I'm still confused. I'm not trying to be obtuse here. I don't get how me not liking SwaddleMes makes me Breezy? I wasn't all, "Oh...I'm not going to put my kids in these on purpose!" My kids really didn't like them, so I took them off and that was the end of it.
And yeah, compared to many people I am a gear minimalist as in I wasn't going to register for tons of things I didn't know I'd need or not. If I would have needed them I would have got them. I had just a lot of stuff given to me I decided to make work first and luckily 97% of it did.
It's more everyone's different than about being breezy.
But Point Taken. Live and Learn.
I didn't read it this way the first time, but re-reading the quote that @vicmo quoted, I can see how it comes across as "better than you". Like "MY kids were just FINE with a cheap bottle and slept perfectly well without all those fancy RNPs that the rest of your babies NEEDED." A lot of people on here tried 14 bottles before they found one their kid would actually take and many people (maybe even you) were up every half hour all night with their babies and would try anything to get them to sleep longer stretches. It just comes across like the rest of us are silly for needing those things.
Got it. I apologize then. I meant to be silly. There are things my kids do too that aren't easy and I have ranted about them on here. I just don't think that every post has to constantly be mutually related to everything else that's happening on the board. My right isn't your wrong automatically and all of that. Sometimes I do feel like people read into everything a bit more than necessary. Just because it's worked or didn't for me doesn't mean that I care/judge you for it not working, kwim? But such is the way of the internet. It's a normal reaction. And yeah, I am the one who has been up every hour for the past year, so I get it and should be probably be more sensitive.
The only thing I can come up with is it could be taken similarly to "you people" which is offensive and "other-ing"In the registry instance, I didn't get that tone, and I really only remember one person even mentioning it. I think you're fine.
I just use y'all. However, I don't think "you all" is inherently offensive either. Other message boards I've been on have had people offended by "you all" and"you people" as well, to the point it became a running joke.
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@justdairy keep in mind that one instance was a thread about judging other people's registries...the audience in that kind of thread may be generally more prone to both judging and feeling judged and when anyone reads that kind of thread we are primed for judging/feeling judged.
I agree with what some have said about why "you all" can be seen as offensive, but I also think we all could lighten up around here and consider the context.
Thanks. You said it better than me. I think that's what I was getting at all along.
I also think I need an internet break. I'm getting to the point where judging over judging or not judging over not judging and everyone is being judged over judging or not is starting to get to me.
I also never really knew you all was offensive. Lesson learned. I honestly just use it as an expression/filler for the general consensus. Nothing more, nothing else.
Honestly, as someone who "called you out", I'm not offended. It just seemed like a false distinction you were creating between yourself and everybody else, but I also never read baby gear threads and wanted to post something cheeky in response. Maybe you really are a baby gear iconoclast.
Got it. I was just talking. Actually about why people would judge my registry so I thought I'd fit right in.
I don't care that much about baby gear and baby gear research so that's why I thought my registry would be judged, which was like 98% of the point of that post.
No idea about the threads in question but agree with others that maybe it is taken as "you commoners" and setting your self as superior? Unless you are from Mississippi and that is how you talk? Idk.
So Canadians hear "you all" and think Mississippi? LOL
Ok I read that post and it was a really weird call out. Clearly you were referring to the popular items. It's got to have been a tone misunderstanding. I didn't read it as a smug thing, but I can see how that's possible I suppose.
Anybody still read Kelle Hampton? The intro to her post this morning is very well timed for this discussion...Ha!
"The beach is dominating my photos lately, but that's a good thing because I promised myself when I moved down here that I'd drink up this landscape as best as I could and never become one of those people who lives four minutes from the beach but never goes. "Those people" is a trigger-sensitive term in social media so please understand there are, of course, good reasons that might keep you away from the beach. Like maybe you have no transportation to get there or a horrible sun allergy or you once saw a pelican viciously attack a crab and it traumatized you from all things sea and sand. Y'all are exempt from the "those people" umbrella, but the rest of us? Giddy up, we have to go."
Anybody still read Kelle Hampton? The intro to her post this morning is very well timed for this discussion...Ha!
"The beach is dominating my photos lately, but that's a good thing because I promised myself when I moved down here that I'd drink up this landscape as best as I could and never become one of those people who lives four minutes from the beach but never goes. "Those people" is a trigger-sensitive term in social media so please understand there are, of course, good reasons that might keep you away from the beach. Like maybe you have no transportation to get there or a horrible sun allergy or you once saw a pelican viciously attack a crab and it traumatized you from all things sea and sand. Y'all are exempt from the "those people" umbrella, but the rest of us? Giddy up, we have to go."
What? It took me about five minutes to even understand WTF that was about.
As much time as I spend on the internet how did I never know until today phrases such as "you all" "those" etc. are offensive? I don't even know what I know anymore at this point. ^o) :? :^) @tokenhoser (is that better?! JK)