Another PT question, sorry

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J is doing fantastic with the peeing. We don't have to ask him anymore, he just lets us know, and we rarely have an accident.

However we are having major issues with pooing. He knows he needs to go, and runs us to the potty a million times. He will sit, and then pop up and tell us nothing is coming out. I know he knows how to push, and he's had two or three successful poos on the potty. But it freaks him out so bad. The second he starts to go, he jumps up crying and, well, creates quite the mess.

We've tried books, you tube cartoons, talking to him, etc. What else can I do to help him get that going poo is ok and not scary? Poo days are so stressful since he literally makes us take him to the bathroom every couple of minutes to try, but then he won't really try. Is this normal? How long does it take them to get over this?

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Ada has been having this issue too. Some days are better than others. It has taken about an hour several times of her getting on/off before she finally goes. We had progress when we told her if she went poop on the potty her aunt would throw her a big party. We were going to her house that night anyways and knew Ada needed to poop, and that got her not scared for like a week. Then we went out of town for 2 days and she went right back to it being an hour process. We have been potty training for 2-3 weeks and we still have issues (though it's getting better) so I have no brilliant answers.

[thedahliharpa]

D's poop hesitation issues were mild but resolved after about a month. She would hop on and off the toilet over and over and I think she would hop off when she felt the pushing sensation.
I would try to keep encouraging a diet that keeps him regular to avoid any type of constipation making things more difficult.

[dojo]

Its a vicious cycle - bad poop experience, fear of poop, holding poop, bad poop experience. We started talking to H about how he had to eat his fruits and veg every day to help him poop and he had to poop every day so it wouldn't be hard. Eventually we broke the cycle.

[greenkitty98]

After going through years of issues and trying various things, one of the things that seems to help the most is scheduling time to sit on the potty to poop.

We have B sit on the toilet for 5 minutes after breakfast and dinner (at school for lunch, so can't do it then). We set a timer and he gets to read books or play on my phone or Kindle for that time. It has been working really well, and we have even been able to go down to just very occasional doses of Miralax.

[kdrake8]

We still haven't gotten through this. 7 months later. It sucks.

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Jan 27, 2015 20:18:10 GMT -5 kdrake8 said:

We still haven't gotten through this. 7 months later. It sucks.

So not what I wanted to hear! I'm sorry it's taking so long.
He played this game all night and still didn't go. I'm starting to worry about him getting backed up.

[kdrake8]

Jan 27, 2015 20:20:51 GMT -5 @dragonmommy422 said:

Jan 27, 2015 20:18:10 GMT -5 kdrake8 said:

We still haven't gotten through this. 7 months later. It sucks.

So not what I wanted to hear! I'm sorry it's taking so long.
He played this game all night and still didn't go. I'm starting to worry about him getting backed up.

I'm sorry

Mila has had several months where she's gone every 4-6 days. After about the 2nd day she complains daily of belly hurts, her button hurts, etc. It's horrible and stressful. Then I take her in and she won't go. Doesn't matter how long I sit there with her. One evening we sat for 1.5 hrs total and still nothing.

I'm doing miralax to try to make it so she goes frequently and it doesn't hurt. Right now she tells me "poop hurts mila". She also has a huge huge fear of regular toilet paper when wiping her butt. We buy the flushable wipes to help her. She calls them gentle wipes.

[helicase]

I could have written the OP. Pees great, poops in his underwear every time. Daycare is making him wear pull ups until his morning poop is over for sanitary reasons. I'm frustrated, he's frustrated. I wish I knew the answer.