Parents of HS kids - report card/grades question

[nomad100]

If your school's semester ended before Christmas, have your kids received their grades yet?

YSS wants to go to a specific, expensive camp this summer and we said we would foot the bill if he kept his grades up past a certain level.  He said his finals were done before the holiday break and that he would have his grades mid-January.

DH has asked him about his grades and he keeps saying he hasn't gotten his grades yet.  

I was interested to see if other schools on a similar schedule have distributed report cards yet.

(We will need to put down a deposit for the camp in a few weeks, which is why I am wondering about this.)

[RoxMonster]

Not a parent but I teach HS. Our semester wrapped up before Christmas and report cards were available online on Jan. 6 (parents access grades online, so we don't send out report cards). Teachers have to have grades finalized by Jan. 5, I believe (I always like to have that stuff wrapped up before break).

It does seem odd that final grades haven't been distributed yet. Did the school say when they'd be ready?

[youhadmycuriosity]

I remember getting my report card early January in HS, but that was a while ago. I think it depends on the school. Do you remember when they came in last year?

[cc]

Yes, they were posted online on January 7th and the paper report cards were sent home on the 12th. The grading period ended the last day before winter break.

[RoxMonster]

Is it possible the grades have come out, but DS is unhappy/upset about them and doesn't want to tell you? I know nothing about your DS and I'm not accusing him of lying, but it sounds like (From what you posted) he is being kind of vague with you and your H about the grades thing. Could that be why? I would maybe contact the school or go on their website and see if there's a date when grades will be posted. It was on our school calendar when report cards would be made available. And if he is being 100% truthful, I would still want to find out when they will be ready.

[noradog]

We were done before Christmas and the grades were posted on the 6th or 7th and mailed that week, so received the next week.

I would contact the school. Either they need to get their stuff together and get the grades to you, or he is hiding his grades.

[thebreakfastclub]

My kid is only 2, but we did receive the report card of the 11th grader who used to live at our house last week.

We bought it in 2010, so I guess there is no rush on an address change.

[auntie]

Marking period here wraps up around Jan 18th with report cards sent within 2 weeks. The dates are listed on the district/school website.

DS's school has a Home Access Center which has ongoing grade information posted for all secondary students so there are no surprises. Most teachers post their grades for each quarter on HAC when they submit for the hard copies.

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 15:04:37 GMT -5 RoxMonster said:

Is it possible the grades have come out, but DS is unhappy/upset about them and doesn't want to tell you?

TBH, this is exactly what I think but DH is hoping for some other explanation.  But I am the cynical one.

Grade distribution isn't listed on the school calendar.

Deposits aren't due yet so we will be giving YSS more time to come clean but he will have a hard deadline to get us the grades or no matter what they are...no camp since we won't put down a deposit if we don't know the grades.

[dottyblue]

Yeah, grades are usually due within a week or two of the end of the quarter/semester. I don't buy it that the grades aren't available yet.

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 15:08:38 GMT -5 noradog said:

We were done before Christmas and the grades were posted on the 6th or 7th and mailed that week, so received the next week.

I would contact the school. Either they need to get their stuff together and get the grades to you, or he is hiding his grades.

YSS doesn't live with us so we never get his grades directly.  The kids usually call DH to tell them what they got but this is the first year that there is something actually riding on getting good grades (other than it is a good thing if they want to go to college).

[Deleted]

Is the information not posted on their website? We have a system we log into in the interim, but the school's calendar lists when report cards come home.

[noradog]

Jan 26, 2015 15:24:26 GMT -5 nomad100 said:

Jan 26, 2015 15:08:38 GMT -5 noradog said:

We were done before Christmas and the grades were posted on the 6th or 7th and mailed that week, so received the next week.

I would contact the school. Either they need to get their stuff together and get the grades to you, or he is hiding his grades.

YSS doesn't live with us so we never get his grades directly.  The kids usually call DH to tell them what they got but this is the first year that there is something actually riding on getting good grades (other than it is a good thing if they want to go to college).

Gotcha. That makes sense.  

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 15:34:01 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

can you access them online? I can check into their account any time I want to see what their current grades are, if they have homework that hasn't been turned in, etc.

DH is the noncustodial parent.  Custodial parent refuses to share the log in info.  

This hasn't been an issue before so never needed to push it.  

[AHappierHour]

I get daily emails about my sons grades from his school. The teachers keep everything up to date. We saw his final grades maybe the day after he took the tests.

[AHappierHour]

Jan 26, 2015 16:01:22 GMT -5 nomad100 said:

Jan 26, 2015 15:34:01 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

can you access them online? I can check into their account any time I want to see what their current grades are, if they have homework that hasn't been turned in, etc.

DH is the noncustodial parent.  Custodial parent refuses to share the log in info.  

This hasn't been an issue before so never needed to push it.  

My son has his own log-in to the account. Maybe your son does too? My son has it to see what homework is.

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 16:02:00 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

Jan 26, 2015 16:01:22 GMT -5 nomad100 said:

DH is the noncustodial parent.  Custodial parent refuses to share the log in info.  

This hasn't been an issue before so never needed to push it.  

Oh, I would push it!

TBH, at this point, we probably won't.  YSS is 16 and a Junior.  He has always told DH about his grades up until now.  If he can't be forthright about his grades now that there is something tangible on the line (camp) then the result is no camp.   Our all of a sudden being able to see his grades isn't going to change that.

And the damage to the detante we currently have with DH's ex may not be worth it.  The last time she got pissed at DH for something, she refused to put the kids on the plane for a scheduled visit  :?.  And it got really ugly afterwards and the kids were the ones that suffered since they felt like they had to choose their mom over their dad.  DH doesn't want to put them in that position again.

[mrsjuleshs]

Semester ended before Christmas. They brought home their report cards the first Friday of the new semester.

[hopecounts]

Have you spoken to the school?
Often a non-custodial parent can get their own access to the system as long as they have visitation (I.e are in the picture) by simply asking.

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 16:24:55 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Have you spoken to the school?
Often a non-custodial parent can get their own access to the system as long as they have visitation (I.e are in the picture) by simply asking.

I haven't since I am not the parent.  I am leaving this to DH to contact the school if he wants.

But, I am agreeing with DH that this can be a good lesson for YSS.  DH asks, then he follows up and then DH gives him the a deadline for getting us the grades.  If YSS doesn't follow through, we are not going to track down the info - good or bad.  He just won't go to this camp.  

If he were younger, I know my answer would be different but as an almost 17 yo (he will be 17 in 2 weeks), I think he can be expected to get us the info after several prompts/reminders without us having to track it down ourselves.

[auntie]

Jan 26, 2015 16:01:22 GMT -5 nomad100 said:

Jan 26, 2015 15:34:01 GMT -5 chilerellanos said:

can you access them online? I can check into their account any time I want to see what their current grades are, if they have homework that hasn't been turned in, etc.

DH is the noncustodial parent.  Custodial parent refuses to share the log in info.  

This hasn't been an issue before so never needed to push it.  

Contact the school. Your DH isn't the only non-custodial parent in the district; he could have his own log-in or someone from guidance could email you the information assuming the child is under 18.

[nomad100]

Jan 26, 2015 17:00:46 GMT -5 auntie said:

Jan 26, 2015 16:01:22 GMT -5 nomad100 said:

DH is the noncustodial parent.  Custodial parent refuses to share the log in info.  

This hasn't been an issue before so never needed to push it.  

Contact the school. Your DH isn't the only non-custodial parent in the district; he could have his own log-in or someone from guidance could email you the information assuming the child is under 18.

I am leaving it to DH to contact the school if he wants.



YSS will be 17 in 2 weeks.  If he really wants to go to this camp, he needs to take some ownership/initiative.   If he were younger, I would push more but at 17, yeah, the kid needs to get us the info himself.  We don't need to chase it down.  I don't think that is unreasonable.

[erbear]

My school takes about 3 weeks to turn grades around from the end of the quarter. I assume teachers need to grade exams, so I'd add another week, and I would not include winter break in that time bc I wouldn't expect teachers to be grading over vacation.

ETA: I read the rest. sounds like YSS is hiding the grades. I'd give him a deadline then no camp.