@Friday randoms

[eponinepontmercy]

DD and I spent some time watching music videos on youtube last night. She now calls Katy Perry "the tiger lady."

She also made me turn off Beyonce and Cyndi Lauper because she didn't like them. I don't know where I went wrong.

[eponinepontmercy]

Feb 6, 2015 10:12:57 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

My son wants me to fine the YouTube video where people in houses with blue buckets pushes the green button. This is his only clue. And he is livid that I have no idea what he's talking about.

FIND IT RIGHT NOW!!!

Could it be in your "recently watched" or "watch again" lists?

[Deleted]

C is blaming all of his farts on the cat these days. I am raising a Neanderthal.

We have his formal speech therapy/special ed committee meeting next Tues, just glad it's moving along.

[Velar Fricative]

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

[ttt]

BBT turned three and immediately turned into this unbelievably defiant child.
"Time to pick up your toys"
"no I don't want to"
"You played with them and now it's time to pick up."
"No I'm not going to."

Nothing seems to work. She will gladly go to her room. She will go without dessert or treats. She doesn't care about stuff getting taken away. She doesn't respond even to raising my voice (or H raising his voice, which stuns me because *I* get scared when he raises his voice because his voice is super deep and loud).

SST was never like this and I am at a loss.

[ttt]

Feb 6, 2015 10:32:15 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

That sucks

We kept SSTs infant car seat for next kid too. Then when the time came, a week before my delivery date, we pulled it out of storage and Lo and behold, the cats had been peeing on it for God knows how long, years probably. It was unsalvagable. I was so angry.

[KateAggie]

Feb 6, 2015 10:33:16 GMT -5 ttt said:

BBT turned three and immediately turned into this unbelievably defiant child.
"Time to pick up your toys"
"no I don't want to"
"You played with them and now it's time to pick up."
"No I'm not going to."

Nothing seems to work. She will gladly go to her room. She will go without dessert or treats. She doesn't care about stuff getting taken away. She doesn't respond even to raising my voice (or H raising his voice, which stuns me because *I* get scared when he raises his voice because his voice is super deep and loud).

SST was never like this and I am at a loss.

We had to make Marisa stand in a corner. She hated being faced away from everyone.

[Velar Fricative]

Feb 6, 2015 10:35:03 GMT -5 ttt said:

Feb 6, 2015 10:32:15 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

That sucks

We kept SSTs infant car seat for next kid too. Then when the time came, a week before my delivery date, we pulled it out of storage and Lo and behold, the cats had been peeing on it for God knows how long, years probably. It was unsalvagable. I was so angry.

OMG! I definitely would've been angry too.

[wawa]

You guys are just gonna have to pick me up off the floor where I've fallen in shock from learning that ttt , asdfjkl and KateAggie birthed strong willed children.

say it ain't so!

(and don't worry - I'm aware that between my smart mouth and my stubborn as shit husband, I am SO DOOMED. I was a delightful and compliant child though, so I'm holding out hopes for #2. So far Shorti is clearly MH's.)

[omgzombies]

Feb 6, 2015 10:33:16 GMT -5 ttt said:

BBT turned three and immediately turned into this unbelievably defiant child.
"Time to pick up your toys"
"no I don't want to"
"You played with them and now it's time to pick up."
"No I'm not going to."

Nothing seems to work. She will gladly go to her room. She will go without dessert or treats. She doesn't care about stuff getting taken away. She doesn't respond even to raising my voice (or H raising his voice, which stuns me because *I* get scared when he raises his voice because his voice is super deep and loud).

SST was never like this and I am at a loss.

I had to start throwing toys away to get the message across.  DD didn't care about toys being taken away, because she knew she would get them back eventually.  Trash can was what finally got through.  Three was way worse than two for us.  

[Skyesthelimit1212]

Is it a cartoon, or real people?  

[meshaliuknits]

BoyLiu woke up around 3am with a cough and couldn't/wouldn't go back to sleep. He just kept coughing, headbutting me, crying and yelling NOOOOO!!! BabyLiu kept calling me because she kept having bad dreams about spiders. She said she did have one good dream about ladybugs. Why her dreams always seem to be insect related I do not know.

What can I slip into their dinner to ensure that this does not happen again?

[Skyesthelimit1212]

Feb 6, 2015 11:13:48 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

BoyLiu woke up around 3am with a cough and couldn't/wouldn't go back to sleep. He just kept coughing, headbutting me, crying and yelling NOOOOO!!! BabyLiu kept calling me because she kept having bad dreams about spiders. She said she did have one good dream about ladybugs. Why her dreams always seem to be insect related I do not know.

What can I slip into their dinner to ensure that this does not happen again?

Whiskey LOL 

[jln]

Feb 6, 2015 10:32:15 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

I lost a box of my kitchen tools that I swear just vanished.  If you have to buy a new seat Amazon has the Graco Snugride for $60 or less on their Warehouse Deals site. 

[2curlydogs]

The last 3 days S has only woken up once at night. Generally right around midnight. He has also more regularly put himself back to sleep. Please please please let us have turned the corner with him.


Does anyone know... so S is fully weaned. He hasn't nursed at all in something like two weeks. Possibly more. But my boobs still have milk in them. And while they're not engorged or blocked, there are areas that feel... uncomfortable. Does this eventually dry up? Should I express some of this? I never went thru this with B because my supply was so shitty for the last 4 months of nursing it didn't matter. I just stopped nursing and pumping cold turkey and nothing ever happened.

On the bright side, my libido is back! WOO!

[wawa]

Feb 6, 2015 11:30:02 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

The last 3 days S has only woken up once at night. Generally right around midnight. He has also more regularly put himself back to sleep. Please please please let us have turned the corner with him.


Does anyone know... so S is fully weaned. He hasn't nursed at all in something like two weeks. Possibly more. But my boobs still have milk in them. And while they're not engorged or blocked, there are areas that feel... uncomfortable. Does this eventually dry up? Should I express some of this? I never went thru this with B because my supply was so shitty for the last 4 months of nursing it didn't matter. I just stopped nursing and pumping cold turkey and nothing ever happened.

On the bright side, my libido is back! WOO!

It took forever for my milk to dry up with shorti.  I'd massage those areas in the shower just in case to try and break stuff up, but try not to express anything.  Expressing will just prolong the process.

[twotrue]

Feb 6, 2015 10:32:15 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

Well I totally missed the announcement so congratulations! I have 4 extra car seats floating around my garage.  Not that they are probably worth shipping to you.  But if you're upstate prior to #2 arriving you're welcome to them. :-)

[2curlydogs]

Feb 6, 2015 11:32:22 GMT -5 wawa said:

Feb 6, 2015 11:30:02 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

The last 3 days S has only woken up once at night. Generally right around midnight. He has also more regularly put himself back to sleep. Please please please let us have turned the corner with him.


Does anyone know... so S is fully weaned. He hasn't nursed at all in something like two weeks. Possibly more. But my boobs still have milk in them. And while they're not engorged or blocked, there are areas that feel... uncomfortable. Does this eventually dry up? Should I express some of this? I never went thru this with B because my supply was so shitty for the last 4 months of nursing it didn't matter. I just stopped nursing and pumping cold turkey and nothing ever happened.

On the bright side, my libido is back! WOO!

It took forever for my milk to dry up with shorti.  I'd massage those areas in the shower just in case to try and break stuff up, but try not to express anything.  Expressing will just prolong the process.

That's what I thought. But there's this one spot where I always would get blockages that was feeling... bad. So I expressed a bit from that duct.

UGH. SO annoying.

[wawa]

Feb 6, 2015 11:34:04 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

Feb 6, 2015 11:32:22 GMT -5 wawa said:

It took forever for my milk to dry up with shorti.  I'd massage those areas in the shower just in case to try and break stuff up, but try not to express anything.  Expressing will just prolong the process.

That's what I thought. But there's this one spot where I always would get blockages that was feeling... bad. So I expressed a bit from that duct.

UGH. SO annoying.

eh, it'll eventually just go away no matter what.  nothing wrong with coasting into the finish.  Shorti had been weaned for weeks and suddenly demanded the boob one bedtime - and somehow I still had milk in there so I gave in - and then she never asked for it again and about a week later it was all dried up.  Hormones and all the shit they control is WEIRD.  The fact that your libido has already returned probably means you're almost there.

[Velar Fricative]

Feb 6, 2015 11:33:53 GMT -5 twotrue said:

Feb 6, 2015 10:32:15 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

It's all but official - the infant car seat we used for DD has vanished into thin air. We were going to give it to my sister to use it for my nephew when she's in town later this month, but we've looked everywhere we could think of and can't find it. We did move a couple of times since using it but it's not in any of the houses/storage units we used for storage. I wouldn't be so ticked off if I weren't already pregnant with #2 and I'm so annoyed at the idea of buying another one for just one more kid since we'll be done after this. We kept it specifically for baby #2 to use someday. Ugh.

How does a car seat just disappear?

Well I totally missed the announcement so congratulations! I have 4 extra car seats floating around my garage.  Not that they are probably worth shipping to you.  But if you're upstate prior to #2 arriving you're welcome to them. :-)

Thank you for the congrats and thank you for the offer! I will let you know.

[heyjude]

Yesterday was the first day in a while I didn't feel like death! I even played with my makeup a bit.

My first ultrasound isn't until 2/20 and I'm DYING. I will be 9 weeks!!!

[jln]

We're taking DS to Great Wolf Lodge for his birthday. I'm not sure who is more excited, him or me. He has also requested we eat at Red Robin for dinner on his actual birthday next week. He is my kid, for sure.

[heyjude]

Feb 6, 2015 10:33:16 GMT -5 ttt said:

BBT turned three and immediately turned into this unbelievably defiant child.
"Time to pick up your toys"
"no I don't want to"
"You played with them and now it's time to pick up."
"No I'm not going to."

Nothing seems to work. She will gladly go to her room. She will go without dessert or treats. She doesn't care about stuff getting taken away. She doesn't respond even to raising my voice (or H raising his voice, which stuns me because *I* get scared when he raises his voice because his voice is super deep and loud).

SST was never like this and I am at a loss.

Maybe I'm a really bad mom but I tell her that if i have to pick them up they are going in the garbage. That seems to work. :/

[kittycatlove]

This week has been tantrum city. Everything brings on tears. I took my coat off first, DS wanted to be first, tantrum. This is just one example of the ridiculousness.

[ttt]

Feb 6, 2015 11:45:10 GMT -5 heyjude said:

Feb 6, 2015 10:33:16 GMT -5 ttt said:

BBT turned three and immediately turned into this unbelievably defiant child.
"Time to pick up your toys"
"no I don't want to"
"You played with them and now it's time to pick up."
"No I'm not going to."

Nothing seems to work. She will gladly go to her room. She will go without dessert or treats. She doesn't care about stuff getting taken away. She doesn't respond even to raising my voice (or H raising his voice, which stuns me because *I* get scared when he raises his voice because his voice is super deep and loud).

SST was never like this and I am at a loss.

Maybe I'm a really bad mom but I tell her that if i have to pick them up they are going in the garbage. That seems to work. :/

The problem with tossing them is that most of them are shared toys or actually belong to SST who is excellent about picking up, especially when asked. So I don't want to punish her for her sister.

[2curlydogs]

How do people handle the "Gimmies"?

B is struggling with giving gifts and not receiving one. So, for example, we had a birthday party to go to this past weekend and the whole process of buying, wrapping and giving a gift just set him off with "I want one!" the whole time.

He's 4. I get it. It's hard. No emotional filter. No sense of delayed gratification. But, at the same time, I have had enough of this behavior. This child wants for nothing. I am THIIIIIIIIIIIIS CLOSE that the next time he pulls this nonsense that I am packing up every single toy they own and donating it all to Goodwill. Because I don't know what else to do but if I hear "I want it!" one more time I am going to snap.

[omgzombies]

Feb 6, 2015 11:49:47 GMT -5 ttt said:

Feb 6, 2015 11:45:10 GMT -5 heyjude said:

Maybe I'm a really bad mom but I tell her that if i have to pick them up they are going in the garbage. That seems to work. :/

The problem with tossing them is that most of them are shared toys or actually belong to SST who is excellent about picking up, especially when asked. So I don't want to punish her for her sister.

Can you find a toy that is just hers that you know she won't pick up and make an example out of that one?  The trash thing was effective enough that we only had to do it once.

[omgzombies]

Feb 6, 2015 11:53:34 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

How do people handle the "Gimmies"?

B is struggling with giving gifts and not receiving one. So, for example, we had a birthday party to go to this past weekend and the whole process of buying, wrapping and giving a gift just set him off with "I want one!" the whole time.

He's 4. I get it. It's hard. No emotional filter. No sense of delayed gratification. But, at the same time, I have had enough of this behavior. This child wants for nothing. I am THIIIIIIIIIIIIS CLOSE that the next time he pulls this nonsense that I am packing up every single toy they own and donating it all to Goodwill. Because I don't know what else to do but if I hear "I want it!" one more time I am going to snap.

It's hard, we end up doing a lot of practicing, and talking about what will be happening later in the day.  We take multiple trips to the store, and talk about how we're not buying anything.  I still get asked, but as long as there is a not a temper tantrum about it, I simply say "no, we're not getting anything today" and then maybe suggest that we look at some more things, because it's fun to look.  If there is a tantrum, we leave.  

Then we talk a lot about the party before we go.  That the birthday kid will be getting lots of gifts, but that DD will be getting cake and get to do fun games, or whatever the party activity is, and that on her birthday she will get lots of gifts too.  I also remind her that I expect her to be on good behavior, and if she starts whining I will give her one warning and then we will leave.

She still asks a lot, but I can deal with saying no, I just can't handle the whining and screaming.

[ttt]

Feb 6, 2015 11:53:52 GMT -5 omgzombies said:

Feb 6, 2015 11:49:47 GMT -5 ttt said:

The problem with tossing them is that most of them are shared toys or actually belong to SST who is excellent about picking up, especially when asked. So I don't want to punish her for her sister.

Can you find a toy that is just hers that you know she won't pick up and make an example out of that one?  The trash thing was effective enough that we only had to do it once.

This is a great idea thanks.

[ringstrue]

Feb 6, 2015 11:53:34 GMT -5 2curlydogs said:

How do people handle the "Gimmies"?

B is struggling with giving gifts and not receiving one. So, for example, we had a birthday party to go to this past weekend and the whole process of buying, wrapping and giving a gift just set him off with "I want one!" the whole time.

He's 4. I get it. It's hard. No emotional filter. No sense of delayed gratification. But, at the same time, I have had enough of this behavior. This child wants for nothing. I am THIIIIIIIIIIIIS CLOSE that the next time he pulls this nonsense that I am packing up every single toy they own and donating it all to Goodwill. Because I don't know what else to do but if I hear "I want it!" one more time I am going to snap.

I go into a big back and forth about "well when your birthday comes it's your turn to get a toy". This is also great for having to pass a toy row in the grocery store. Sometimes I'll say "well if you really want it we'll add it to the list to ask santa/grandma/easter bunny to get for you. Or "well if you are good maybe you'll get it for your birthday" - which is good for the whining. 9 times out of 10 she forgets about it.