Potty training questions

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This is cart before horse most likely but I have some potty training questions on the brain and would like to hash them out.

1. Did you wait until your child was dry in the morning to start toilet learning?

2. Stand alone chair or adaptor on adult toilet - which do you prefer and why?

3. Boys - stand or sit?
    3a. Do boys sometimes pee when they poop like girls do or is that a girl thing?
    3b. If you retrieve your child in the morning and they have a wet diaper, should you assume they don't need to pee anymore and just try for poo?

4. If you use one of those stand alone chairs and expect poo, should you put a little water in it first so the poo doesn't stick to the bottom? Can I just put a little baggie in it?

5. Is there a service you can hire that does this for you like the Lice Fairies?

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1. Fuck no. I'd be changing diapers forever.
2. Started with a standalone because he's SO TINY and so we could have it in the room with us. Uses seat on toilet now.
3. Started sitting. Sometimes pees standing with dad, but that's an advanced skill (that some men haven't mastered).
3b. We never really make him go to the potty. He won't comply. He goes when he needs to go.
4. Never did anything.
5. LOL, you could probably make a lot of money. Potty Camp.

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Feb 4, 2015 16:46:03 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

5. Daycare

Daycare said they'll "follow whatever we do at home" but there is a bathroom in his classroom so some of the kids use it and some don't.  My sister said I should just drop him off one day with ten clean pairs of underwear and say "we use the toilet now."

[rootbeerfloat]

1. No
2. Seat on the toilet. We did the little potty the first time, but it's just one more thing to clean.
3. Sit, and he actually sat backwards at first (and for a long time, lol). I think he usually peed when he pooped, too. My kids didn't poop in the morning, so IDK. I guess we'd put them on to try anyway and also get in the habit of peeing first thing in the morning.
4. This never occurred to me. But sure, go ahead.
5. Daycare

[satsuma]

Damn it, NQB. I was going to make a potty training post today

DS isn't potty trained yet, but we're kinda working on it. So with that in mind:

1) No
2) Standalone and sometimes I'll just hold him on ours. Just depends on what he wants.
3) Sitting, although one time he wanted to try leaning against the wall standing up. He was...sort of successful.
4) Nothing in it.

[tealblue]

1. No, although he is dry most mornings.

2. He has a stand alone potty that he prefers.

3. Sits. He has tried to go standing but ummmm... Is a little rough on his penis and nothing comes out. He often pees standing up in the bathtub as the water drains.
B. He is an afternoon pooper.

4. I haven't done a Baggie or water. I just rinse with water after and dump in the toilet. Occasionally I soak it for a while if it doesn't come out.

We're still working on pt'ing.

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Feb 4, 2015 16:51:44 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Feb 4, 2015 16:48:56 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Daycare said they'll "follow whatever we do at home" but there is a bathroom in his classroom so some of the kids use it and some don't.  My sister said I should just drop him off one day with ten clean pairs of underwear and say "we use the toilet now."

Last time we didn't have a whole lot of help from daycare, tbh, but at the new place the 2-3 classroom is pretty focused on it. He will be moving there in a couple months. In his current room they will ask him if he wants to try and sometimes he says yes, sometimes he doesn't. We have done the same at home (um, a couple times, we haven't really been good about it). 

Since your DS is still really young, I wouldn't do much at this point. Maybe buy a toilet/seat and introduce him to it. Have him sit on it before bed or bath just to get him familiar with the idea, but don't expect much. (Just my $0.02).

I'm loling because your post about it yesterday made me think I should know more about the topic.  I was like "hmm, our kids are about the same age and he's doing it."

[badtzmaru22]

1. No
2. Both, but prefer the one on the regular toilet because that's what they use at daycare, less mess, and I thought it would help get her used to a big potty for being out in public.
3. N/A so far on the boy side. We just try to get DD to go in the morning, regardless.
4. Just use the one on the big toilet. Get a step stool.
5. I wish!

DD was interested in the potty forever before she was actually potty trained. I started putting her on it before baths around 14mo, because she would reliably pee as soon as I put her in the tub. Then she seemed disinterested for a bit. She would go back and forth with interest, so we just kept her in diapers, and asked her to go frequently, and we'd just take her diaper off instead of doing pull ups. Then for a while we put big girl undies over her diaper. We tried them out on their own here and there as well, but what really pushed her over the edge was having the new baby.

Everyone said not to push PT while I was pregnant, since she'd probably just regress when the baby came, plus I was too exhausted to really try anyway. When DS was born, she PTd herself out of spite. Every time I sat down to feed the baby, she would have to go. Well, kiddo, joke's on you, because you're potty trained now!

So that was 29-30 months. Then we kept her in a pull up at night way longer than she needed to be (she was waking up dry consistently) because we had a new baby and didn't want to also deal with a million changes of sheets.

The downfall to the sibling rivalry method is that she also started waking up MOTN to go potty, which sucked with the new baby, but I think she's mostly over now. She'll be three in about a week.

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Feb 4, 2015 16:55:56 GMT -5 badtzmaru22 said:

The downfall to the sibling rivalry method is that she also started waking up MOTN to go potty, which sucked with the new baby, but I think she's mostly over now. She'll be three in about a week.

Well that stinks.  And I have to be involved with helping them use the bathroom for how long? Like at 4 years old can they just excuse themselves and go? 3.5?

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Feb 4, 2015 16:48:56 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Feb 4, 2015 16:46:03 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

5. Daycare

Daycare said they'll "follow whatever we do at home" but there is a bathroom in his classroom so some of the kids use it and some don't.  My sister said I should just drop him off one day with ten clean pairs of underwear and say "we use the toilet now."

Randomly, our current center has actually said that they're fine with this method once the kid is trying regularly and starts to look like they're going on command while they're there.

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Feb 4, 2015 16:43:43 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

This is cart before horse most likely but I have some potty training questions on the brain and would like to hash them out.

1. Did you wait until your child was dry in the morning to start toilet learning?

No

2. Stand alone chair or adaptor on adult toilet - which do you prefer and why?

Both. Used the chairs when she was first learning, kept one nearby at all times. The adapter on the adult toilet is easier/less cleanup when they get better at it. Hint--keep a potty chair in your car in case he suddenly screeches I HAVE TO PEE when you are driving somewhere.

3. Boys - stand or sit?
    3a. Do boys sometimes pee when they poop like girls do or is that a girl thing?
    3b. If you retrieve your child in the morning and they have a wet diaper, should you assume they don't need to pee anymore and just try for poo?

4. If you use one of those stand alone chairs and expect poo, should you put a little water in it first so the poo doesn't stick to the bottom? Can I just put a little baggie in it?

I guess you could. We could always get to the adult toilet with adaptor with poop.

5. Is there a service you can hire that does this for you like the Lice Fairies?

If you find one please PM me their info

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Feb 4, 2015 16:58:51 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Feb 4, 2015 16:55:56 GMT -5 badtzmaru22 said:

The downfall to the sibling rivalry method is that she also started waking up MOTN to go potty, which sucked with the new baby, but I think she's mostly over now. She'll be three in about a week.

Well that stinks.  And I have to be involved with helping them use the bathroom for how long? Like at 4 years old can they just excuse themselves and go? 3.5?

DD1 has been on her own for the potty for a long ass time. I can't even remember. Definitely by the time DD2 was born which was 6 weeks before her 3rd birthday. She PT'd at 2y4m. 

Solo pooping is relatively newer, maybe since 4. We still do a booty check if she gets stinky but really it's not an issue.

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Oh and one other helpful hint. When they first PT they have a hard time ripping toilet paper for themselves, so I would pre-rip a roll of TP and stack it in a little rectangular bin from Target on the back of the toilet tank. She could just reach around and grab one to wipe. I don't know if boys wipe after pee at first or not, so this may not be relevant to you NQB, but hopefully it helps someone.

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1. No. It can take many more years for kids to be physically able to hold their pee overnight. Typically overnight training comes last.

2. Knowing DS's personality, I got him a little potty seat because I know he likes things that are "MINE." I think starting with either is fine.

3. I taught to DS to sit. Even with a step stool, even at 40" tall (a VERY tall 3yo) he's not tall enough to pee in the big toilet standing up.
a. Yes
b. No. They could have peed into that diaper hours ago, and may need to pee again.

4. I don't. At this age poop is pretty ploppable. I just shake the potty chair insert over the big toilet, and wipe out the insert with a flushable wipe.  You're going to have a lot of bags of poop if you use a little bag.

5. Nope. The 3 day method isn't the best method for every child KWIM? I think this is one of those times where you have to roll with what works. Not what's "best."

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Oh and like @tokenhoser, we don't make him go potty. He won't comply.

[whitepicketfence]

1. Not a chance. DD2 still wakes up soaked most mornings and she's almost 3.5. Like @mswindycity said, night training is a whole new ballgame. I started potty training both girls when they consistently showed an interest in it. It still led to a lot of stops and starts along the way and it's still a major struggle for DD2.

2. We had both for the girls. DD1 preferred the stand alone potty until she was old enough to get onto the big potty on her own. DD2 refused to use both the stand alone potty and the potty ring; she just wanted to sit on the regular potty from day one. She didn't like the feel of "sticking" to the plastic on them.

3. No experience with boys.

4. A little bit of water in the potty is probably a good idea. I don't think a baggy would work well.

5. If only.

[matildasun]

Feb 4, 2015 16:48:56 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Feb 4, 2015 16:46:03 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

5. Daycare

Daycare said they'll "follow whatever we do at home" but there is a bathroom in his classroom so some of the kids use it and some don't.  My sister said I should just drop him off one day with ten clean pairs of underwear and say "we use the toilet now."

I have been so tempted to do this with M at school. I won't, but I want to.

[badtzmaru22]

Feb 4, 2015 16:58:51 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Feb 4, 2015 16:55:56 GMT -5 badtzmaru22 said:

The downfall to the sibling rivalry method is that she also started waking up MOTN to go potty, which sucked with the new baby, but I think she's mostly over now. She'll be three in about a week.

Well that stinks.  And I have to be involved with helping them use the bathroom for how long? Like at 4 years old can they just excuse themselves and go? 3.5?

Depends how much attention she wants. She goes totally by herself at daycare, although she sometimes does need help wiping after #2. At home, she yells for me to help.