When the lab tech is drawing your blood to check HCG levels and asks you if you are checking to see if you are pregnant and you have to tell her that you had a miscarriage and are watching your levels go down. Yup this just happened to me. I felt awful for her. She did say that she was sorry but we didn't have much of a conversation after that.
The same thing happened to me. I was mortified for her and myself. I cried when I got back in the car. Why can't they just take the blood and stick to talking about the weather?
That was a close second to when the ultrasound tech asked why I was back for another ultrasound just 10 days after my last one. I cried through my explanation to her. Then she asked if I had any other children. No. WTF? Is that supposed to make me feel better? What does that have to do with anything?
Sorry for that tangent, but I am sorry that happen to you. Hugs.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
Not as terrible: When I had my blood drawn to check if the levels were increasing after bleeding/spotting, the tech apologized for the delay in determining the exact tests because the nurse was visiting her niece in the hospital who just had a baby and how they just love babies in the office. I was really really nervous about the results and had just ran into my coworker at the OB and was dreading having to respond to rumors. I didn't say anything; yeah I would love babies too. She didn't mean anything, but it bugged me and lead to an awkward silence.
Then, after the U/S that showed no heartbeat, my doctor wrote on my checkout sheet to have them check the cost of a suction d&c with my insurance. I hated the look of the lady when I handed her the paper and she saw the note. It was so awkward.
I was so happy that everyone at the facility I had the procedure done was awesome.
((Hugs)) one of the lab techs at the place I go to is my moms BFF, and she knows all about our history, and she is the only one I will let touch me post D&C/loss. Because she doesn't say stupid shit. (I tell my mom to tell her about the loss before I see her so that there is no awkwardness.)
I had to just laugh at the universe, when I was at the hospital for my HSG. I have been resolutely positive lately, and particularly about the 'nobody else's fertility affects my own' part. The tech was a very kind, bubbly woman, who after feeling me out as a happy person, proceeded to show me pictures of her new granddaughter, born that morning. Lolllll, universe.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
When I had my hysteroscopy I had to take a pregnancy test and I knew it would be neg but it still had to be done.
There was another lady there for an IUD placement and when the nurse turned around and said "they are both negative" the other girl started cheering about how happy she was. She then looked at me and I burst into tears.
I said if I didn't have problems staying pregnant I wouldn't be there. She cried with me and hugged me. I know she will never act like that again.
I bought a HPT recently and had the cashier ask me, "So is this a good thing or a bad thing?" I just stared at her blankly for a few seconds before saying "It is a private thing and that is a really rude question." She kinda laughed/apologized/played dumb.