I can't even maintain emotional equilibrium in a post about fabric because color representation is off and I've done the two kid thing for 16 months now. And they're both alive and super cute. If I can do it, you can do it.
Post by daisybuchannan on Jan 31, 2015 13:51:16 GMT -5
Hugs. I had moments like this too before Cameron was born. And after, lol.
The funny thing is how much the toddler will make the baby look like the easy one! Now I can't remember how the hell I thought having one was hard! Going anywhere with her alone is like a vacation
(((Hugs))) it's going to be okay. You're such a good mom, tators. If it is a bit crazy at first (normal), it will only be temporary and Tater tot is going to LOVE having a sibling to grow and play with.
Hugs. I had moments like this too before Cameron was born. And after, lol.
The funny thing is how much the toddler will make the baby look like the easy one! Now I can't remember how the hell I thought having one was hard! Going anywhere with her alone is like a vacation
Is it weird I am less worried about the baby and more worried about him. I haven't really felt like a shitty mom until the toddler/ almost 2 stage.
No. You should be, lol. I'm kidding, but the 2 year old dramatics have really thrown me for a loop! He was SO easy until recently, but the good news is that babies really just don't require as much (attention, time, etc) as the toddlers. I've made a point to just try and enjoy alone time with her during his nap (half of which is spent dramatically crying and for me not to leave the room ugh) to make up for the time I spend on him and not her.
I think feeling like a shitty mom is just part of the deal. Connor was an angel today with my H while I spent an hour out shopping alone. The second I walked in the door he started whining for a snack, and then full on hysterics when I didn't give him anything he wanted. But he doesn't pull that shit for my H!
Post by aussiecrush on Jan 31, 2015 14:19:04 GMT -5
You can totally do this. Ditto using the ergo, wearing G saved us all. You won't always feel sane, or nice, but you'll all come out of it okay. Then they'll become buds and you'll realize it was totally worth it. Plus once the baby is here, wine.
Hugs. I had moments like this too before Cameron was born. And after, lol.
The funny thing is how much the toddler will make the baby look like the easy one! Now I can't remember how the hell I thought having one was hard! Going anywhere with her alone is like a vacation
Is it weird I am less worried about the baby and more worried about him. I haven't really felt like a shitty mom until the toddler/ almost 2 stage.
This is a hard stage. When sofia was younger, i thought the 12-18 month stage was the hardest, but with theo, it's like...12 months- forever? Lol, I don't know, but he's almost 21 months and insane. Constantly with the crying and whining and climbing. So I get it. I'm not at all worried about having a newborn. Newborns are pretty predictable. They eat, they sleep, they cry. It's theo that I'm worried about, haha.
((hugs))) I can definitely relate. I pretty much cried everyday after finding out I was having twins. My DD was not even 3 and remember at night just sitting there thinking of how the fuck we were going to do this; I never, ever, wanted 3 kids, but that was the luck of the draw.
But, my twins just turned a year, and it has been a very hard year, but, we made it! I drink a lot more now but so far all three kids are healthy. I can relate so much but it will be okay. It is a transition but just like having your first child you forget was it was like not to have her in your life, the same will be true when number 2 comes.
I worried a lot too, but it hasn't been as bad as I thought. DD went through a 2 month period of not sleeping right before I had the baby. I thought I was going to lose my mind, and then she just started sleeping again.
You'll figure out a rhythm, I promise. It might take some time but you will be fine. TV is your friend for DS, and swing/bouncer/rocker for the baby.
If it makes you feel better, all of us with two or more have felt the same way.
You will do it. You'll find your routine and while it may seem crazy at times, it will be ok. Don't expect a clean house or much sleep or bathed kids, though. And stock up on coffee and wine.
You can do it. I worried about the same thing. I had dd2 when dd1 was almost two, and so far it's been great. Dd1 is a terror too, but the baby is easy, so it's kind of the same as it was before she was born.