Post by LeggsBenedict on Jan 28, 2015 18:58:31 GMT -5
have dinner and watch tv together mostly, honestly. sometimes coop xbox. although recently we have been doing body weight exersizes together every other night, and then I do yoga alone on our off nights.
Post by ElizabethBennet on Jan 28, 2015 18:59:17 GMT -5
We mostly just watch tv in the evenings and I either knit or read and he works on his website.
Sometimes we make it a point to watch something together without the phones or computers, or we'll play a game or do a puzzle. But both of us are good with having lazy/quiet evenings most of the time.
Honestly, we mostly just veg on the couch with the tv on and computers out. We do still interact with each other, but there's not a ton of chatting. Are you guys into board games or puzzles? That would be a good way to interact while maybe feeling a little more 'productive' for your H.
My SO is like your H, he's constantly going. He coaches, teaches and has tons of extra curricula's. I'd rather relax after the end of the day. Before we had the kid we would go on walks, play battleship or rummy, have sex, take the dogs to the park.
Since having the kid he chills at home a lot more, outside of football season, and doesn't go out as much. So have a baby?? It fixes everything.
We throw on a show that we both watch (Netflix or On Demand). He games on the PC, I usually dick around online on my laptop or work on some craft project on the couch while we both watch the show.
At around 10-ish, I shower, and then when I climb into bed, I read to him while he rubs my back.
Last year, during the nice weather, we would also include Couch to 5K training on the agenda after we both were home from work. Buuuuuuuuuuuut we're wusses that can't hack even pretending to run in the cold. Sooooooo ... is it spring yet?
Oh, we do have a rule against devices, if we are watching tv together or talking they're put away. Sometimes h goes on the laptop while I watch a show he hates though.
Um after the kid is in bed we both sigh with relief and slink off to work on separate things. I typically head off to do homework and he goes to work on his online business. If we have time to sit down and watch TV together and there are no dishes to be washed, laundry to be folded or lunches to pack; one of us nods off within the first 15 minutes of the show. Glamorous, I know.
We do not have kids. My H is a workaholic but we have found a schedule that works for us.
I go to the gym after work and he works until I am done. We get home at about 7pm, we hang out in the kitchen while I cook and he does dishes after dinner. He then works for about an hour on the couch while I screw around on my iPad. He stops working at about 9pm and we watch TV, or Netflix.
Our routine hasn't changed much since having L. She used to go to bed at 6-6:30 and now she goes to bed at 7-7:30, so still early. Once she's down, we have dinner and then H watches TV and I use the computer. But we chat back and forth, we don't just ignore each other.
He'll pick me up from work, eat dinner and we'll just hang out on the couch. Sometimes we'll watch a show together but tonight he's watching Family Guy until he has to pick up his daughter and I'm on here. We'll usually go out one night a week and two nights a week I work late, so we get our alone time in too.
We eat dinner together, then usually watch TV or play a game or something. I'm a fidgeter and am usually also on my tablet or something too. A couple nights a week though we designate as "separate" time where he does his thing and I do mine.
After the kids are in bed we sit on the couch and we are either watching tv or interneting. We try to find shows that we both enjoy (breaking bad was great for our relationship) but most of the time that doesn't happen.
I get home about 6ish and take about 20 minutes to decompress (DH works from home right now). Then we make dinner together, feed and play with the dogs, eat dinner and then do some house related stuff but by 8ish we are in our separate offices until bedtime (about 10:30). A couple days a week we exercise together for about 30 minutes (ride the exercise bike, do a pilates video or lift weights).
We don't spend designated time together every single night. Dinner time is always at the table with no technology so we chat with each other / our son during that time. We chat in bed for a few minutes before sleep. In between these times we might watch something together or do a chore together, but probably 3-4 nights a week we take our free hour and DH will play video games and I will watch TV/read/do my internetting. On a rare occasion I can get DH to play a card game / board game with me.
I don't have anything exciting to share that everyone else hasn't shared already.
My biggest thing is just making sure we interact throughout the night. We watch a lot of Netflix while he is doing work, and I'm on my laptop messing around, but we stop constantly to share an interesting thing we heard, comment on what's on TV, etc. We're not actively doing things together, but we're spending time near each other and being together. I am not someone who likes to be "doing" something all the time, so it actually works well for me. I'd go nuts if we always had to be doing a scheduled activity.
Post by pantsparty on Jan 28, 2015 20:32:51 GMT -5
We eat or go out to dinner and watch TV. Sometimes we go to the mall or I or he has some house chores/projects. We both have draining jobs and like to relax most evenings.
DH chats with me in the kitchen while I finish up dinner (I get home first) and straightens up after me if he needs to. We eat dinner in front of the tv while watching an episode on Netflix/Hulu (right now we're back and forth between The Office for the millionth time and Brooklyn 99). We clean up dinner, and (when its not bitterly cold) take the dog for a walk. From there we go our separate ways for the evening, unless we need to remind the other about something.
When it warms back up we'll add walks back in for the mornings as well. I LOVE the walks. It forces us to talk - even if its just something really mundane. Typically we'll talk about something or another we heard on NPR, and go from there. We feel refreshed from the walk, connected from talking, and the dog is happy and tired. Win all around! Now if only it would warm up. =0(
Post by marylennox on Jan 28, 2015 20:56:04 GMT -5
We sit together and watch tv, read, or play games on our phones. Sometimes we'll go to the gym or for a run if it's nice outside.
We are usually both pretty tired on weeknights after work and the thought of going out and doing something doesn't even sound appealing, we'd rather just relax and unwind. We save going out and doing other fun stuff for weekends or days off.
We recently got some two player board games so I'd like to start doing those instead of tv some nights.
Post by revolution on Jan 28, 2015 21:08:48 GMT -5
Before kids, we would eat dinner together and then depending by on how our days were we would either spend time together and watch tv and sometimes play cards while watching tv. If we had crazy days and needed down time we dh would hide out in the office and play playstation. In our 20s we would go out drinking some nights. In our 30s we would go out to dinner and window shop some nights.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Jan 28, 2015 21:11:28 GMT -5
Eat dinner together and watch tv typically. We're always on shows so right now is sons of anarchy. Weekends are typically date nights unless we go out to eat during the week. We like to cuddle on the couch till we're ready to sleep.
We make and eat dinner together, watch a show or two and then do separate things. H either play computer games or PS4 games. I GBCN, watch tv shows H doesn't like or read. Sometimes we're both in the living room together and sometimes he's in the office and I'm in the living room.