the idea of never being able to get drunk with my SO is seriously depressing.
who said never? DH and I get drunk together a lot.
But then again, we have babysitters/family to watch DD- especially on the weekends. These scenarios don't ask about what we do when we both aren't watching her!
1. You have the kids to yourself one night. You take them to your friends' house for dinner. Friend is serving wine. How much are you willing to drink if you have to drive the kids home (alone) after dinner? One glass then I will wait a few hours before leaving
2. The family is out for the night together (let's say in an atmosphere that is very conducive to drinking). Your husband/SO/whatever is with you. How much does the non-DD get to drink? DH is always DD. He doesn't drink. I can drink as much as I want but he will get on me for it so I limit it to just getting a buzz.
3. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO is willing to sit this one out and take care of the kids. How much do you get to drink? Whatever I want. I usually will have two - three beers over many hours or a glass or two of wine. Again, I regulate myself because 1. I HATE getting drunk and 2. DH hates drunk me.
4. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO NEEDS a drink. Kids aren't going to bed for hours. How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility? DH does not drink
5. You're all home. Kids are asleep. Party time! How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility? m I'll drink two beers, maybe three or a glass or two of wine. DH will drink 0.
1. You have the kids to yourself one night. You take them to your friends' house for dinner. Friend is serving wine. How much are you willing to drink if you have to drive the kids home (alone) after dinner? One drink
2. The family is out for the night together (let's say in an atmosphere that is very conducive to drinking). Your husband/SO/whatever is with you. How much does the non-DD get to drink? As much as they want as long as they don't get so drunk I have to take care of them too
3. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO is willing to sit this one out and take care of the kids. How much do you get to drink? As much as EBF permits, which is generally one strategically timed drink unless I have bottles prepared. In that case I could probably handle 3 drinks without becoming a burden
4. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO NEEDS a drink. Kids aren't going to bed for hours. How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility? Only as much as permits at least one of us to be safe to drive/hold the baby (one drink every hour roughly). I'd probably let dh have a couple more since I'm EBF do I pretty much have to stay sober anyway
5. You're all home. Kids are asleep. Party time! How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility? 2-3 drinks each. Whoever is feeling the NEED more or whoever hasn't taken a turn to get buzzed for awhile gets to become unsafe to drive/hold a baby
I don't drink and haven't since before I had kids. I can't imagine being even buzzed around my kids. That would be so weird. DH drinks occasionally. If he has even a beer with dinner, I drive home. I guess nothing else really applies to us. DH isn't "allowed" or "not allowed" to drink any amount - he usually limits himself to 3-4 beers on "party" nights (like a family bbq or Christmas party or something) and other than that he'll have 1 or 2 when he IS drinking (doesn't always). As a sober person I couldn't be married to someone who was regularly getting drunk. I don't mind that he has a beer or 2 on occasion. I would NOT be comfortable with both parents drinking while kids are being cared for, awake or asleep. If something happened you need a sober person making decisions and able to drive, IMO.
Post by EmilieMadison on Aug 9, 2012 18:38:14 GMT -5
I'll preface this with saying that neither of us ever "needs" a drink (literally). We drink responsibly when the kids are around, and rarely drink more than a few drinks even when the kids are with someone else.
1. You have the kids to yourself one night. You take them to your friends' house for dinner. Friend is serving wine. How much are you willing to drink if you have to drive the kids home (alone) after dinner? One glass
2. The family is out for the night together (let's say in an atmosphere that is very conducive to drinking). Your husband/SO/whatever is with you. How much does the non-DD get to drink? As much as we want as long as we can still act appropriately and are not drunk
3. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO is willing to sit this one out and take care of the kids. How much do you get to drink? As much as I want
4. You're all home together. You NEED a drink. Husband/SO NEEDS a drink. Kids aren't going to bed for hours. How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility? I'll usually have a glass or two of wine, or a beer or two. DH would probably have more, but I always choose to drink less than he does because it can aggravate my ulcer.
5. You're all home. Kids are asleep. Party time! How much do the two of you get to drink/how do you allocate responsibility?[/quote] I will have about 1 drink/hour but usually less. DH would drink more, but only because he knows I'm drinking less