If someone offered you handmedowns

[lilles]

But you didn't want them because when they gave you some before everything was mildewy and / or with tons of stains and holes not even good to donate but you knew they would probably get offended if you turned them down would you say sure and then dispose of it if you couldn't use it or say no thanks.

[charlotteandwilbur]

"Oh thanks so much, but we already have more than DS/DD can wear in that size! Thanks again."

[ECB]

If they don't expect them back, yes, I would take them and just dispose of them.

[lurknomore]

I say sure all the time (not just to kid stuff) and then get rid of it. I'm dealing with this a ton with my mom and my stepdad's stuff right now. She can't bear to get rid of it and wants to see it go to good use. So I just sell or donate. Someday she's going to come to my house and realize it is all gone!

As long as you know they don't want them back, I'd take and just toss the bad immediately.

[Deleted]

Depends--would they expect to see them, etc? If not, I would not care that much about disposing of stuff to keep the peace. But if that's not reasonable, I would tell them no.

[cjeanette]

I would tell them that you had more clothes than you knew what to do with.

[lilles]

Mar 4, 2015 10:53:28 GMT -5 @kcpokergal said:

Depends--would they expect to see them, etc? If not, I would not care that much about disposing of stuff to keep the peace. But if that's not reasonable, I would tell them no.

They wouldn't expect to see it. We see each other just for bdays and holidays (she is a few hours away)

[mannah]

I wouldn't take them unless I planned to use some of them. I would just say "no thanks, I think we are all set for now!" Or something non committal. No need to make work for yourself by taking them and then getting rid of them, and she may find someone else who can use them.

[newgirl412]

I would say something along the lines of "I appreciate the offer but we have a closet full right now....maybe you could pass them along to someone who would put them to better use/need them more".

[gibbinator]

I'd probably decline stating something along the lines of already being swamped in clothes in those sizes.

[Deleted]

I'd also politely decline. Something along the lines of "Thanks so much but we just received a bunch of other clothes recently. Why don't you pass them onto someone else who needs them more as we have more than we'll ever need!"

I wouldn't accept them and make more work for myself.

[mellimel19]

I'd thank her and tell her that I had enough clothes for DD at the moment.

[linz]

Mar 4, 2015 10:51:57 GMT -5 charlotteandwilbur said:

"Oh thanks so much, but we already have more than DS/DD can wear in that size! Thanks again."

This. SIL keeps offering her son's clothes and I just say I bought a bunch on clearance and that my mom bought him a ton (which is mostly true). Her clothes aren't gross but I prefer to buy my own.

[humpforfree]

My SIL keeps handing down to us. She doesn't expect stuff back and I don't really get a chance to refuse. I'm grateful but most of the stuff is just really not my style. I go through each delivery and sort what I will keep and what we won't use and then just donate the rest. I feel bad, but not bad enough to store a bunch of crap, or use stuff I don't like when I have plenty from others that I do.

[Deleted]

Mildew?? Really???

[SJ]

"No thank you!"

[spk926]

"No thank you. We're good on clothes."

[lilles]

Mar 4, 2015 11:25:16 GMT -5 page said:

Mildew?? Really???

Yes, it was nasty!