Post by karinothing on Jan 29, 2015 8:54:13 GMT -5
We used to switch, but since DS I usually cook (since it is before DH gets home) and do dishes since it is my break lol. DH is usually starting to get DS ready for bed while I do dishes.
I cook 95% of the time, and do the dishes as well, but H is upstairs getting the kids bathed and read for bed while I clean up. Given the choice between more kid wrangling or cleaning up a (relatively) quiet kitchen, alone, I'll take the cleaning every time.
Pre-kids, we shared it. Whoever didn't cook cleans up.
Post by captainobvious on Jan 29, 2015 9:25:01 GMT -5
When I cook I clean as I go, so H just has the dinner dishes and counters to clean. When he cooks I clean all the things he used to cook as well as the dishes and counters because he doesn't clean as he goes.
I cook most meals, and DH is supposed to do the dishes. Buuut I often do the dishes because I have a little more free time on my hands. I get home earlier, and have Fridays off. It annoys me, but it's one battle I try not to pick, because he does a lot in other areas.
I cook and do the dishes. I absolutely hate doing the dishes but I don't complain because I only work part time so I consider all the household stuff (cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc) to be my responsibility.
This is actually a bone of contention in our house. Usually the one that cooks doesn't do the dishes.
But DH, now that he is working from home and is actually cooking more, has started making meals that use up a ridiculous amount of dishes, pots, pans, kitchen gadgets, etc. that the sink and counter are full by the time he is done. It takes me forever to get them done since half of the stuff needs to be hand washed or don't fit in the dishwasher. So I told him that if he uses more than 3 pots or pans, he is responsible for their cleanup.
For example, the last time he cooked dinner (which was the last straw for me since the mess was huge), he used the food processor, the stick blender, 2 pans, 4 pots, the Griddler, various measuring spoons and cups, at least 4 different knives, a potato masher, the meat pallet, and probably some stuff I am forgetting. And then there were the actual dinner dishes. The kitchen was a wreck with crap all over the counters and cooktop. Dinner was good but clean up took forever.
Post by whitemerlot on Jan 29, 2015 9:56:20 GMT -5
My kid take so long to eat that I've been doing the dishes while my h stays at the table and talks with them. I really need a break from the kids at that point, so it works for me.
It just depends on who is doing what when. If he's helping bathe kiddos or do homework, I will throw it all in the dishwasher. If he's free, he'll do it.
I'm pretty good at cleaning as I go. Most likely because I like to have every single thing chopped, measured, etc before I start. So as I'm dumping in an ingredient, I can then just put that in the D/W. My H handles anything left after dinner and makes my lunch for the next day if we have leftovers.
DH usually. But he takes forever, so sometimes I can't stand it and send him to do bedtime and I clean. I hate having to stare at a dirty kitchen and a cleaning husband ALL FREAKING EVENING. I don't understand how he manages to take so long.
Probably 75% of the time, I cook and BF cleans up. I tend to pick up more of the chores when he's on a deadline at school because it doesn't seem fair for him to be stressed out with too many things to do while I sit on the couch browsing the internet. And I occasionally get impatient and just do the dishes because I feel the urge for things to be clean. But it's mostly divided so we both are doing some work.