It took me forever to figure out ltz hair and I still have some trouble with tangles. Thankfully, no crack baby comments. Holy hell would I go off. It would be embarrassing. I get annoyed when people ask if he's mixed (white people never ask; the only people to do so are black. I do not get this...I guess because it's obvious if dh and I are together? Anyway, I digress.... )
It took me forever to figure out ltz hair and I still have some trouble with tangles. Thankfully, no crack baby comments. Holy hell would I go off. It would be embarrassing. I get annoyed when people ask if he's mixed (white people never ask; the only people to do so are black. I do not get this...I guess because it's obvious if dh and I are together? Anyway, I digress.... )
Tef - just tell them he's Cablanasian.
And Jermys - say no. Crack is whack. They are meth babies and then walk the fuck off.
The first time, we were at a wedding in the South at a country club and an older white woman asked, "Is she one of those crack babies? She's awfully skinny!
The second time was recently at the grocery store and it was a black woman about my age. She stopped me to tell me how gorgeous my children are (which was the best part of the whole conversation) and then she started asking questions about adoption. Some highlights included:
Why didn't you adopt white babies?
Do you ever want any of your own? (One of my other hot buttons)
Are they crack babies? (JFC)
Are their moms really young? (Nope, I'm 37)
And my personal favorite, Do you regret adopting them? (Which was met with total WTMFF face.)
Thankfully, Edith was running around like a drunken sailor on shore leave, so she didn't hear any of it.
I answered her questions politely and got the hell out of there.
I have a question though. My mom's good friend adopted a baby and hasn't really even tried to do her hair yet. She's 18 months old. Where they live I'm sure it's a matter of time before randoms in the supermarket start giving her advice or criticizing her because my mom said the little girl's hair is out of control and her friend has a lot of good traits but she is sort of a slob about her own appearance. Is there any wa for my mom to tactfully suggest she learn black hair maintenance?
Rory is freaking amazing and she has a wealth of knowledge. That little girl can't go around with her hair a mess. It's not fair to adopt transracially and not care properly for hair and skin. That's one of my hot-button issues.
Awesome! H and I are thinking of becoming foster parents sometime in the near future. I know is a get an AA child I wouldn't know the first thing. I don't need to further any issues they may already have by making their hair look shitty.
She doesn't even look right with her hair like that.
I know, right? I was thinking the same thing. Would look far cuter in little puffs of pony tails or something Imagine how dried out she made that poor baby's hair? Jeez. Plus the heat, chemicals etc If this mom thinks this is ok, I'm wondering what other potentially dangerous things she will do in the future. I want to rescue that little girl, I'd learn how to do her hair nice without risking a burn or dry damaged hair
Or maybe he really wanted to ask me if that was indeed my baby.
That's what he really wanted to know. This same foolishness happened to my sister. My nephew is biracial and also has red hair like BabyLiu. Some lady asked my sister if that was her son. She was like yes. Why, did you think I was someone's nanny? I dayum near died when she told me about it.
The funny thing though, is that the red hair isn't from my ex-BIL's side of the family. The red hair is straight from my sister's dad. LMAO. You know, because black people can't have different hair colors too. *shakes head*
The first time, we were at a wedding in the South at a country club and an older white woman asked, "Is she one of those crack babies? She's awfully skinny!
The second time was recently at the grocery store and it was a black woman about my age. She stopped me to tell me how gorgeous my children are (which was the best part of the whole conversation) and then she started asking questions about adoption. Some highlights included:
Why didn't you adopt white babies?
Do you ever want any of your own? (One of my other hot buttons)
Are they crack babies? (JFC)
Are their moms really young? (Nope, I'm 37)
And my personal favorite, Do you regret adopting them? (Which was met with total WTMFF face.)
Thankfully, Edith was running around like a drunken sailor on shore leave, so she didn't hear any of it.
I answered her questions politely and got the hell out of there.
ZB didn't have enough hair at 4 months to be able to style it in any way. Poor baby.
At 11+ months, Annika still doesn't. And she's rocking the sine-wave hairline, for which I am awaiting questions so I can tell people I shave her head.
I have a question though. My mom's good friend adopted a baby and hasn't really even tried to do her hair yet. She's 18 months old. Where they live I'm sure it's a matter of time before randoms in the supermarket start giving her advice or criticizing her because my mom said the little girl's hair is out of control and her friend has a lot of good traits but she is sort of a slob about her own appearance. Is there any wa for my mom to tactfully suggest she learn black hair maintenance?
Rory is freaking amazing and she has a wealth of knowledge. That little girl can't go around with her hair a mess. It's not fair to adopt transracially and not care properly for hair and skin. That's one of my hot-button issues.
Thank you! I was going if anyone had a site recommendation for my niece (it's a story that would make your blood boil). Thank you again.
Ah, yes, do you have your own children (um, wtf moron, my son IS my child). You answered better than I would. I always give the WTF face with "Mixed", but will answer and leave. I figure the face is enough, for now, but once he can react on his own/ask what that is, we will have some corrections going on.
The first time, we were at a wedding in the South at a country club and an older white woman asked, "Is she one of those crack babies? She's awfully skinny!
The second time was recently at the grocery store and it was a black woman about my age. She stopped me to tell me how gorgeous my children are (which was the best part of the whole conversation) and then she started asking questions about adoption. Some highlights included:
Why didn't you adopt white babies?
Do you ever want any of your own? (One of my other hot buttons)
Are they crack babies? (JFC)
Are their moms really young? (Nope, I'm 37)
And my personal favorite, Do you regret adopting them? (Which was met with total WTMFF face.)
Thankfully, Edith was running around like a drunken sailor on shore leave, so she didn't hear any of it.
I answered her questions politely and got the hell out of there.
These questions would have gotten a "Bitch, have you lost your MFing mind?" from me. Great job at keeping it civil Jermys.
I think the blogger summed up the POS mom perfectly with "self-hating ignoramus." This mess pisses me off.
The funny thing though, is that the red hair isn't from my ex-BIL's side of the family. The red hair is straight from my sister's dad. LMAO. You know, because black people can't have different hair colors too. *shakes head*
My cousin's little boy is a redhead, both parents are AA. Cousin's ILs have redheads all through their family.
I donÂ’t understand why people are asking you that Tef. I think itÂ’s pretty obvious he is at the very least part Black.
me either. It is only when dh is there. I half expect them to say "is he the father?", Maury style. Or, at least that is best we can figure to keep,a sense of,humor.