Post by zeewifeandmama on Jan 14, 2015 20:17:36 GMT -5
Man it took us an embarrassingly long amount of time both times to even jump back into it. As for a routine... Maybe 18 months? All the while we had lots of open and honest convos and both assured each other we'd get back to it- especially after #2.
I had a really easy recovery from a c section and we did it probably within in 3 weeks pp bc H is a pain in my ass lol. But it didn't feel good until about 2 months pp and then we got back in the swing of things. I got knocked up again when DD was 7 months but miscarried and then got pregnant again right away and now we do it a little less frequently bc I'm rarely in the mood and DD only wants to sleep with one of us so getting alone time is not easy. But H and I both get very snippy with each other if it's been more then a week, we need that connection I guess.
We started back up again at...7? 8 weeks? I wasn't cleared at my 6 week appt due to some healing that still needed to happen so the doc told me to wait another week. I managed to put J off a few days more than a week because I had like negative desire to do it, but knew it needed to happen from a bonding and return to normalcy standpoint so I bit the proverbial bullet. The more we did it, the better it felt but I still didn't really want to do it so it took a lot of cajoling from J. We got back to our prebaby frequency fairly quickly (2-3x/week, probably by 6ish months) but my sex drive still isn't what it was. The Mirena I got at 6 weeks pp is probably at least partially to blame for that but it's not bad enough that I'd dare get it taken out, so I just go along with it when J initiates knowing that I'll get more into it once we get going (which is true).
Its a podcast my husband found. They talk about a lot of different issues, different desire levels, setting a good environment, etc..., and it's given us stuff to talk about.
Its a podcast my husband found. They talk about a lot of different issues, different desire levels, setting a good environment, etc..., and it's given us stuff to talk about.
Different with each baby. The first caused 3rd degree tears. I finally gave in at 8 weeks but it was too soon. I have had problems with the scar ever since. The middle 2 were c-section and we were back to twice a week from about 10 weeks on. This time I am exhausted. Pregnancy and c-section recovery is a lot diff r entry at 41. But, we are making a point of at least 2 days a week.
#1 we tried a few times but I don't remember being successful/enjoying it until around 6 months PP. We didn't get 'back to normal' - or back to our new normal until I was done BF at 1 year + pp.
Our first PP this time around was last week at 8 weeks PP. Last night again was improved from that, but I think it will be a few months before I feel fully back to normal down there. I also hate (ok not really) sex while breastfeeding (not at the same time!), so I won't feel really back to myself until that is done.