Feelings a week out from due date

[Kit]

I actually had those similar feelings right after I found out I was pregnant. I cried and cried, wondering if we "ruined" things, will we be okay, etc. I really love just H and I, but I'm excited for what is to come, too.

I have no advice, just hugs for you.

[stategirl08]

I'm a little over 38 weeks and I totally understand how you feel. The idea of another person in our world and the impact that will have is daunting. I am excited, but also anxious about the unknown and a bit sad about the closing of this current chapter.

All that to say ((hugs)). Keep reaching out and just work through it as it happens. Totally normal to feel how you do.

[krystee]

I have been so excited this whole time until this point, but it's started to hit me that we're not just gaining exciting things...we're losing some stuff too. And I started to get a little sad on top of the happiness. I am nervous about how things that are so easy now will be a production with a baby (travel, etc.). I am also a little worried that our marriage will be impacted since we can both be moody when over-tired and I get super crabby if I feel cooped up in the house.

I think it's completely normal to be sad/stressed/worried, so do not feel bad about it at all. In fact, the people who aren't at ALL worried/nervous/sad are probably a little crazy.

[kams]

I agree that these feeling are well within the range of normal. And I have to say, I really think there are A LOT of emotions that are normal throughout pregnancy and baby's first year.

Also, I in no way want to minimize your feelings, because life will change and it is perfectly ok to be sad about that, but within 6-8 weeks, you will likely settle in to a new normal that you can't imagine you lived without. And that feeling of life being richer and fuller will only grow as the baby gets older and easier (from a day-to-day fog perspective). If you have "traditional" schedules, you'll have some alone time once a bedtime is established.

I vacillate between some interesting emotions over the last couple of weeks, too. There are moments that I am so sad that DD1s world is going to be absolutely rocked, and she just has no clue about it. I'm far more worried about her while we are in the hospital than ANYTHING else, which is sort of irrational.

But then, she has a sassy attitude, won't listen, or does something else totally 4 year old that makes me feel nutty, and I have preferential feelings towards the baby - the baby who isn't even here yet . So much guilt.

The end of pregnancy is REALLY hard. For me, both times, it's like a switch flips in the middle of the 38th week. People constantly asking if you're feeling anything or walking or having sex or whatever else. You can't go anywhere without people commenting on the fact that you're still pregnant, dammit. On top of the excess hormones of the last couple of weeks, I feel ultra sensitive and irked.

I don't know that this is helpful at all. im word vomiting myself. But, being right there with you, I feel like I can understand your feelings and wish I could send you a big hug and a yummy cup of coffee in a cute dachshund mug

[ellipsis]

Your thought process is completely rationale to me. I felt some of those things super early on (and still do), when I wasn't being scared sh*tless about something going wrong. H and I have been together for 11 years. Hugs hugs hugs. I totally wasn't one of those giddy, squealing, crazy-excited women when I found out I was pregnant. It was more like, gulp, this is real/serious now. I imagine I'll be in your exact shoes right before birth as well.

[achi]

I felt that way around 12 weeks. Something about 40 weeks sounds so long, but 28 sounded so short. I'm sure I'll have moments of that at some point again before baby makes it's debut.

Hugs to you.

[mcfelix]

I agree - totally normal. Having a child is life changing, and I certainly mourned (and still do sometimes) my pre-baby life when DH and I could just pick up and go somewhere whenever we felt like it. Or lie on the couch all day watching tv and doing absolutely nothing else.

Now that I am pregnant with #2, I am like oh shit, both of us will always have to be "on" since we will have two little people to take care of!

[cheeseandcrackers]

When people ask me if i'm excited and I say "yeah... but nervous" they look at me surprised like I should be jumping up and down. Of course I am excited to meet the baby but I know once I do there will be a ton of responsibilities and sacrifices that come with it. It still doesn't feel real to me, but I am getting so sore and achy and lacking so much sleep that I am counting down the days till I can get her out. I know that it will be harder once she is out BUT I will also be able to feel somewhat like myself again.. and sharing your body is hard ha.

[lynn07]

Feb 26, 2015 13:53:44 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Hugs.

I never felt the "can't wait to meet the baby!!"

I was more "holy shit, I'm not ready for this. Keep that little thing in as long as possible!"

Now that #3 is almost here, I'm having some major guilt at changing my 2 older kids' lives.

I agree that once you settle into a routine, you kind of forget your life before. But, it still is important to set aside time for just you, and just you and H.

Oh man. So much this. I am so ready to not be pregnant anymore, but I've been definitely having some guilt/sadness re: it not being the four of us anymore. DS1 and 2 were 13 months apart, so it's basically felt like it's been the four of us for forever (they're 4 and 5). I've been starting to mourn the loss of our little family unit, so I totally understand OP. But from our experience, you get into a new routine and it gets better, and you can't imagine life any different. Hugs.

[coribelle26]

I think the topic on my mind most often now is how this baby is going to affect our dog. I'm not kidding or exaggerating, that is literally my obsession.

I'm telling you this so that hopefully you feel a little more normal in comparison...