conversation.

[Deleted]

Jan 14, 2015 14:13:35 GMT -5 VillainV said:

Honestly, if I left abruptly, I wouldn't even expect anyone to notice, let alone for my name to come up in conversation.

Ditto!

[rootbeerfloat]

I was confused and was about to ask if this is what it felt to be @mrswindycity! I think I figured out who is being referenced, but I don't know the backstory and don't particularly care.

But, no, you cannot expect to be erased from Internet memory.

[Deleted]

Jan 14, 2015 14:09:20 GMT -5 @this said:

No.

Also I know who you're talking about, but totally missed whatever went down and any details after that and I am SOOO curious!

If someone would PM me, I would be super happy. I'll tell you my old SN on the nest as a trade. LOL

I've followed it but I'm too lazy to type it all out. Let me know if no one else fills you in.

#toolazytotype

[gogadgetgo]

Ok, just wanted to make sure I wasn't completely crazy in my thoughts that it's ok for people to wonder about you or WANT TO ASK YOU A QUESTION COMPLETELY UNRELATED TO THE ORIGINAL PROBLEM.

[redheadk]

Wait, are we talking about the bf expert?

[scribellesam]

Yes, that situation is weird. I don't know all the details, but enough to make an educated guess. It's silly to forbid any mention of her name. ML is a strange place, their "rules" change constantly!

[scribellesam]

Jan 14, 2015 14:19:15 GMT -5 @applesauce said:

WHO IS THIS ABOUT PEOPLE???

BFing expert, pastor's wife.

[Deleted]

Maybe?  I mean you know how telephone works.  I could say "hey where's MWC I need a cool chicken avocado soup recipe?" and ten people would write back "hey I think she's not around but here's another recipe you can try," five people would say "here's her blog I saved it in my favorites," four people would say "avacado makes you fat," but one asshole would say "NO MWC is in jail right now according to this report I found on my access only law enforcement database and scanned into my computer and will share with all of you right now."

So sometimes though it seems dramatic and irrelevant it's best to just respect radio silence.  It also allows people in the know to act all privileged.

[redheadk]

Jan 14, 2015 14:25:51 GMT -5 @this said:

Jan 14, 2015 14:18:00 GMT -5 @roseyposey said:

I've followed it but I'm too lazy to type it all out. Let me know if no one else fills you in.

#toolazytotype

I got 8 PMs. LOL

We are some trifling bitches. hahahaha

I expect a reply

[starlily]

No. Certain people need to take it down a notch. But that could be said for the majority of that person's posts.

[gogadgetgo]

Jan 14, 2015 14:31:32 GMT -5 deej said:

Actually, what I'm really wondering is if all 8 stories were the same since I don't think anyone really "knows" what happened.

Mine involved Ms. Scarlet in the library with a candlestick.  Didn't yours?

[redheadk]

Jan 14, 2015 14:31:32 GMT -5 deej said:

Actually, what I'm really wondering is if all 8 stories were the same since I don't think anyone really "knows" what happened.

I'm wondering if @this will actually cough up her old screen name.

[SJ]

I rarely read that board and I know who you are talking about & the general story. You guys need to pay more attention.

But to answer the question, if I had to leave abruptly, I wouldn't expect to never be mentioned. I would, however, be appreciative if my friends tried to contain the situation and not make anything worse for me IRL.

I have not read the specific thread so I cannot comment on whether these particular watchdogs were out of line or not.

[spk926]

I think it's weird nobody will allow her name to be said! I also think what's going down is crap and someone (not her) is on a power trip!

[SJ]

I have no desire to see the PM's. I do want to know if they all told the same story though.

[SJ]

Jan 14, 2015 14:49:16 GMT -5 @this said:

Jan 14, 2015 14:42:15 GMT -5 SJ said:

I have no desire to see the PM's. I do want to know if they all told the same story though.

Yes.

Then it must be truth

[azurely]

I don't think anyone would notice if I stopped posting. I've been around more while on maternity leave because my kid spends half his time nursing and the other half sleeping on me, but I'm sure that'll change when I go back to work.

Anyway, no I don't think it's reasonable to expect that no one ever mention you again. After looking on ML, I know who you're referring to and can make a guess about what happened since she posted about some drama shortly before that, but who knows. If you are a super active poster with a lot of knowledge about one subject and suddenly leave, people are going to ask about you. I don't see why it's such a big deal, it was an innocent question and the OP didn't bring up any of her drama, but there are certain posters who seem to enjoy jumping down others' throats.

[rootbeerfloat]

Jan 14, 2015 14:53:33 GMT -5 @applesauce said:

Wait deej is that true about her being an AE of MB??

[sh10]

Jan 14, 2015 14:30:38 GMT -5 deej said:

So, other 7 people who PMed this, it's really shocking that she's an AE for MontereyBride, isn't it?

Was I not supposed to say?

Wait what? I need a PM!!

[sjh722]

Jan 14, 2015 15:04:17 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

Jan 14, 2015 14:59:03 GMT -5 @this said:

*saves everyone in this thread's personal pictures to photobucket*

Thank goodness I only post my good pics!

I just ask this: if you use my photos to catfish someone, make my life more glamorous. Also feel free to photoshop about 40 lbs off. TIA!

[stealthmom]

Well I hope she's ok. I was following their issues for a while but missed this last installment. **hopes @this will take the hint**

[cilantro]

Don't make me search for this, people.

ETA:  Never mind.  I don't believe it's the person I was hoping it was who acts like complete judgmental trash in threads on other boards (and now I have you ALLLLLLLL wondering ) 

[bearbaby]

Dammit! WHY do I have meetings during drama and then it's impossible to catch up.

I seriously do nothing at work except for like the 2 hours a week when I really need to be on GBCN.