I recently started dating this guy who is a musician and music producer, but also has a degree in audio engineering. I know that's a completely different field than the engineering you all are talking about, but I'm pretty sure he thinks the same as a mechanical engineer based on some of these posts! They have me cracking up.
He actually does seem to be very handy and not overly cocky, but he will see something that needs to be fixed/done and need to do it right that second or the world will end. I'm like dude, just relax, fix it after dinner!
So basically moral of the story based on what everyone has said in here I need to DTMF ASAP!
My ex, during our renovation, thought that, since he was an artist and painted n shit, he could knock out sanding and staining all of the 110 y/o wood trim and floors in our house, no problem. In like a week or two. Convinced about this. $30,000 and 3 months later after a professional woodworking team finished the house, he finally said, "Yeah, I don't think I could have done that.".
You don't say? lol
OH MY GOD. Yes. Can we talk about the CHRONIC UNDERESTIMATING?
My H thought he could dismantle, relevel and relay our 9x15' brick patio. In a day.
The "half hour job" is a running joke in my family because my dad would constantly be like "I have a job for you. It'll take a half hour." Three hours later....
Hahaha DH is always going to be done in the garage in 30 minutes.
Post by downtoearth on Feb 27, 2015 17:23:37 GMT -5
I feel like some of you are describing me and I thought I was more geology than engineer, but maybe not...
Chronic Underestimating - check Willing to try anything b/c "How hard can that be, really?" Especially for home renovations - check Back seat driving - check Drawing diagrams during an argument to get my point across better - check Not feeling like I can make a true decision without a good spreadsheet - check
It's like taking a personality test and loving the first two paragraphs that talk about your strengths, but then trying to look away as you read about the weaknesses.
Post by penguingrrl on Feb 27, 2015 17:23:57 GMT -5
I will say, though, H is a shitty driver and knows it. As such he has never driven if I'm sober. I even drove through midtown Manhattan in what turned out to be false labor because he knew I wouldn't give up the keys and didn't bother fighting with me on it!
I told my husband a few years ago that my discussing these things with IIOY and origami may have saved his life because I didn't feel so alone anymore.
I do think enginerds love a challenge and sometimes I am grateful for that because i am quite the challenge for my H sometimes and despite how much he drives me crazy, he's a good balance and partner for me, lol. I'd likely be bored without him telling me how he is optimizing my life.
Oh, what about trying to fix something and getting so engrossed in said problem, they don't realize it's time to go stop for a bit. This is especially grating when you have company or have to go somewhere. It's like they get caught in the weeds, and can't see themselves out.
I recently started dating this guy who is a musician and music producer, but also has a degree in audio engineering. I know that's a completely different field than the engineering you all are talking about, but I'm pretty sure he thinks the same as a mechanical engineer based on some of these posts! They have me cracking up.
He actually does seem to be very handy and not overly cocky, but he will see something that needs to be fixed/done and need to do it right that second or the world will end. I'm like dude, just relax, fix it after dinner!
So basically moral of the story based on what everyone has said in here I need to DTMF ASAP!
I got a tip from my college adviser when Mr.Kirkette first called to ask me out on a date. She was married to an engineer . She said," Make sure you really like him before accepting the date, because engineers will never leave you".
I recently started dating this guy who is a musician and music producer, but also has a degree in audio engineering. I know that's a completely different field than the engineering you all are talking about, but I'm pretty sure he thinks the same as a mechanical engineer based on some of these posts! They have me cracking up.Â
He actually does seem to be very handy and not overly cocky, but he will see something that needs to be fixed/done and need to do it right that second or the world will end. I'm like dude, just relax, fix it after dinner!
So basically moral of the story based on what everyone has said in here I need to DTMF ASAP!
I got a tip from my college adviser when Mr.Kirkette first called to ask me out on a date. She was married to an engineer . She said," Make sure you really like him before accepting the date, because engineers will never leave you".Â
This is so true. I always joke that Mh would never have married anyone if I hadn't hit on him while drunk our senior year of college.
Once an enginerd considers you one of their people, that's it for life. Lol.
I got a tip from my college adviser when Mr.Kirkette first called to ask me out on a date. She was married to an engineer . She said," Make sure you really like him before accepting the date, because engineers will never leave you".
This is so true. I always joke that Mh would never have married anyone if I hadn't hit on him while drunk our senior year of college.
Once an enginerd considers you one of their people, that's it for life. Lol.
Is there a support group for spouses of engineers? I should have known better. My dad is an engineer. I married an engineer. On our third date, after asking a simple question about the new iPod (this was 10 years ago), DH spent 45 minutes comparing the features and virtues of various MP3 players. FORTY FIVE DING DONG MINUTES, Y'ALL!
We were also friends first. We had mutual friends (chemical enginerds actually - one is one of my best friends from high school) that we hung out with a lot. I always went out drinking with those friends and towards the end of the semester he made some comment that we never invited him, and I told him it wasn't a formal invitation situation and he should come out with us. I got wasted after finals fall semester and hit on him. The rest is history. Lol!
I have one friend who made a comment one time when we were out to lunch that my husband thought was dumb. He still refers to her as my dumb friend. 10 years and a zillion interactions later.
Interesting ... I'm sensing a pattern. I went to lunch with Mr.Kirkette, as I friend, the day we met in church. I told him he needed more fun in his life (since he was spending almost all of his time in the Harvey Mudd engineering dungeons), and I'd introduce him to some of my single girlfriends. I had no idea I was being screened until he asked me out later a few days later.
"Being screened" LOL
You probably were. He probably had a spreadsheet and you met enough criteria to advance to Phase Two, Subsection C of Operation Marry A Fabulous Woman.
We were also friends first. We had mutual friends (chemical enginerds actually - one is one of my best friends from high school) that we hung out with a lot. I always went out drinking with those friends and towards the end of the semester he made some comment that we never invited him, and I told him it wasn't a formal invitation situation and he should come out with us. I got wasted after finals fall semester and hit on him. The rest is history. Lol!
You probably were. He probably had a spreadsheet and you met enough criteria to advance to Phase Two, Subsection C of Operation Marry A Fabulous Woman.
In fairness, I was a serious date screener. Prior to Mr. Kirkette, if we were at dinner, and I had to even think about pretending to reach for a bill, NO SECOND DATE!
Oooo, first date stories. H was so boring on our first date. So very boring. He spent the entire time talking about himself and I couldn't stand it. Why I said yes to a second date, I don't know beyond the fact that I found him physically attractive.
Anyway, I later found out he was talking about himself the whole time because I wasn't talking and he had to fill the silence. I told him I was quiet because he was too damn busy talking about himself.
I also found out that he didn't like me on the first date, either, but he is the most stubborn motherfucker and wanted to make me be the one to cut things off, so he asked me out again. We spent our first three or four dates not actually liking one another, but neither of us would blink. LOL
Most I know are reliable, responsible and good to have around. They just drive you crazy in the process.
My DH is a physicist and works with/manages mostly engineers. I'm pretty sure this goes for engineers at work, too, lol.
What I get is crazy-math-in-his-head, and bitching about when movies and TV shows do stuff that defies the laws of physics. And if my kids ask, "Why is the sky blue?", they get the actual scientific explanation involving light scatter.
OMG, I'm late to chime in on this point but what is up with the inability to tell time? I am constantly asking DH how in the world it is possible that a trained engineer who works in a high-level strategic planning role for a huge company cannot read a clock and estimate the time it takes to complete a task???
Post by MarmeeNoir on Feb 27, 2015 18:55:42 GMT -5
My husband sounds like he should have been an engineer. He watched Pumpkin Chuckin or some shit and went outside and built a trebuchet. GOD FORBID you call it a catapult. Trying to get me all excited by showing me lines and numbers on a paper. Nah man, I'm good.
I totally ignored this thread until the title change.
My H thinks he's awesome, and never, ever wrong. He was an engineer. Now he works in the field doing the things he used to tell people as engineer, and he's still never wrong.
And to bring this full circle with the rest of the internet, he saw the dress as white and gold. My response was "So, you're wrong?" and he had some huge rebuttal about how he wasn't wrong. I was pretty pleased with myself.
I swear to god, sometimes I think my husband married me just because my brain doesn't work like his. And it's like this challenge to him to somehow optimize me/my life.
He is so unnaturally confident, it drives me up a goddamn wall. The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. So like I can taunt him for being like, "I could make that," but usually he CAN. wtf. It's like God hates me. Not only is he an enginerd, he's a mechanical enginerd (I'm convinced they are the worst), plus his dad is a mechanical enginerd who was raised on a farm. So he spent his whole youth doing everything you could think of around the house. Fixing cars, house maintenance... on the one hand it's great he can do all this shit, on the other, SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE IF HE FAILED.
I'm only on page 1 of this thread and can't restrain myself from commenting.
We've been married almost 11 years so I've finally figured out how to deal with my DH needing to fix everything himself. There's a house problem. He researches forever. He starts trying to fix it. There's some unforeseen problem. He comes to tell me because I need to know that it's "far more complicated than we originally thought." I say, so sweetly, "it's ok. You tried so hard. I'll figure out who to hire." He is immediately motivated to fix it ASAP. Then he does. This exact pattern happens with every home problem.
And the work overconfidence. OMG. I am so horrified by the things he says in his reviews. I'm like, "please tell me you didn't actually say that to your boss." Oh of course he said that. Why wouldn't he? And his boss agreed, according to him. Well, he's finally getting it in reverse because he's in charge of a bunch of engineers now. And he's flabbergasted that average and below average engineers JUST DONT GET IT that they aren't the best in the group. He's blaming it on cultural differences while I LMAO on the inside.
I swear to god, sometimes I think my husband married me just because my brain doesn't work like his. And it's like this challenge to him to somehow optimize me/my life.
He is so unnaturally confident, it drives me up a goddamn wall. The worst part with him is that he can actually do house projects. He's REALLY good at them. So like I can taunt him for being like, "I could make that," but usually he CAN. wtf. It's like God hates me. Not only is he an enginerd, he's a mechanical enginerd (I'm convinced they are the worst), plus his dad is a mechanical enginerd who was raised on a farm. So he spent his whole youth doing everything you could think of around the house. Fixing cars, house maintenance... on the one hand it's great he can do all this shit, on the other, SOMETIMES IT WOULD BE NICE IF HE FAILED.
I'm only on page 1 of this thread and can't restrain myself from commenting.
We've been married almost 11 years so I've finally figured out how to deal with my DH needing to fix everything himself. There's a house problem. He researches forever. He starts trying to fix it. There's some unforeseen problem. He comes to tell me because I need to know that it's "far more complicated than we originally thought." I say, so sweetly, "it's ok. You tried so hard. I'll figure out who to hire." He is immediately motivated to fix it ASAP. Then he does. This exact pattern happens with every home problem.
And the work overconfidence. OMG. I am so horrified by the things he says in his reviews. I'm like, "please tell me you didn't actually say that to your boss." Oh of course he said that. Why wouldn't he? And his boss agreed, according to him. Well, he's finally getting it in reverse because he's in charge of a bunch of engineers now. And he's flabbergasted that average and below average engineers JUST DONT GET IT that they aren't the best in the group. He's blaming it on cultural differences while I LMAO on the inside.
Ok now to read the rest of this thread.
MH's work fuels his overconfidence. And like sometimes, I'm glad, because that means good things for our family. But other times, I'm like...WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY do you have to give him the outstanding and distinguished ratings?!
OH! This one drives me nuts! Is it an engineer thing, or just an H thing?
He will explain how to something to me. I'll do it, except wrong somehow. Then he says "If you didn't understand, why didn't you say so?" Except, I did think I understood, SO HOW WOULD I KNOW TO TELL YOU I DIDN'T.
Now I'm mad H will be home soon and I'll have to hide this discussion, lol.
My husband is the same....amazingly handy, can fix anything, like living with Bob Villa. I am amazed often, though sometimes he gets distracted to another project or fix. While i do think he is brilliant, I will not tell him this. His damn head is already too big to fit through the door in most places as it is. I am a trained engineer as well (comp) but we are different personalities. We, too, started as friends in grad school. Got drunk a few times with the 4/5 time, he grabbed my hand and the rest is history.