OMG. I am crying real tears of laughter. This is the best thread on the entire internet.
H is sitting next to me on the couch. I am trying to stifle my laughs and end up snorting. He asked me "are you crying?" Nope, just chuckling over Scarlton Banks.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
This is why I never really felt bad for thinking she was an over the top AW. Dovey/Scar has always had a flare for the dramatics.
Like PP said, whereTF are her defenders now? hahahaha I know FormerlyRR was one of them.
I'll be honest, I don't understand the hate. I haven't read many of her posts--she seems like someone who is going through something pretty major. This may not be the best place for her, but I hope she stands her ground and posts here if she wants to/when she feels better.
This is why I never really felt bad for thinking she was an over the top AW. Dovey/Scar has always had a flare for the dramatics.
Like PP said, whereTF are her defenders now? hahahaha I know FormerlyRR was one of them.
I'll be honest, I don't understand the hate. I haven't read many of her posts--she seems like someone who is going through something pretty major. This may not be the best place for her, but I hope she stands her ground and posts here if she wants to/when she feels better.
I admire your kindness. I really do.
I just don't have patience for grown people who can't understand that others might be feeling pain. Nailbiter's heart is breaking and it wasn't the time or place for Scar to delve into her own particular situation. I don't give a shit when she starts threads about her condition. I ignore those. But when this poor girl is just trying to get some solace, Scar does not need to make it all about her, especially when she and her husband are alive to see another day.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Oh sure. THAT'S the uncrossable line in this mess of a thread. Lol.
Just to be clear...I didn't say that because I thought calling people out would cross some sort of line. I just think, what's the point? Like, what is the point of tagging someone who is not even in here to be like, "Hey you defended this asshole...don't you feel dumb!" That's all. :-)
I don't generally dislike people going through rough times. The problem as I see it with Scar is that she ONLY posts about going through rough times, and/or feeling victimized by the board at large. It gets tiresome when those are the only topics she posts, without contributing much else. And that post in nailbiter's thread was ... really gross, and incredibly imperceptive.
I know. I guess I'm reading her as pure depression, and the brain surgery scares me for her. I can't imagine going through all of that, so she has a huge free pass from me.
I am alllll for huge free passes. But there comes a point where its just, I don't know, too far I guess? Like dealing with a sick relative who refuses to get help but wants to constantly bemoan their fate.
In reality, this really isn't a good place for her to be right now.
I'll be honest, I don't understand the hate. I haven't read many of her posts--she seems like someone who is going through something pretty major. This may not be the best place for her, but I hope she stands her ground and posts here if she wants to/when she feels better.
I admire your kindness. I really do.Â
I just don't have patience for grown people who can't understand that others might be feeling pain. Nailbiter's heart is breaking and it wasn't the time or place for Scar to delve into her own particular situation. I don't give a shit when she starts threads about her condition. I ignore those. But when this poor girl is just trying to get some solace, Scar does not need to make it all about her, especially when she and her husband are alive to see another day.Â
Do we really need to start calling out people who defended her?
People have been called out for 'likes' lately, so sure.
As someone who has been called out twice for liking a post in the past few weeks ( misunderstandings all is good) I want to point out that I do indeed LIKE this post.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Yes. The way that I read was not as her saying the OP didn't understand depression. I read it as her saying that 'you', being a general you/her, not just the OP, didn't understand depression until you felt what she went through. I thought she was poorly relating there. It didn't trigger anger in me, I just thought, 'Wow, she is really struggling.'
This is also how I read her post. However, there is a time and a place, and that thread was not it. A little self-awareness goes a long way, and ScarOnBreak time and time again seems to completely disregard that notion.
I'll be honest, I don't understand the hate. I haven't read many of her posts--she seems like someone who is going through something pretty major. This may not be the best place for her, but I hope she stands her ground and posts here if she wants to/when she feels better.
I admire your kindness. I really do.
I just don't have patience for grown people who can't understand that others might be feeling pain. Nailbiter's heart is breaking and it wasn't the time or place for Scar to delve into her own particular situation. I don't give a shit when she starts threads about her condition. I ignore those. But when this poor girl is just trying to get some solace, Scar does not need to make it all about her, especially when she and her husband are alive to see another day.
THIS. It was pretty clear that she was just using the thread to post a general PSA to ML about how we don't know her lyfe. As if no one else has gone through depression or debilitating medical conditions. It just pisses me off that she couldn't stop herself for a second to see how heartbroken the OP was. That kind of self-centered behaviour blows my mind.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I just don't have patience for grown people who can't understand that others might be feeling pain. Nailbiter's heart is breaking and it wasn't the time or place for Scar to delve into her own particular situation. I don't give a shit when she starts threads about her condition. I ignore those. But when this poor girl is just trying to get some solace, Scar does not need to make it all about her, especially when she and her husband are alive to see another day.
THIS. It was pretty clear that she was just using the thread to post a general PSA to ML about how we don't know her lyfe. As if no one else has gone through depression or debilitating medical conditions. It just pisses me off that she couldn't stop herself for a second to see how heartbroken the OP was. That kind of self-centered behaviour blows my mind.
And this might be flameful, but in my experience, people who have that kind of lack of perspective have it in good health or not.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
This is why I never really felt bad for thinking she was an over the top AW. Dovey/Scar has always had a flare for the dramatics.
Like PP said, whereTF are her defenders now? hahahaha I know FormerlyRR was one of them.
I'll be honest, I don't understand the hate. I haven't read many of her posts--she seems like someone who is going through something pretty major. This may not be the best place for her, but I hope she stands her ground and posts here if she wants to/when she feels better.
nailbiter's post was about her crisis of faith when her husband died unexpectedly, leaving behind a wife, a 4yo, and a 7 week old. scar's response was, "You don't know what depression feels like until your husband finds you on your knees wishing you were dead." Worse that not being helpful, her response was hurtful. She did go through something major, and I'll even go so far at as to say that the experience likely permanently changed her. I wish her the best, too, but really, I think she needs resources she cannot find here.
Yes. The way that I read was not as her saying the OP didn't understand depression. I read it as her saying that 'you', being a general you/her, not just the OP, didn't understand depression until you felt what she went through. I thought she was poorly relating there. It didn't trigger anger in me, I just thought, 'Wow, she is really struggling.'
Oh I read it as the general "you", too. I guess I see where you're coming from, but just can't get on board with a free pass for this one. It's cool though. You have a big heart.