Post by picksthemusic on Jan 21, 2015 22:58:14 GMT -5
Well, M is a girl, so it might be different. It depends on the readiness of your kid, though. Does he hate to be wet/dirty (diaper wise)? Does he tell you when he goes? Does he watch you use the toilet? I just started talking to M about going potty, got books about using the toilet (we got the Sesame Street Abby book, you might want to use the Elmo potty book), the Once Upon a Potty book (there are boy and girl versions), and those helped a LOT. Just getting the vocabulary out there is good, and maybe get a little potty for him to just practice sitting on any time to get used to it (and to use later when he's really ready to start trying). I would advise teaching him to pee sitting first, because I have heard from other moms of boys that getting them to stand on a stool and aim into the toilet is just asking for a mess. LOL They can learn to stand and pee later. In fact, J prefers to sit and pee and he's almost 40. LOL It also prevents the stand to pee/sit to poop confusion for a while.
He likes to watch me and seems fascinated, and watches the older kids at daycare. He's just started telling us sometimes when he needs to be changed. He doesn't tell us when he's going (that I know of). He's never gotten upset by wet or dirty diapers. He's definitely not ready, but I'm not sure how long until he might be, so I feel like I need to start preparing.
I was wondering about getting books and a potty. Wasn't sure if it was too early, but I guess it can't hurt. And then just keep watching his signs.
I agree with at least getting a potty to let him get familiar with it so when the time comes it's not so much new at once. Besides that I think you're on the right track, let him lead and just go with the flow.
I know too many people who tried pushing potty training when their kids weren't ready and it made the whole thing much more difficult for them and harder on the kid.
Post by karebear219 on Jan 22, 2015 17:45:07 GMT -5
I would just have stuff around to see if they are interested (little potty, etc). Some might prefer one type of potty over the other. It is normal also for kids to be afraid to poop in the potty and public toilets. BKB never had an issue with either of those things, but she did have a fear of the big toilet for a little bit and preferred her little potty. Then she quickly switched to wanting to use the big toilet only. Go figure.
Any way, bkb would start to use and ask to use the little potty at 18 months, but didn't completely finish potty training until three years and one months. We ended up giving her a deadline and cutting her off because she didn't want to use the potty. When the day finally came she did great! I don't know why she was fighting it so long. She would hold her pee so long it would let loose during nap time and she'd pee all over. That's what made me finally tell her she was cut off. I just needed two days at home with her to do potty training. Being a working mom makes that really hard.
After we got her in undies full time, we still put her in pull ups at naptime and at night. This was until she woke up dry most of the time and we were confident she would get up and go by herself if she had to. After a week of waking up dry we let her wear undies to bed.
All in all here's what I learned: Don't force it. No matter how hard you try you can't make your kid pee or poop on the potty Always be encouraging and never punish accidents Even though you may think they are going to wear diapers to college (I was there), they won't. They have a natural desire to want to wear undies. Pull ups are diapers and don't replace the feeling of having a consequence when you pee in your undies (or poop) Cool undies can be used as bribes (princess undies worked great!) The longer you wait the better because the easier it will be. Once we cut her off she's only had maybe three accidents. After half a day of me taking her to the potty the first day she was going all by herself. Now she goes all by herself all the time! It's awesome.
Im Currently tying to scrub the pee smell out Of my carpet. We've tried everything and no dice. My mom just told me "stop stressing. Do you think she's going to be 10 and still wearing diapers?"
So this is what I'm actually doing. She goes a lot at daycare bc they make a big deal about it. I try to offer at home in evenings and reward with 1 gummy bear for pee per and 2 for poop. On weekends if we don't leave the house I put her in underpants and force her to sit on the potty every hour or more often while also encouraging her to drink a lot of fluids so she will actually need to go. She has a lot of accidents though and it's hard to get out of carpet.
ilovebed, we bought a rug doctor from Costco and you're welcome to borrow it. Now or when Blb is done training. The pee smell will come out!
We trained G at first by taking her hourly but she's gone through several regressions getting from there to her going mostly on her own (I still have to lift her onto the toilet at home). As she got older, the key for her was actually us stepping back. The more we reminded, the more accidents she had. And the more attention accidents brought, the more she had. Once we stopped saying anything about trying to go or accidents, they stopped. We started handing her a clean pair of pants and underwear and telling her to change herself in the bathroom. I do ask her to "try" before we go out but otherwise don't say anything about pottying.
We did daytime training first, then months later let her decide about nighttime. We asked her every night for about a month whether she wanted a diaper or underwear that night. One night she asked for underwear and that was that.