Post by lexxasaurus on Jan 30, 2015 16:37:30 GMT -5
I'm so glad to hear your brother and his GF are able to take care of so much on their end! I'm also a doer, and I know my mind is at ease by handling tasks so I'm happy you are able to get things done from where you are.
Also if anyone doesn't want to read it, they can close the thread. Don't apologize, I think most all of us are happy to hear your updates and know you're okay.
I know you said in the other thread you were a doer. I am glad you both (plus gf) were able to work on some things today. You will continue to be in my thoughts
Post by MixedBerryJam on Jan 30, 2015 16:45:47 GMT -5
What the others have said, but also, keep in mind that while (thankfully) you have never had to deal with all this before, the funeral director and lawyer have done it a thousand times each. Make sure to use all the resources they put at your fingertips; it will make things much easier, even though it will still be very hard, and possibly very complicated. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I'm glad you're not dealing with it alone.
Don't feel guilty about posting too much about what you're feeling. This is what we're here for. I'm glad you have someone to help you. Having my brother understand exactly how I felt when my mom died was invaluable. I often cringe thinking Logan won't have that.
I know it's hard to be far away, so I'm glad he's able to be there to handle some of the burden for you. I'm sure he appreciates your help just as much as you do his. Hugs.
I have been thinking about you. I am glad you and your brother are making your way through this, and that you are able to share the burden and support each other.
This is a place where we share our highs and lows, and there's a lot of wonderfully supportive people here. Don't apologize for posting! It's very therapeutic
I am so glad your brother and his gf have been able to handle all of this and you're pleased with what they have done. Your family is in my thoughts. ((hugs)))
Post by lemonbasil on Jan 30, 2015 18:17:00 GMT -5
I took the lead role like your brother did, when my mom passed 2 weeks ago. This is such an important time to band together and show each other support. Hugs to you.
Post by lilafowler on Jan 30, 2015 18:20:21 GMT -5
None of this is easy and if it helps you to talk about please do.
When my friend's husband died unexpectedly it was insane all the details she had to handle. She was also lucky enough to have great family and friends to help and listen. I'm glad you do as well.
I'm so glad you guys have each other. I was in a similar position 3 years ago when my aunt died unexpectedly and we were her next of kin. Making the arrangements was kind of a cluster fuck but it brought us together and we somehow were able to find humor in some of the more ridiculous things (like joking we were going to dig up her dead dogs and bury them with her and the cemetery dude freaking out bc he thought we were serious). And yes it sounds like your bro needs to put a ring on it!
I've been thinking of you so much and wish I could hug you and pour you a glass of wine through my phone/computer. This is so difficult for all of you, I can only imagine. I'm glad you and your siblings have each other to lean on and take care of arrangements.