Toys at the park

[quesyrah]

We don't have a real backyard- we live in a condo in a gated community that's not conducive to bike riding.

So I let DS bring his bike to the park because there's a path around it and several trails. The park happens to be located where his school is and we always play for awhile after pick up.

Because the school is right there, it's always crowded. Lately the other kids follow him asking to ride his bike. He's been really good at sharing but today another kid hopped on the bike without asking and wouldn't give it back. There were tears on both ends so I put the bike away.

Another mom told me I shouldn't let him bring the bike because it's a distraction to the other kids and it's not fair for them to watch him ride and they can't.

FWIW we also always have sand toys and those get shared easily with no fights. I told DS today we can't bring the bike anymore because I overheard a few moms shit talking me, him and the bike. But that's not really fair to DS.

Posting and running to take DS to the dr but discuss! Bikes at the park- ok or unfair to others?

[Deleted]

I feel lost by other mom's comment. It's a park. That's what kids do there. Unless I missed a meeting, I am pretty sure your DS riding his bike...at the park...is fine.

[polarbearfans]

It's a park.... Bring the bike unless the park has posting rules banning bikes. The other kids can bring bikes if they want to ride. It's not your problem they don't have a bike at the park.

[ashb62]

There are several parks around here that have good riding trails. I've never thought twice about kids riding their bikes or bringing DD's bike. It's also not something we generally share. If DD wants to ride, we bring hers. If we don't bring hers, she doesn't ride. I think it's fine and those other parents are ridiculous. If your DS can't ride at home, where is he supposed to ride?

[NandaB]

Tell that bitch its her bad her poor kid is deprived
why can't she bring his bike to the park. OR tell him its not bike riding time? Or you know, just not be a bitch?

[momin2013]

Umm...yeah, it's a park. Where kids ride bikes. Agree with PP's - unless there's a sign saying no bikes, then everyone else is welcome to bring a bike if they want. If they don't, or can't because they're just out of school or for whatever reason, well, I'm sure they get other chances to bring their bike to a park. Weird.

I personally wouldn't feel obliged to make my DS share his bike with every Tom, Dick and Harry at the park. I'm all about sharing when appropriate, but not in this instance. If that makes me a meanie, well, sorrynotsorry.

[mamaalysson]

That mom is crazy cakes. And I don't think your son has to share his bike if he doesn't want to. That's nice that he will, but I certainly wouldn't expect a kid with a bike or scooter to share with my kid just because she asks. Honestly, we ride bikes and scooters to (and at) the park all of the time, and I don't think DD has ever been asked to share, except for with the friend we walked with, in which case they usually switch rides. Sand toys we always share - that makes sense to me, and I prep DD (and now DS) for that possibility. But bikes? Nope.

[Rainyday]

She is ridiculous.
/gavel
And tell her we said so:-)

[gastro]

She's crazy. Wtf tells a kid not to bring his bike to the park?
Toys at the park - yes, you bring, you share. If something is too special to share it stays in the trunk.
Bike, scooter etc. no sharing because every kid has to wear a helmet. So there is trading of riding toys but all the moms here are strict about helmets and I would never let a kid ride DS's bike without one.

[andrewsgal]

Tell her to bring her own bike. We always take bikes and scooters to the park

[lyingliarlies]

Mar 3, 2015 17:10:15 GMT -5 gastro said:

She's crazy. Wtf tells a kid not to bring his bike to the park?
Toys at the park - yes, you bring, you share. If something is too special to share it stays in the trunk.
Bike, scooter etc. no sharing because every kid has to wear a helmet. So there is trading of riding toys but all the moms here are strict about helmets and I would never let a kid ride DS's bike without one.

Exactamundo

[lattelady5]

Mar 3, 2015 17:10:15 GMT -5 gastro said:

She's crazy. Wtf tells a kid not to bring his bike to the park?
Toys at the park - yes, you bring, you share. If something is too special to share it stays in the trunk.
Bike, scooter etc. no sharing because every kid has to wear a helmet. So there is trading of riding toys but all the moms here are strict about helmets and I would never let a kid ride DS's bike without one.

This exactly.

[letranger]

I hate toys at the park. It's annoying for the borrowing thing. I get hyper nervous about bikes/scooters because what if kid gets hurt on my kids stuff?

[letranger]

Also I'd never tell a parent not to bring it but I do hate them.

[Deleted]

What they said. Take your bike. Ds rides it. If they want bikes, they can bring them. I'm seriously so confused by that lady's remark!?

[cabbagecabbage]

If your kid has a snack, do other kids get bites?

That mom was ridiculous. Sure, it's nice to share but I never assume a kid will share anything at the park. If they want to hold tight to their crap plastic shovel, they can and that's life.

[erbear]

Meh. I agree with others. Bikes are fair game, and they don't need to be shared. Toys should not be brought to a park.

[andrewsgal]

This is so odd to me. Maybe I live in Mayberry with Kate but we have never had an issue with sand toys or anything like that at the park.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

You shouldn't let your kid bring a bike to a park that has bike trails??wtf?

[melew]

I just can't with society anymore. That mom(s) is/are being ridiculous. And if my kid just hopped on someone else's bike without asking and got pissed about having to get off of it, I would be horrified. They know they can't do that and that they also need to wear helmets.

[Kcthepouchh8r]

Mar 3, 2015 18:39:04 GMT -5 andrewsgal said:

This is so odd to me. Maybe I live in Mayberry with Kate but we have never had an issue with sand toys or anything like that at the park.

One time I was at the beach and there were like five sets of kids who all pooled their sand toys together and were all playing nicely. One mom took it upon herself to pull all her toys out of the kids hands (and not when they were leaving which would obviously be necessary) yet her kid was in the mix of these 10 other kids playing with other kids toys. People are crazy.

[lala]

She's weird. Who says that?

Keep bringing what ever you and DS want.

[quesyrah]

Okay I'm glad I'm not out of line. I thought she was crazy until I heard the other moms saying that I shouldn't let my kids being toys they won't share.

Didn't even think of the helmet/safety/liability issue.

[dizzycooks]

I would never let a stranger ride my kids bike and I certainly wouldn't keep my kids bike home because of dumb parents.

[jensriot]

Mar 3, 2015 22:21:42 GMT -5 dizzycooks said:

I would never let a stranger ride my kids bike and I certainly wouldn't keep my kids bike home because of dumb parents.

This. Exactly. And I don't think I'd let my kid just hop on another kid's bike. Who carries around a helmet just in case you borrow a bike? Yeah, me either.

[zbeesma86]

Lord. People are nuts.

Maybe she should take her kid elsewhere to play & hope no one is out riding their bike.

I don't even know how I would act if someone said that to me. Laugh & be like uhhhhhh okie dokie

[expectantsteelerfan]

Agree with all the pp's, bring the bike, don't share it. What's next, can't bring a ball to throw around the park?

Although I will say, one park we used to go to was one of those inclusive parks, so it was all wide ramps (as opposed to stairs), and it had some major trails around it, including one around a lake. So people had bikes there, and kids often road bikes/trikes/scooters ON the playground, plowing other kids down. That I was not ok with and actually said something to parents one time.

Honestly, I would make sure your ds keeps to the paths and not the actual play areas, and when he's not using it, but it somewhere out of the way where other kids aren't likely to just pick it up if possible.