I just asked my husband Q1 and he said, "Let's cap it at $50." LOL! (That's usually my amount for showers, not a child's bday party!) I told him to get a PT job to go with this FT one if that's the plan.
Q1: We're receiving tons of first bday party invitations. What's a reasonable amount to spend if our budget is tight *and* I don't want to appear tacky? If you're wondering, yes, I'm frugal. I came from MM and want a nice retirement, despite paying an arm and a leg for daycare, so something has to give.
Is $20 okay or is that insulting?
Q2: For all the parties we don't attend, do we need to send gifts?
ETA: I shouldn't say I wouldn't spend $50 on a child's birthday gift. We've done this for our only nephew and some really close friends. But I'm speaking in more general terms. No way can I do that for every child of every friend, neighbor, and coworker who might invite us to a party.
Post by pierogigirl on Jan 17, 2015 10:01:26 GMT -5
I think $20 is fine and if I find a deal on a great present, I don't feel cheap if I've spent less. For friend parties, I don't send a gift if we can't go. If it is for family, we would do a gift even if we are not there (this has not happened yet).
Post by redpenmama on Jan 17, 2015 10:08:29 GMT -5
I typically spend less than $20 (probably $10-$15 range) and stock up on gifts during toy clearances and Amazon sales. I wouldn't give a gift if I couldn't attend, unless it was a very close friend or family member.
Post by ilikedonuts on Jan 17, 2015 10:11:10 GMT -5
I don't give gifts for parties we don't attend. Well except for the party we are missing tomorrow. But that's because we went to her little sister's birthday party last weekend so I just brought gifts for both.
We have gotten a lot of duplicate gifts and clothes the past few years and I have two bins of them in the basement to use for birthday parties. Lol. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't but its awesome when it does.
Otherwise I can it at $25. And I check clearance racks for stuff!
Post by SpartanGirl on Jan 17, 2015 12:12:46 GMT -5
We aim for the $15 range for classmates or kids we don't know quite as well. We spend $20-$30 on really good friends or our friends' children.
I would not send a gift if we weren't able to attend. The only exception is if we had RSVP'd yes and were unable to attend the day of the party because someone got sick (this has happened to us quite a few times). In that case, we already had a gift, so we send it.
We spend $20 - $25ish on nieces/nephews too. (We have 5 of them, they get a lot of presents, and that seems to be what my other SILs spend. I'd go broke spending more for Christmas, birthdays, etc.)
I do $10 for playgroup birthday parties unless its someone I'm super close to (there are like 5 familes out of the 15 that we're closer with).
I also regift A LOT! I'm cheap.
This. Regift happens often and I stalk target toy clearence and amazon for good deals. If i see a toy in clearence I pick it up and put it in the closet for the next bday.
I just took back 3 gifts from my daughter's 1st bday and they were all approximately $10 each. Two of the gifts were the Fisher Price Puppy Piano. So people like giving puppy pianos for 1st birthdays to stay under $20. I don't have space to coordinate regifting so I just take stuff back.