Post by schitzengiggles on Jan 26, 2015 19:48:54 GMT -5
I have 2 SIL's (both DH's sisters-I'm an only child so that's it).
I get along with one just fine...she's ok. Her DH is ok too.
I'm pretty close with the other SIL and even her DH. They're awesome and we have ended up on very similar life paths so maybe that's why we all get along so well. Married same year, first babies 1 month apart, second babies 3 months apart...ALL of those being girls... No competition, just lots of fun :-)
No. H's sister is a mini-MIL. I know it bothers H bc he loves his sister and wants to see her, but she really follows his mom's lead on everything. since MIL doesn't want anything to do w us, his sister follows suit and neither of us have a relationship w her. We stopped making any effort a couple years ago
Post by EloiseWeenie on Jan 26, 2015 20:24:10 GMT -5
I like my brother's wife. I feel bad for her because my brother is very selfish, and he doesn't help much with the kids. I always side with her and tell her I believe her 100% when she complains.
I really like my H's sister. She's super sweet, but her husband is AWFUL. Like, the nicest thing I can think to say about him is that I'm pretty sure he's not physically abusive He is so horrible, and I wish SIL knew she deserves sooooooooo much better.
H has no siblings. My sister's husband is a nice guy. He is kind of odd and has some traits I find annoying. We'll never be super close, but I don't dislike him.
A year ago I would have said yes. I was about to be her co-MOH and we called each other bffs and sisters vs SIL. Then I found out on the night of her wedding that for months she and her childhood bffs had been bitching about me behind my back and she was allowing them to make fun of my weight and say some very nasty things about me. We haven't been the same since. I did finally tell her I found out about it and it took me months and months to try to get past - esp since I was pregnant and all along we had always planned on them being the godparents.
Right now, after she did a couple more suspect/shitty things, I really don't know. I'm trying to forgive and move on because the level that this consumes me lately isn't really that healthy. It just sucks because for 11 years I thought I had a true sister who loved me as much as I loved her. (wilted)
this is awful. Â total bummer and i'd be really upset too. Â how did you find out that she and her bff were talking about you?
Lol. Well...basically I snooped after a red flag went up. She got so incredibly wasted at her wedding some things slipped out that made me question her but the nail in the coffin was that she forgot her phone and I was cleaning up the bridal suite after the reception and needed to find out who the phone belonged to. It wasn't password locked and it was hers. Because of said earlier conversation in the night I looked at a text conversation...and yeah. I was in the wrong for snooping -I know this- but at least I found out.
I like my BIL. He's got a good heart and is fun to hang out with. He was super supportive when my marriage fell apart. He does stupid crap that upsets my sister, but I try to stay out of it.
Post by jojoandleo on Jan 27, 2015 16:48:16 GMT -5
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. No.
My SIL has posted about how she can't do EVERYTHING while my brother is FUCKING DEPLOYED. I mean, she has to work, pay bills, and feed herself. Mofo doesn't even have a cat she is responsible for. She also posts really trashy shit on FB and later deletes it. SOME even aimed at my brother. She is just super young, dumb, and immature. My brother was too young to get married and I was the ONLY person in my family to say shit about it.
I like my older sister's H. I didn't at first, because he was douche, but he has grown up A LOT.
My oldest sister just got her second divorce, but I don't like her BF. He hasn't worked since he moved in with her, has posted vaguely racist things, and has turned my hippy sister into a bud light drinking, red neck who thinks I should just get along with people who make racist comments.
H's brother...he's okay. He's not my cup of tea. I love his wife, though.
Post by autumnfire on Jan 27, 2015 16:53:46 GMT -5
Love both of my SIL's. I don't like my BIL as much (DH's Brother). He gets to easily annoyed and is very impatient. For me it just seems like a miserable way to live?
Take for example my FIL's dog gets a little antsy around a big group so she paces a little. Nothing disruptive and she wants attention. BIL doesn't like it and often asks for her to be put outside. He doesn't like how she paces or how she wants attention. (not in an I don't like dogs way or even that he's afraid. Just because he's annoyed and thinks the dog should calm down and lay down when he tells her to?) Very little patients it seems.
I really like my sister's husband. DH has two brothers that I get along well with but barely ever see, one of them is married and she's very nice, but we don't know each other well. I'm not close with DH's sister either. Distance is a factor for all of DH's family.
I really like my SIL (DHs sister). We don't have a ton in common but we get along just fine and have fun together.
I adore my BIL (sister's DH). He is awesome and one of those people that will do anything for anyone. He was the only person in the world that DD liked as a baby and he would happily babysit for me on Fridays since his office closed at 11 on Fridays.
Post by hisno1girl on Jan 27, 2015 17:41:19 GMT -5
My older sister's husband - Hell to the NO. My younger sister's husband - I go back and forth with him, depending on what financial crisis he is getting my sister into (she is part of the problem)
DH's brothers and sisters, yes to all of them except one.
I love my SIL (H's sister) and BIL. We aren't super close, but we all live in the same town and get along well. We are only a few years apart and both have young kids, so we have a lot in common.
I get along ok with my brother's wife, but we aren't close. She's six years younger and just in a different place in life, plus they live a plane ride away so we don't see them much.
Post by fozziebear on Jan 27, 2015 20:20:36 GMT -5
My sister's husband - no. But I don't like my sister, either. H's older brother - like him, love his wife, she actually fixed up DH and me. H's younger brother - like him, never clicked with his wife but we're friendly when together.
BF has three siblings. He's the youngest. Next is his sister who I was on dance team with in high school, she married a guy we all went to school with and meh to all of that. I haven't met his brother. I met his older sister and her husband over the holidays and they were fun. I could definitely see myself really being friends with her.
Post by definitelyO on Jan 27, 2015 21:35:44 GMT -5
love my SIL (probably more than DH likes her - his sister) and wish she lived closer vs. other side of the US. I'd hang out with her all the time if she were closer.
my brother's wife is nice - but we don't see her often and probably wouldn't hang out if we lived in the same town.
I like my brother's wives. In fact, I like my oldest brother's wife more than I like my brother. I've never met my sister's H, but knowing what kind of guy she attracted as teenagers, I don't think I'm missing much. I've only seen DH's sister once, and she was nice enough, but she appears to have some mental issues and alcohol dependency, which is hard for DH and MIL.
My H's sister and her husband(s) have always been pleasant and I enjoy the time we spend together, but we're not particularly close like BFFs or anything.
My brother's wife was alright and we had started getting closer when I had DD1, but then she lost her damn mind at my dad's funeral 3 years ago and has been on "evil selfish bitch I don't talk to anymore" status ever since.