How to politely kick guests out

[awick14]

"It's late, you need to leave so I can get some sleep tonight."

That's what I would say to my family, or something similar.

Maybe make sure they know that you have plans at x time, so that they will be out by then. Or at least they will be prepared to leave if you tell them they need to.

[melsamoony]

Maybe discuss it ahead of time w your guests say I would love to have you for dinner but I need to make sure to get M to bed at 8 maybe we can hang out from 4-8.

[bk1]

My brother tends to stay late. He doesn't seem to notice when I am gently trying to get him to leave. I started saying either "I would love for you to come hang out, but I need you to leave by X time so I can get to bed" or "It's late, maybe you should go home and I will talk to you later. I'm really tired". I basically just have to say it straight for him to get the hint.

[melsamoony]

Sometimes I also just say I am tired and need to go to bed. I say goodbye to them and if they don't leave I go upstairs and leave my husband to deal w them lol.

[panicked]

Hey guys, it was so awesome spending time with you tonight but we have to get to bed. Thanks for coming over!"

[MrsMB]

Jan 21, 2015 10:05:07 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

Sometimes I also just say I am tired and need to go to bed. I say goodbye to them and if they don't leave I go upstairs and leave my husband to deal w them lol.

I'm terrible at giving guests the hint. I've stayed up many a night until 3 a.m. because these dancer people thrive in the middle of the night. I resorted to doing what melsamoony suggests at times to help preserve my sanity. It was the only way I could survive. I'm curious to see what others say on this...and what is considered kosher. 

[Deleted]

Jan 21, 2015 10:05:07 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

Sometimes I also just say I am tired and need to go to bed. I say goodbye to them and if they don't leave I go upstairs and leave my husband to deal w them lol.

This is what I do too lol.

I will also warn my guests if I have to be up early the next day when I make plans with them so they know that they can't stay that late.

If we are really close with them I just tell them to get out.

[Deleted]

I rarely ever have guests, and most of them don't overstay their welcome. On the occasion that they do I just yawn and say, I'm about to put my pajamas on and go to sleep. They seem to get the message. My parents have a tendency to want to stick around all day, so when I invite them I tell them a clear time frame, like "Come over on Sunday from 4-8" lol.

[D2M]

OMG. 11:45?? WTF is wrong with these people? NO.

Aside from the fact that you have an infant, who the hell comes over on a WEEKNIGHT and makes you stay up all GD night? Take a page from the Real World playbook. Stop getting polite and start getting real. "Great to hang out with you guys tonight. We are going to bed. Safe travels home!"

[HoneySpider]

Jan 21, 2015 10:05:07 GMT -5 melsamoony said:

Sometimes I also just say I am tired and need to go to bed. I say goodbye to them and if they don't leave I go upstairs and leave my husband to deal w them lol.

Yes! We used to have a friend who would hang out forever and not get any of the hints so I would just go to bed and leave DH to deal. 

[travelbug]

I like everyone else's suggestions. If this kept happening it would be harder and harder for me to be polite. I'd probably blow up. I'd handle it early before it gets to out of control!

[pooh8402]

I would be like, "yo, it's 11:45. I'm tired, go home." although I would have kicked them out earlier and probably slightly more politely. around 10ish maybe, "well, it's been fun, but we need to go to bed, drive safe now!"

[mac08]

Omg 11:45 on a weeknight?! With children, no less?! WTF!  I don't know what to say, other than just excusing yourself when you need to go to bed... Maybe next time before inviting them over set an ending time? This is hard, because I know how you feel wanting to be polite and not causing hard feelings.