Intro & Dating Site Questions

[finally]

Hi everyone! I know some of you from other boards but I am just venturing onto this site after lurking for a while. 

My story...After just shy of 20 years together, exDH decided to tell me (totally and completely to my surprise) that he wasn't where he wanted to be in life and that it was all my fault.  We split last January and the divorce was finalized in October.  It wasn't easy but now in hindsight, I realize it was all for the best.

I am just now ready to get back into the dating scene but considering I work in an office of 50 people and all but 2 are women (and both men are married) and none of my friends have any good single guys, I am thinking of joining Match or eHarmony.  I am not looking forward to the small talk/getting to know you phase but realize it's a necessity.  Does anyone have any advice or insight? 

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Hello! I'm sorry you're here, but welcome!

So, online dating is a total numbers game. Sometimes you have to wade through some garbage to meet some cool people. But I swear they're on there. Many ladies here have used online dating sites and I know many of us have met really awesome guys. I think the biggest thing I'd say to you is that sometimes your success on a particular site will depend on where you live. For example, when I lived in Lexington, the best way to meet anyone was on plentyoffish. Every other site was deadsville. Where I live now, okcupid and match tend to be better places to meet someone. I met my current partner (of almost two years - eep!) on okc.

When crafting your profile, don't use all close-up selfies. If you can, have a friend take a few pics of you - at least one closer up of your face, and one that includes more of your body. Outdoor photos are great (although I have no idea where you live, and here being outside is a total disaster right now). Include pics of yourself having fun. Be conversational in your profile. Have someone read it over and see if that person agrees that it sounds like you or not.

Um...I feel like I've covered everything that's most important when you're getting started. Good luck!

[onedayatatime]

Welcome - sorry you went through this - but glad you are in a better place!

I don't have any advice - I'm just new to dating myself - but I can see it is a numbers game. There are so many people to wade through!

[bl]

I will echo a lot of what lyssbobiss, Command, B613, Command, B613 said, its a numbers game. You have to go through a lot of not so great people to find the ones that you click with. It is also very dependent on where you live as to which site is best. I would try to find a few other single gals in your area to ask where they have had luck or it will just be trial and error. Okcupid, plenty of fish, and tinder tend to have the most people though, so they are good starting places.