I hate when people tell their kids "Do you want some nums-nums or yums-yums?" Ask them if they are hungry or if they want to eat or if they want food.
It irritates me sooooo much.
I had a problem with this when we bought B Mum Mums - loved the biscuits, hated the name. I finally started calling them cookies, then though people would judge that I was feeding my 10 month old cookies.
But I preferred that to saying, "Do you want a Mum Mum?"
I guess if you are using to refer to a food with that actual name it is ok but to use to refer to all food/eating...No.
Someone who's tough and doesn't get taken down easily, someone who has a history of being in fights and winning.
"That Tony was a bruiser, he'd get knocked down and bounce right back up, then he knock em down and they'd never stand up."
I don't see that as endearing. I want DS to grow up to be kind, not get in fights.
LOL. Being a bruiser isn't about getting in to fights; no one wants their kid to get into fights. It's about "take a bruisin' and keep on cruisin'" My kid IS a bruiser. Nothing phases my little wild man. He gets knocked down and gets right back up. He is a bruiser and it's a trait I like.
What I'm saying is that the term "bruiser" also means "fighter." Like the definition says. That's the connotation I interpret when I hear the word. That's why I don't like the term.
I dislike the boobies talk also. My H's best friend is the worst, he sends pics of his kid to us with milk on his face with the caption 'Love those boobies'. ughh, enough already, we get it!
It usually translates to "I love shoving gender norms down my infant's throat!"
Yes. It always seems to be used in a context like this: "Girl moms: Would you put your DD in this truck shirt? My DD really wants it, but isn't it kind of weird for a girl?"
It usually translates to "I love shoving gender norms down my infant's throat!"
Yes. It always seems to be used in a context like this: "Girl moms: Would you put your DD in this truck shirt? My DD really wants it, but isn't it kind of weird for a girl?"
I have used the term "boy mom" before, but mostly because before I had a boy, I guess I had different ideas about what a boy would do and if I just want input from moms who actually have boys. I am a little ^o) that people think its because I am demanding my child conform to certain norms.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Mar 9, 2015 12:05:45 GMT -5
Most of these don't bother me. I self-identify as "crunchy" and have used the term "nursling" and "mama's milk.
What does bug the ever-living shit out of me are non-anatomical words, often cutesy, for genitalia. And, external female genitalia is called vulva, not vagina. They're not interchangeable. Grown folk still get it wrong. I've taught my kids the proper names since they were young toddlers.
I don't like overly cutesy words like "preggo" or "preggers." It sounds so childish and silly. :shudder:
Overuse of the term nanny - if you're going out to eat with your spouse, you're hiring a babysitter, not a nanny. I don't think anyone on here is guilty of that, but I see it IRL. Also the use of "date night sitter." What's wrong with using just babysitter or sitter?
Anyone calling me mom, mommy, momma other than my child.
People who call single moms raising their own children "biomoms" or "birthmoms"- they are moms. If a stepmom doesn't care for the baggage of that term, I don't care if she calls herself a "bonus mom" but don't demote mom in the process.
Also babydancing.
And especially people who have co opted "helicopter parent" for much younger children. You can't helicopter child until they should have some semblance of independence from their parent. It also pisses me off when levied at parents of children with special needs who may need to be parented differently than typically developing children the same age.
As a divorced mother, I hate this term and find it super offensive. If and when ex and his gf get married, she will be my son's step mom. She was his mistress - there is no "bonus" to that. My ds didn't win any prize because she has her in his life. In fact, she imposes crazy rules like only whispering in the house until she gets up at 10 am. So he calls me whispering on Saturday mornings.
Maybe I'd feel different if the potential "bonus mom" in my situation actually had added value to my child's life.
Most of these don't bother me. I self-identify as "crunchy" and have used the term "nursling" and "mama's milk.
What does bug the ever-living shit out of me are non-anatomical words, often cutesy, for genitalia. And, external female genitalia is called vulva, not vagina. They're not interchangeable. Grown folk still get it wrong. I've taught my kids the proper names since they were young toddlers.
I don't like overly cutesy words like "preggo" or "preggers." It sounds so childish and silly. :shudder:
No matter how much I correct her, DD still refers to it all as vagina. Don't judge me, I've tried.
Along the lines of "mama, mommy" as your whole identity, a friend of mine has just recently started calling herself a "baseball mom".
Pic in FB of having a sunburn on her shoulder, "this is the life of a baseball mom!". A whole new board on pintrest for it. How to pack a "baseball mom kit" to bring to games, snack ideas, etc.
Um, your kid is 4 years old and is about 2 weeks into t-ball.
If this is for t-ball, she's in for it when the kid actually has to be at 2 practices a week and 2 games a week. It's insanity I tell you.
Overuse of the term nanny - if you're going out to eat with your spouse, you're hiring a babysitter, not a nanny. I don't think anyone on here is guilty of that, but I see it IRL. Also the use of "date night sitter." What's wrong with using just babysitter or sitter?
I see this both ways. I also see a lot of people saying they nannied when really they babysat occasional weekend nignts. I have a younger relative who keeps referring to this little girl as the girl she nannies for. She has a full time job at an office and babysit this girl once or twice a month. You are not a nanny.
I hate the term mama unless it's coming from my kids mouth. Saying "Take care of yourself, Mama." "Good job, Mama." to women that happen to be mothers is weird.
People who call single moms raising their own children "biomoms" or "birthmoms"- they are moms. If a stepmom doesn't care for the baggage of that term, I don't care if she calls herself a "bonus mom" but don't demote mom in the process.
Similar to this, the term "sperm donor" for father unless you used an actual sperm donor. Especially if the father is an active parent (i.e. has partial custody, pays child support, etc), don't refer to them as a sperm donor just because you divorced.
Only my friends impregnated via sperm donor refer to sperm donors. I've never heard this term used otherwise. I'm going to guess that the asshats who use it more liberally don't actually have any experience with people who've used sperm donors IRL?
Anyone calling me mom, mommy, momma other than my child.
People who call single moms raising their own children "biomoms" or "birthmoms"- they are moms. If a stepmom doesn't care for the baggage of that term, I don't care if she calls herself a "bonus mom" but don't demote mom in the process.
Also babydancing.
And especially people who have co opted "helicopter parent" for much younger children. You can't helicopter child until they should have some semblance of independence from their parent. It also pisses me off when levied at parents of children with special needs who may need to be parented differently than typically developing children the same age.
I can't even think of a reason someone would be called birth mom unless she gave her kid up for adoption. Isn't she just 'mom' otherwise?
. Birth mothers do not "give up" children for adoption. The correct term is that she made an adoption plan.
I can't even think of a reason someone would be called birth mom unless she gave her kid up for adoption. Isn't she just 'mom' otherwise?
. Birth mothers do not "give up" children for adoption. The correct term is that she made an adoption plan.
Thanks for a much better way of expressing this.
TBH, the only person I know whose children is my niece and "give up" describes the convoluted process of having her parental rights terminated. She did "give up" in the most literal sense; she either would not or could not do the tasks required to be reunited with either of her kids. The one thing she didn't have was a plan despite considerable support from family.
I hate that people say "He needs to feed" "She was up twice last night to feed" about nursing babies. Like they're horses or vampires.
I say I'm going to feed DS or I need to feed DS all the time What do you guys say in this case? Nurse? I kind of view it as a shortened version of breastfeed I guess.
I hate that people say "He needs to feed" "She was up twice last night to feed" about nursing babies. Like they're horses or vampires.
I say I'm going to feed DS or I need to feed DS all the time What do you guys say in this case? Nurse? I kind of view it as a shortened version of breastfeed I guess.