Post by glitzyglow on Jan 28, 2015 13:25:42 GMT -5
So I've been trying to wait to have sex until I was with someone I care about and see a future with. Well, it's been almost two years and nothing. After this last guy ghosting me, I am over it. I am going to get laid soon. I would make it my goal this weekend but my sister will be in town, lol.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Jan 28, 2015 13:36:36 GMT -5
Eureka1984, another voice saying it does get better. Have a single girlfriend? Go out with her and have some fun! I did that last year and the year before and for once, I didn't dread v-day.
Eureka1984 I've been single for almost five years. Here is how it has gotten better for me: -You start living your life for you and find real happiness in your life. -You realize a partner would be a nice to have but your happiness doesn't rest on that. -You realize your relationship with you is the best one you will ever have and all you actually need, although someone else would be a nice to have -The anxiety of "being alone" goes away. Sure by definition you live alone, but you aren't alone or lonely. You have friends, family, co-workers, whatever who are awesome supports in your life
So I've been trying to wait to have sex until I was with someone I care about and see a future with. Well, it's been almost two years and nothing. After this last guy ghosting me, I am over it. I am going to get laid soon. I would make it my goal this weekend but my sister will be in town, lol.
She can be your wingman*!
*providing she's of legal, drinking age, of course.
So I've been trying to wait to have sex until I was with someone I care about and see a future with. Well, it's been almost two years and nothing. After this last guy ghosting me, I am over it. I am going to get laid soon. I would make it my goal this weekend but my sister will be in town, lol.
She can be your wingman*!
*providing she's of legal, drinking age, of course.
Sex with randoms is not in her comfort zone, even if it's not her engaging in it, lol. I love her so much, but we are very different in this way. Besides, I've waited almost two years...what is a few more days?
Eureka1984 I've been single for almost five years. Here is how it has gotten better for me: -You start living your life for you and find real happiness in your life. -You realize a partner would be a nice to have but your happiness doesn't rest on that. -You realize your relationship with you is the best one you will ever have and all you actually need, although someone else would be a nice to have -The anxiety of "being alone" goes away. Sure by definition you live alone, but you aren't alone or lonely. You have friends, family, co-workers, whatever who are awesome supports in your life
Thanks PDX! This is totally what I need to hear. I know it has nothing to do with me in the long run but it still hurts. I've only been on my own a year and you make valid points that totally make me not want to have a pity party. Thank you for support
Eureka1984 I've been single for almost five years. Here is how it has gotten better for me: -You start living your life for you and find real happiness in your life. -You realize a partner would be a nice to have but your happiness doesn't rest on that. -You realize your relationship with you is the best one you will ever have and all you actually need, although someone else would be a nice to have -The anxiety of "being alone" goes away. Sure by definition you live alone, but you aren't alone or lonely. You have friends, family, co-workers, whatever who are awesome supports in your life
Thanks PDX! This is totally what I need to hear. I know it has nothing to do with me in the long run but it still hurts. I've only been on my own a year and you make valid points that totally make me not want to have a pity party. Thank you for support
Yay!!! And you know what you'll have pity parties every now and then. But really life isn't all about having a partner. I know people with partners who have horrible lives and single people with great ones. It's no the only common denominator. And absolutely do not put your life on hold waiting to find someone. Take that vacation, get dressed up feeling awesome and go out, or stay in and have a movie marathon if that's what you feel like. Make your house a home, cook real meals for yourself, don't think oh I don't have anyone to cook for. (unless you don't care about this, then eat cereal if that's what makes you happy!)
Another relaxing day is planned full of couch laying and trash tv watching! It's a tough job, but someone has to do it!
Oh and in hilarious news: Remember I was "hooking up, quasi-dating" 6YG? Remember I saw him out with another girl and he ignored me and then contacted me the next day because he wanted to sell my boss software or whatever he sells and he wanted me to meet him for lunch so I could watch a demo or some shit?? WELL, he texted me the other day. It took me a minute to figure out who it was because I deleted his name out of my phone. So this is where it gets good:
6YG: hey! I'm right near your work! me: oh. well I'm not there and won't be for a while. 6YG: why? Me: I had back surgery 6YG: oh that sucks. Well I have to go into a meeting. I'll text you later to see how you are feeling
Spoiler Alert! He never texted me back and it's been 4 days. You guys! I totally think he wanted to meet me for lunch on my break to watch the stupid demo and when I informed him I wasn't going to be working for a while, he dropped the convo.
Thank god I can find the humor in this and don't give a shit if I ever hear from him. I just wonder if he sleeps with all of his potential clients before he tries to sell them shit! hahaha There are no words.
Thank goodness you skirted this idiot!!! He is not worth your response ♡
Another relaxing day is planned full of couch laying and trash tv watching! It's a tough job, but someone has to do it!
Oh and in hilarious news: Remember I was "hooking up, quasi-dating" 6YG? Remember I saw him out with another girl and he ignored me and then contacted me the next day because he wanted to sell my boss software or whatever he sells and he wanted me to meet him for lunch so I could watch a demo or some shit?? WELL, he texted me the other day. It took me a minute to figure out who it was because I deleted his name out of my phone. So this is where it gets good:
6YG: hey! I'm right near your work! me: oh. well I'm not there and won't be for a while. 6YG: why? Me: I had back surgery 6YG: oh that sucks. Well I have to go into a meeting. I'll text you later to see how you are feeling
Spoiler Alert! He never texted me back and it's been 4 days. You guys! I totally think he wanted to meet me for lunch on my break to watch the stupid demo and when I informed him I wasn't going to be working for a while, he dropped the convo.
Thank god I can find the humor in this and don't give a shit if I ever hear from him. I just wonder if he sleeps with all of his potential clients before he tries to sell them shit! hahaha There are no words.
Thank goodness you skirted this idiot!!! He is not worth your response ♡
You're not kidding! I am so glad I kept my guard up when it came to him because it makes it a lot easier to laugh at him now. Not only would he be a horrible long term relationship, he seems like a shitty salesman as well! haha
You guys I'm feeling down.. So today my boss announced a get together for Valentine's Day after work and I can't help but be depressed as I have no one special in my life. That also got me thinking of how I hate the online dating thing and how hard it is to date. I wish someone would just tell me it will get better.
I have spent the last 5 or 6 Valentine's days with my friends for a singles dinner. Then I go home and watch the Cheaters Marathon while eating chocolate and drinking wine!
Post by Emerald1486 on Jan 28, 2015 19:21:05 GMT -5
Eureka1984 I will echo that it does get better. But there will be waves. I have times where I am really lonely and it sucks (going through one now). It's been 3 years for me. And I have times where I am just fine, super proud of how far I have come, and just happy with my life. For the last few years I will get together with friends and we go out and have dinner. This year a bunch of my lady friends and I are doing a pinup shoot that weekend so we are doing a girls weekend.
Eureka1984 I will echo that it does get better. But there will be waves. I have times where I am really lonely and it sucks (going through one now). It's been 3 years for me. And I have times where I am just fine, super proud of how far I have come, and just happy with my life. For the last few years I will get together with friends and we go out and have dinner. This year a bunch of my lady friends and I are doing a pinup shoot that weekend so we are doing a girls weekend.
I've been basically single for over 5 years although I have a bf now. It's been then best thing I've ever gone through because I've been able to be ok with being alone snd being me. I've focused on my career and P and making memories, meeting new friends, etc. I wouldn't trade that time!
My BFF told me something once that resonated. Eventually Its likely that you'll become part of a couple again. Maybe in 15 years maybe in 5. Or maybe even never. But don't waste your time now longing for what you don't have! Make sure life is awesome now and live in the moment! If you do become part of a couple again you'll have great times to reflect on. if you don't you'll still have learned to be happy with you!