Post by sparkythelawyer on Jan 29, 2015 15:45:36 GMT -5
For the most part, I ignore. I am generally puzzled at the way some people feel it is ok to treat another person simply because they don't like them. I don't need to try to kiss up to assholes.
I try to be nice. Not in a "kill them with kindness" way, but if it is a person I want to like me, I try to find ways to ingratiate myself, lol. I'll try to find something we have in common, or something I like enough to compliment them on.
If it's someone I don't like either, and I really don't care if they like me, then I guess I'm just polite and neutral.
Mostly I distance myself, but try to carry on as usual. Sometimes ignoring a person can add fuel to their fire. I don't push myself on someone who doesn't like me, but I just pretend I don't notice. I'll smile and say hello, but I don't try to engage any further.
I'm civil and polite. I realize that I am like cilantro - some people love me and get me and some people think I taste like soap and despise me. Their loss. I'm a riot. I tell people that if I like you I am going to razz you and give you a ton of shit, if I don't like you or am indifferent to you, I am going to be polite but distant.
Post by lightbulbsun on Jan 29, 2015 16:09:39 GMT -5
At first I make more of an effort to be nice. I have resting bitch face, and I can come across as reserved and cold on a first impression. If they still don't like me I act polite and only interact when necessary.
I once found out that a girl I worked with couldn't stand to be in the same room with me. I remained polite and purposely followed her around just because I knew it pissed her off. It was hilarious. Strangely, after a few months, she decided I wasn't so bad after all. Most people seem to like me, but I get a secret joy in politely torturing the ones that don't.
This has only been an obvious problem once, with a coworker. I went out of my way to avoid her, and when that wasn't possible, to give her no ammunition. I was the picture of polite professionalism. I also tried to communicate via email as much as possible so there was a paper trail of all interactions.
In non-work settings, I just naturally avoid people that I don't get a good vibe from. It's never really been an issue (maybe bc I'm so awesome?)
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jan 29, 2015 17:06:27 GMT -5
You know, this is a tough question. Unless someone is generally an asshole, I'm nice.
Some of my closest friends and I started out disliking each other. I think I'm someone who takes awhile to warm up to. I'm high energy and cheerful and this is annoying to some, but ultimately I wind up winning a lot of them over. LOL.
How timely. I'm debating whether my co-worker dislikes me. It's awkward because she sits right next to me and is friends with my friends. I've largely just ignored.
Post by RoxMonster on Jan 29, 2015 17:57:28 GMT -5
I had a CW like this and I ignored when possible (like I did not go out of my way to talk to her, but if she said addressed me, I'd respond). I was polite and cordial just for work purposes. I did not talk to her about anything socially and just kind of avoided her when possible. I haven't had this situation in a social setting, but I'd probably do the same.