Post by cuddlyevil on Jan 27, 2015 14:38:29 GMT -5
Hi *waves*
Welcome and I am sorry you're finding yourself here.
Have you gotten into counseling for yourself? If not, I would consider it. My therapist helped me work through everything leading up to when I finally split with stbx. She was invaluable at helping me find the strength to ask for what I needed and to choose whether I wanted to stay or go.
Hi! I saw your post on ML and I'm glad you came over here. I'm sorry you're going through all of this. It is an emotional roller coaster, but you can do this. Your daughter is precious! Ditto others about counseling (I think you said you were in counseling). Lean on your family, friends and Internet friends.
Hi! Welcome! Oh and now I'm singing "all I wanna do is a zoom zoom zoom and woom boom yeah shake yo rump! check baby check baby 123 check baby check baby 1 2!" Thank goodness my roommate isn't home!
I'm sorry you find yourself here, but these ladies are amazingly fabulous!
Post by WinterIsComing on Jan 27, 2015 15:43:14 GMT -5
Hi and welcome! I read your post on ML and it sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this decision. Whatever you end up choosing, I think you are taking the right approach to deciding.
Post by prettyinpearls on Jan 27, 2015 15:51:00 GMT -5
I've seen some of your posts on ML. I'm sorry you're here, but it's a great place to be during a time like this. My DS1 was 8 months old when XH and I separated and I thought I could never see my life where he had two homes (I believe you said something along those lines in one of your posts).
DS1 is now 5 years old and I'm happily remarried; my divorce was one of the best things to happen to me! DS1 is extremely well adjusted and hasn't really known life any other way. I know it's anecdotal, but it always helped me hearing 'success stories' when I found it impossible to imagine my life other than how I had planned on it turning out.
Hi and welcome. I split from my ex-husband when my daughter was a 1 and 1/2 yrs old. Things had been bad for awhile and like you I struggled with the decision. I've been divorced for almost 8 yrs now and I do think it was the right decision for me. I guess I just wanted to say I've been there and huge hugs and also happy to give any advice I can
I've seen some of your posts on ML. I split with my H when my son was 10 months. I'm sorry that you've found yourself over here, but you're in good company!
Post by jojoandleo on Jan 27, 2015 16:23:05 GMT -5
Welcome! I saw your post on ML. I am sorry you find yourself here. I second the mention of counseling. A-I like talking about myself, personally, and B-it really helps you lay everything out there and get an outsider's perspective. I was in a bad relationship for way too long. It took talking it out with my counselor before I realized exactly how fucked up it was.
We RARELY tell people to get lost! We are a pretty fun group. I post gif stories about my awkward life as a 30 something pretending to be 21.
Welcome Rumpy. The waffling and indecision is the WORST feeling. I had that pit-in-your-stomach feeling for months and months. Almost everyone goes through that though. Feel free to dump on us when you're feeling confused.