I feel like 8 year old again. Vent.

[jag01]

This might get long, and for that I apologize. My parents divorced when I was young. I didn't get to have much of a relationship with my dad, as he was kind of a workaholic, and just didn't make himself available. When we spent time with him on the weekends, us kids mostly spent it with my grandparents as my dad always had something to do. I remember inviting him to our ball games and other functions and being disappointed when he didn't show.
He eventually re married and started another family.
I happened to call him yesterday just to check in. When I was talking to my dad, he mentioned that the kids and my step mom were going away this weekend, and he had to stay back to work. He sounded a little bummed out. I told him that we should make a plan either a) I'd go out to his place to go snowmobiling (a passion we both share) or b) he could come out here for supper, but I was leaving it up to him. 
I feel like I'm 8 again, waiting to hear from him, part of me is really excited at the thought of spending some time with him, and the other part is feeling nervous about being let down again if he doesn't call. 
I'm not really sure what to do, be proactive and make something happen or sit back and wait for him to make the move?
Any words of wisdom would also be appreciated. 

[gastro]

I'm sorry you had to grow up feeling this and going through again.
Here's the thing - he will either come or won't. And you would rather he come. I would put it out there - Dad please come, it would really mean a lot to me.
I know you probably want to protect yourself from disappointment but please know if he doesn't show it's not because of you. But maybe he feels weird about coming or whatever and just needs some encouragement from you?

[Deleted]

I'm sorry for the pain and frustration this is causing you.

While I know it's not a cure all, I have some "issues" with my mom, things that I've been actively seeking counseling for. the counseling is starting to help me come to terms with things.

[jag01]

Thanks ladies for the kind words. Normally these kind of things I wouldn't have given a second thought to, but today it kind of hit a nerve. Must be hormones.

[feffy]

I'm sorry you're going through that. I know where you're coming from. I just try not to get my hopes up. I have changed a lot of my expectations through the years!

[Deleted]

I really like the way gastro worded it.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way and hope he can get over himself enough to come spend time with you....cause I don't "know" you.....but HE'S missing out if he doesn't show up. *hugs*

[cabbagecabbage]

I'm so sorry. My Dad was out of my life mostly and I basically detached my expectations in my twenties. I still remember that deep belly ache of wanting him to come through but steeling myself in case he didn't. It helps to have a backup plan. If he doesn't call by 10, I'm going to the farmers market or whatever.