Anyone awake? I need to ramble.

[amberlyrose]

I woke up to a text from a friend telling me my ex-bff's sister overdosed and is in the hospital. She thinks I need to call ex-bff because to calm her down because I'm good with this kind of stuff.
Now here is where I become an asshole.
Out of the 10 years we were best friends, I have talked her through no less than 5 of her sisters' attempted suicides and at least 2 of her own. I just cant do it anymore. This is the exact reason why we aren't friends and haven't talked in about 5 years, excluding small talk on FB. I sat up with her at night, called professors to excuse her from class, called the ambulance when I found her overdosed in my car I let her borrow to get to work and my dad even put her in touch with every mental health resource possible. I was enabling her and I had to step away.
I feel awful because I truly do care for her sisters and her- they were a part of my family while growing up. But I really can't do it anymore.

[ElizabethBennet]

I think you're doing the right thing. You've given the help multiple times and eventually it just seems like a way to get attention.

[ErinExpat]

I agree that you're doing the right thing. It's great that you realize that you were enabling her, even though I'm sure it hurt.

The fact that she won't have people like you right now might help in her recovery. Sad as it is, people need to hit rock bottom.

I'm sorry it's rough for you.

[Deleted]

That's rough. I think you're doing the right thing. Her sister is in the hospital, getting professional help. It's not like you are leaving either of the in a life-threatening spot and walking away. Send a card to express your sympathies.

[hi725]

I had a friend like this and the best thing you could have done, for both of you, is walk away and don't look back. I would not contact her at all, because it might open up a doorway to her leaning heavily on you and continuing the same cycle.

[callalily]

As hard as it is, you are doing the right thing. The best thing i ever did was cut a friend out who was very similar to this. Sometimes you just have to walks away for your own sanity.

[Deleted]

I agree with PPs. You are doing the right thing. I'm kind of side-eying the friend who sent you the text wanting you to swoop in and fix things rather so she wouldn't have to (at least, that's the impression I got).

[Deleted]

I would tell her this sounds like a situation where ex-bff would benefit from talking to a professional or whatever counseling resources the hospital has on hand.

Sorry you've been put in the position to even question your decision.

[amberlyrose]

Now that I'm fully awake and thinking- I'm just pissed anything was brought to my attention, even though other friend doesn't know the full extent of what went on.
It was such a bad, toxic friendship. I had let go and moved on (thanks to H, who was bf at the time) and I lost most of our mutual friends over it because "I gave up on her."

[Deleted]

You did the right thing by stepping away from the friendship, nothing in this dynamic is healthy for you.