Post by TrudyCampbell on Feb 27, 2015 20:25:17 GMT -5
I have been crushing so hard on Marigold (yes, I'm allowed to name all my kids after colors/flowers! Suck it!) and now it's on Downton abbey and it's killlllllling me!
I think about little Alice or Matilda sometimes. I can't picture any little boys, mostly bc I'm not in love with any names.
But seriously, it's good I'm done having kids because people would make fun of me for having Violet, Ruby and Marigold.
Maybe it's only because Charlie's only 6 months, but it sits just fine with me that one day I'll have dogs/cats/pigs/bunnies/something named Judith and Elliot.
Not doing well with this at all. I don't have names, but I am pretty devastated about not having another baby. Hence the maternity clothes clean out, I can't look at them, I'm hoping getting those things out will help.
Post by honeybee503 on Feb 27, 2015 21:06:45 GMT -5
I was more sad about not being able to use Samantha when Nolan was first born. Now one year later I don't mind as much.
I was really torn between Samantha or Natalie and decided I would regret it more if I never had a Natalie and I was right. If I ever have a granddaughter maybe I will be THAT mom/mil and bug them like crazy about it.
I dream about my Andrew Francis sometimes. I never let myself pick a girl name because I never thought I was pregnant with a girl, but I think she would have been Kate.
My H is totally on board for #3, which almost makes it worse. It's my decision and I go back and forth approximately 20 times a day on whether I want another.
Post by thedahliharpa on Feb 27, 2015 21:16:50 GMT -5
I guess eventually we will have another Boston Terrier or some fish to name :- (. I'd be really stressed to name a 3rd girl and we would be team green again so it would be exhausting. I think we'd just stick with Flynn for a boy because DH would never settle for Lars or my other faves. I wallow in the no more kids thing occasionally but it's becoming less frequent.
My H is totally on board for #3, which almost makes it worse. It's my decision and I go back and forth approximately 20 times a day on whether I want another.
This is us, too. My H is totally on board and wants a 3rd. I go back and forth. My life changed more than his did and the bulk of taking care of them falls on me. Sometimes, I look at them and think it's all I can handle. Then sometimes I really want one more and don't see E as my last. I always tell myself I have time to think about it. I wouldn't want to TTC until late 2016 or early 2017.
lolaburns, I keep trying to tell myself I have time (which I do) but I worry I will regret losing the benefits of two close together in age. I could go back to work in a year or two unless I have another...but would I regret having one or just not having one? Ugh. It's so hard to know when you're done.
The thing that makes me the most sad is that I wanted to name a little girl after my grandma who died on my moms 21st birthday because I wanted to honor her. I know my mom still really misses her, and I'm sad I never got to meet her. However, my sister may be trying for another soon, so if she has a girl maybe I will try to convince hEr to use Irene as a first or middle name.
My biggest fear would be getting to use both a boy and girl name at once. Even though it's highly unlikely, Just the thought of this happening is enough to make me keep taking my pills lol
lolaburns, I keep trying to tell myself I have time (which I do) but I worry I will regret losing the benefits of two close together in age. I could go back to work in a year or two unless I have another...but would I regret having one or just not having one? Ugh. It's so hard to know when you're done.
Yeah I don't really want to have a 5+-year spread between my oldest and youngest.
Plus I worry about E being a middle kid or one of them being left out.
Yeah if William is three and we havent decided to have a third I'm just going to have him get a vasectomy I think ...
Hannah was my back up name both times, and I'm sad I'll never use it. Lately I've been obsessed with the idea of having a little Joseph, but since I don't want to birth or care for any more children it's not gonna happen, lol.
lolaburns, I keep trying to tell myself I have time (which I do) but I worry I will regret losing the benefits of two close together in age. I could go back to work in a year or two unless I have another...but would I regret having one or just not having one? Ugh. It's so hard to know when you're done.
Yeah I don't really want to have a 5+-year spread between my oldest and youngest.
Plus I worry about E being a middle kid or one of them being left out.
Sometimes I think 5 years would be perfect spacing but we are too old for that noise.
I worried about the middle child thing, too. Then I sometimes think about E being my sweet baby girl and what if I had another girl it would take that away from her. But then she would have a sister 2.5-3 years apart so I don't know. I guess we will just wing it when we get to that point.
Then I feel like two are relatively portable but 3 it might start to get a little crazy?
I worried about the middle child thing, too. Then I sometimes think about E being my sweet baby girl and what if I had another girl it would take that away from her. But then she would have a sister 2.5-3 years apart so I don't know. I guess we will just wing it when we get to that point.
Then I feel like two are relatively portable but 3 it might start to get a little crazy?
I also irrationally worry about H getting even less attention vs her requirements and spending her life on the pole. Well not really but some kind of severe acting out. I'm glad she gets the humbling experience of a sibling but I don't think she would have longed for a sibling had she never had one. Whereas, I think D is really suited to be a little sister and needs the companionship. But she also needs a lot of ME and she doesn't share me well. Ok, I'm verging on rambling.
I think worrying about the oldest is totally valid, too. Sometimes I think L acts out only because he isn't getting attention he needs then and there because I am having to tend to E.
Not doing well with this at all. I don't have names, but I am pretty devastated about not having another baby. Hence the maternity clothes clean out, I can't look at them, I'm hoping getting those things out will help.
I'm sorry. (((Hugs)))
I've had two dreams in the last few weeks about being pregnant and I always wake up wistful and frustrated at the circumstances of our OAD status. I hope it gets easier for you.
Not doing well with this at all. I don't have names, but I am pretty devastated about not having another baby. Hence the maternity clothes clean out, I can't look at them, I'm hoping getting those things out will help.
I'm sorry. (((Hugs)))
I've had two dreams in the last few weeks about being pregnant and I always wake up wistful and frustrated at the circumstances of our OAD status. I hope it gets easier for you.