How would you answer these Qs for your child?

[Deleted]

I am doing a survey for my kid for a research study.
This question made me pause
'How manageable is this child?'
(Easy, very easy, somewhat easy, difficult, very difficult) compared to other kids you know.

What concerns you most about your child?

And the one question that made me happy to answer 'never true'
Smears or plays with bowel movements.

[Marmee]

Depends on the child. Now that I've had several, I definitely clearly see the differences. When I just had DD1 I really wasn't so sure how she compared to other kids, especially since we didn't have relatives/friends with kids for her first couple years.

[arch01]

somewhat easy

hm. fear/aversion to certain textures

[zeewifeandmama]

Somewhat easy
Biggest concern is that he's never going to wean lol

[scribellesam]

Difficult
His violent, uncontrollable tantrums

[spk926]

Somewhat easy

That she doesn't initiate using words she knows. She'll mimick and copy but for example if she's thirsty she leads us by the hand to the fridge and grunts and whines. Then we have to guess what she wants. She doesn't just say "water" or "milk".

[cinco]

I feel like there should be something b/w the somewhat easy and difficult. Average. I'd put all my kids there right now. My oldest (8) I would have put as difficult the last few years with her OCD and anxiety, but she has been dealing so well this year. Normal age stuff for the other 2.

[thebreakfastclub]

I consider DS to be very easy.

No real concerns now, except his very recent, but improving, sleep drama.

[imojoebunny]

Jan 14, 2015 21:20:51 GMT -5 @hannymaren said:

And the one question that made me happy to answer 'never true'
Smears or plays with bowel movements.

I am having flash backs to when we were out of town and two neighbor boys took a poop on our porch and smeared it everywhere, even put it in my DD's tea set.  Three adults  "cleaned" it before I came home, and I still found poop.  It was horrible. 

[Deleted]

dd1 easy. Big concern fine motor skills.

Dd2 somewhat difficult. No big concerns at this age.

[Deleted]

I'd put both my kids in the easy category. DS is a terrible sleeper which I don't know what's up. DD whines a ton and has constant mood swings but she's also 3.5. She is fairly easily consoled however so I can't complain too much.

DS. His inability to sleep. I know there a bad sleepers everywhere but being up every 2 hours at 11 months old isn't normal.

DD is about as normal as they get honestly. She's so average all around that she's rarely concerning.

[stealthmom]

Difficult

Nothing really concerns me. I just happen to have little patience and a kid who requires a lot of it. We're not a good match.

[AlpineSlide]

Jan 14, 2015 21:30:35 GMT -5 zeewifeandmama said:

Somewhat easy
Biggest concern is that he's never going to wean lol

ditto both!

[Deleted]

When I picked DD up at daycare yesterday, she told me that Dd had reached into her pants and smeared poop in her bathroom. glad it was there and not at home. Probably a mishap while trying to wipe. Hopefully doesn't become a habit.

[SJ]

I would say Very Easy if comparing but I also think it takes more to ruffle me than some. So maybe others would look at her and think she was somewhat easy or even difficult? She is our first and most of our friends don't have kids yet, so who knows!

Like I think it's totally fine and expected to have 2 wakeups per night (14 hours) at this age. But then others complain about 1 wakeup or even 0 wakeups with weird timing at her age and I think "huh, maybe she's not as easy as I think."

No major concerns right now.

[ryry]

For dd1, easy. I really don't have any major concerns about her now.

Dd2, somewhat easy. She's still so young so it's hard to say what I'm really concerned with, but I want her to learn appropriate ways to manage frustration. But I think that happens in preschool, not at 18 months, so we have some time.

[anaps28]

DS1 Difficult and right now he just doesn't listen to us

[heygrey]

somewhat easy. solidly middle of the pack. he could be easier in some areas, but he could be a lot worse, too.

biggest concern - ability/willingness to feed himself. although he's probably in the range of normal for this, but i wish he would pick something up off his tray and put it in his mouth himself once in a while. we are a huge blw fail over here.

[mlt]

I would say difficult.

His attitude and sass. He is routinely rude to me and MH and we aren't sure how to nip it in the bud. We don't know where it comes from because MH and I certainly don't speak to each other like that and DS's media is very limited.

[biogirl21]

Somewhat easy. Mostly content to play by himself, doesn't require much entertainment. Main problem was sleep, but has vastly improved over the last 3 months, thank goodness. Somewhat picky eater.

Biggest concern would be gross motor I guess. Not really waving, has been crawling for a long time but not walking. Also concerned about talking. Only says dada and baba.

[sent]

I think she's difficult.

What concerns me? She eats like a bird, actually, birds probably eat better than her. She has no teeth and even as a dentist, I can't help but wonder where they are. She is also not STTN past age 1. Which will probably come in its own time, but dang I am tired.

I asked my mom today how DD compares to me and my sibling at 13 months and she was like "OMG no way. Grand-DD is way more difficult. You two would chug 8 oz and eat big bowls of real food and STTN. She does none of those things and dances all day long burning off the few calories she does eat."

[ruthie7532]

I would say she's easy. I am a bit concerned about speech.

[pinkdutchtulips]

somewhat easy

that at 5 1/2 she doesn't sleep in her own room by herself

[Deleted]

Jan 14, 2015 22:53:01 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I don't know any other kids. Lol
I feel like they are both somewhat easy. Fortunately no poo smearing yet.

ETA I worry about j and pervs. She's very outgoing and I feel like there's always been something about her the makes me need to be extra vigilant. Not that I've really actually some anything special because of it. The closest is I have always been more careful about what pics I put on the Internet with her than I am with E. This sounds weird to type out.
I also worry that her spirit will be crushed once she starts school, for various reasons.

I worry about E's muscle tone, about her being the "less [whatever]" sister, about her being shy/reserves and having a hard time making friends, like me.

That probably wouldn't be the right answer for this study but I think it's still your concern. Such a sad state of affairs that we have to worry about that.